Messages By: tiffany_2007

We have all done it, when we have been hurt, cheated on, lied to. We, men and women, talk about the person that has done us wrong. The only difference now is its 2007 and we have the internet to now tell our problems too. What is the different between a ex girlfriend telling everyone at her ex boyfriends work what he did and telling the internet what he did. She just now can wrong so many more women about this man that has done her wrong. Or in some cases females that have done men wrong. I personally will not sit here and throw stones at anyone, we have all done immature and stupid stuff in the past, but now with website’s like dont date him girl.com maybe people both men and women will think twice about how they treat people they claim to care about.

Answer: Anywhere you feel comfortable with.

In the end its what you are willing to do for your child. I have a 7 week old baby boy. I would do anything for him to make him happy and be a succeeful adult. I do think alot of that post pardum depression is caused because to many "experts" are telling you what you should feel and do with your child. You should always be up to hearing people out about what should be done with children but don't be upset cause you cant breast feed, or simply don't want too. Or that your child sleeps with you instead of his own bed. Or you spank when others says its horrible. You should always keep your child healthy, happy and well mannered in my opinion.

My son sleeps with me and will sleep with me until I or himself feels he is ready to sleep in his own room. And I dont let others make me feel bad or guilty for doing that. Nothing wrong in showing your child you are there for them. I also rock him back to sleep in the middle of the night after a feeding, and talk to him while I rock him. My touch and voice makes him comfortable and I think its the least I can do for him, after such great joy he has filled my heart with. Its a little selfish too I enjoy his touch as well, I love him sleeping next to me as I had loved him sleeping in my belly. I miss that closeness as much as he seems too, and sleeping together helps. But co-sleeping has to be agreed with both parents, fathers need to be on board as well, fathers have just as much say in your son or daughter as you do. But don't let others make you feel bad cause your not doing it there way.

I agree with what you are saying, some people doesn't get how serious cheating is. I love my husband with all my heart, but I honestly don't think I could forgive him or ever sleep with him again. I don't understand how some of these women put up with it, not just a mistake one night stand from there husbands, but one affair after another. I look to my husband for support and love, but I know it wouldn't be there if he was banging other chicks every week.

Maybe these men do it cause they know there wives will not do anything to stop it. I'm not just talking about men that like there porn and have 50 porn dvds and every dirty magazine out there, I'm talking about just the cheaters. Cheaters turn my stomach, men cheaters and women cheaters. It shows me that person has such little respect for there mate and themselves to do that. Ladies and gentleman kick the cheaters out there not worth the time, and please don't start a family with a cheater its not going to change them at all.

Have you guys thought about doing steps, like having a toddler bed in her mothers room and getting her first to sleep in that, and then next step move her into her own room. Even a 20 month old can have alot of stress, and having to sleep alone is stress for a 2 year old. Its not like if you dont break her of this now that your sister will always have a daughter that sleeps with her, but if your sister is willing I would try slow steps to not put too much stress. Just my opinion.

Just to let you know I too have a older sister that went through the same thing, this is what she tried and it worked great.

Why not be truthful to the person your about to marry? If you really cant be honest with them then you shouldn't marry them, as you can see its your ex wife not your current first wife. If you have to lie about looking at porn then you must think there is something wrong with it, or knowning your future spouse dislikes it and in turn you lie to them so you can keep doing it behind there back. This is why the divorce rate is so high, people think its okay to lie to the person they claim to love. But really its not love unless you can be truthful to the person your about to marry. And I don't mean you have to sit there and tell that person your whole life story for over time they will learn it. But you should be honest about the current stuff you are doing. Dont try and hide things unless your willing to give those things up after the marriage. That or marry a girl/guy and have them hate you after it when they learn what kind of things your into.

I personally don't think looking at a peep show on the net is cheating. But then I don't even allow my husband to go to strip clubs and I would be annoyed if he spent money on peep shows on the net. But then I have a husband that feels the same, and by the way he knew I how I felt before the marriage and I knew he liked his playboys, which don't bother me at all. So really talk before marriage or you only have yourself to blame.

I think you are jealous of these women in playboy, which there is no need too. Lets face it we don't go blind just cause we fall in love and get married. While you were married you must of seen good looking men, men you might want to be with if you had never meet your husband. That doesn't mean your "perverted". And if you knew anything about men you would know they don't need dirty pictures to masturbate too. You do know men even your ex-husband and future husband will masturbate, its nothing wrong its very normal. Most women even masturbate while they are gettting a decent amount of sex from there husbands/boyfriends. Sure photos and movies can bring on the sexual desire, but if your jealous of those things how about you make some, give your future hubby some nudy photos, or make a sex video so when your not around he can watch it, which will turn him on just as if he was watching a Adam & Eve porno.

So stop being childish about this and grow up, porn didn't ruin your marriage maybe the lack of love and lack of respect was what caused the marriage to end. Just something to chew on.

I don't need to strip for him for that visual outlet lol. But I'm not a chick from the 50s either and gets undressed in the dark so my husband cant see me lol. Watching strippers isn't a need in life, it can be a enjoy meant for some but its not needed, porn isn't needed to be happy in life it can be fun and again enjoyed but its not needed.