Messages By: tiffany_2007

Its nice to see a board that 99% agrees that letting the grandparents back into this little girls life is a big mistake. And from the preview of the show I don't think Dr Phil will advise on letting them see the grandchild, i'm hoping its more of trying to do a wake up call for these grandparents to stop them from trying to see there granddaughter. Personally I think the parents have been very nice in letting them still breath, I'm not sure if I was to have that will power. I would of been like that man that his daughter told him she was being touched by the neighbor (some old guy) and he went over there with a knife and stabbed him to death. I personally don't think my mind could just let it go, but I have been known to not be a very forgiving person when it comes to this topic.

I hope the parents Remember this, they are the parents they control who sees there daughter and who doesn't and they shouldn't feel guilty for telling the grandparents NEVER AGAIN. Even if there is like 1% that disagrees with me so what those people don't matter. Keeping the future (children) safe is whats important.

I think you would agree that having a child being around there mother and grandmother fighting and name calling isn't healthy. Or having to what pick which one you will listen too. As if your grandmother tells you to do something this way but your mother says a different way thats puts pressure on a child to want to please both people they love. Grandparents need to learn how to step back and stop being the parent and controlling. Its okay to offer advice, but to not butt in on actaul raising unless they see harm coming to the child. I agreed with that first woman that said if my MIL wants to act like this then no she cant see my children. Its her kids her rules.

This is a very sad story. I can understand maybe your son as a adult saying "oh come on mom, stop hugging me" I'm personally not a big fan of hugs FOR MYSELF. I have a 11 week old baby. My mother in law came out for the first 2 weeks and she held him and kissed every chance she got and I didn't mind. Babies and children need that touching. I do wonder if your DIL or Son give there child the amount of attention that child seeks, its very sad if they dont. I see nothing wrong with you being a touchy feely person. You cut your hugs down towards your son even if you break the "stupid" rule and give hime a extra hug. God knows parents miss there children, no matter how old they get. I think I would go through the roof if someone told me I couldn't hug my son, when it comes to my son I kiss him and hug him all the time, of course him being only 11 weeks no one better tell me I cant. I'm very sorry for what your son and DIL are putting you through with the grandchild. I think its sad they wouldn't want there grandchild to be spoiled with hugs and kisses. VERY SAD

I don't believe children that young are capable of just lying about sexual abuse, being coached is different the child isn't just making it up on there own. But in this case with this family, who besides the mother or grandmother would coach this little girl into saying this about her uncle, and why. There is always a reason for coaching a child into saying this.

"It might sound VERY weird to some people that I don't want my parents forcing my daughter to pray. I don't like prayer. I don't like my daughter being taught that. If my parents do not stop they'll lose us. You might find that "stupid" but it's MY rule. I'm and adult, I'm done being raised and I certainly need no help raising my daughter."

No I actually do not think that is a stupid rule, for anything that is forced on a child and its not the parents forcing it then its wrong. I didn't say the sons rule for not alot of touching him was stupid. I said the no touching the children was just sad, unless its the children that didn't want to be touched. Most kids I know like to be held and hugged by there parents/grandparents/aunts and Uncles. My no touching rule, that usually applys to everyone but my husband and now my son, I had to put up with hugs and kisses from my niece and nephew cause I atleast felt it would be mean to deny them the affection they wanted from there aunt.

I do agree that anyone should always follow the parents rules. But come on people tend to forget and sometimes rules are broken. I think its just sad to cut connection with family over hugs. Yours however is more religious and you have asked them to not do it. So they have purposly gone behind your back to do this, even though its not your wish. Before you cut them out try to sit them down again, and explain how serious this wish is of yours, maybe they just don't understand.

Yes Jeremy's Case and Steven's Case was being charged with the same thing of molesting a child. But just cause they were being accused of the same thing doesn't mean its the same information for both. I do believe Jeremy did it without a doubt, and I think its said the coursts have yet to do really anything about it, but with Steven there is only the what the grandmother and mother claimed the child said (not sayings its untrue) but with the case with Jeremy they have the little girl on tape saying what happened and you hear no coaching from the mother or grandmother. I wish Dr Phil was harder with Steven like he was with Jeremy, its pissed off that he was so calm about it and acted as if this wasn't a big deal. I personally don't understand how these parents can sit there so relaxed with these pervert's sitting in front of them. Like Dr Phil said on the Dr Phil House "I would of been choking that son of bitch until they pulled me off" I'm with Dr Phil on that, sorry you hurt my child I hurt you. END OF STORY