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March 13, 2008, 4:49 pm PDT
ok my/our story
I might ramble some, but sometimes that's the only way to tell a story is to tell it as it comes out.
Just some fyi- I was a mom at 17 .The man I married adopted corina when she was 2. we were married for 10 yrs.At 14, on mother's day weekend Corina was arrested with some of her friends for drinking in public and spent the weekend in jail. she said she did it so her bff wasn't doing it alone.she was on parole for a month.In her past right around that time i put her into counseling. father's day(1 month before the acusation) corina gave chris a father's day card that was very enduring and in her own hand wrote how he was an important part of our family,she was glad he was in it, and she loved him. she went to her bff's hse for the weekend and a b-day party. she was given rules and broke everyone-hence she was grounded. chris left on a trip very early july 4,2005-later that day she came to me with the acusation.i was frantic and scared, and dumbfounded-and we cried a ton of tears. I didn't confront chris until a day later on the phone. before he came back home i discussed w/corina about going to her bff's house while i sorted things out. somewhere before all of this corina spent about a yr with her biological father and his wife. in that time she accused him of abusing her and all it really was is he had rules, she didn't like them and had to "fix it". my mom and i drove there to "rescue" her and found out the truth. they were very good to her and I'm glad she got to know them. back to the acusation stuff... chris came home after I sent her to her friend's to "be safe" sent my son back to their father(1st hubby) and went on the road with chris and went through the investigation process with him(3 months). dss,the sheriff's dept in all states involved did not believe her due to no proof and all the info.....she went to go live with her dad and stepmom.everytime things didn't go her way she said her dad and stepmom were mean and hateful and whatever else she could come up with. they have 6 kids between the 2 of them and really it was a lot more stable a situation than what I was offering. chris and my son got along well when he wasn't being a typical kid and misbehaving. while corina lived with her dad and step-mom she met ryan and from what she told me her and her stepmother got into a physical fight and her stepmom threated to kick her, her dad, and her brother out if her dad didn't sign papers for corina to get married and get out that way.while my children were living with their dad and step mom they were very angry with me and sent me adoption papers. i was angry and hurt and decided they were old enough to suffer the consequences of their choices(14 and 12). their stepmom did not adopt corina she was married off. my son was not adopted until a yr later before their dad got orders to be stationed overseas. they refused to let me see or talk to my son for over a year. corina snuck calls to me. christmas 07' corina visited my mother and i saw her. we were polite to each other. before the taping of the show in sept07, corina and ryan came to my and chris' house for a visit and spent a week. chris was home for 24 hrs and was never alone with her, yet she came to tell me after he went back out on the road that he was apologizing to her for what he had done and remember he was never alone with her. while chris and i dated before we got married but after this supposedly happened she repeatedly asked to go on trips with him alone(and did not) would ask him questions about boys and sex and would tell him she loved him,go shopping with him, tell me how glad she was that i was finally happy. while she was married to ryan and they were living with his family her moth-in-law taught her how to shoplift and corina was caught for that.no jail time.we offered to put them back in high school , help them get a vehichle(chris' dad was getting ready to purchase one for her when she decided she was going to lve ryan)-she left to go back to ryan. chris gets very defensive because he WAS molested for yrs and knows that pain very well.our neighbors have children in the ages of 7-14 and chris told them about our story and told them he would never be alone with their children and never has. we are friends with our neighbors. I probably should have let their dad (1st hubby) and his wife have custody of the children when they first got married 5 or 6 yrs ago. I have made many poor choices and i know i can't take them back. i may not like their step mom but her household has remained stable.no strangers have my children-corina is still living in the state where she lived with her dad and my son is overseas with his dad and stepmom. it's been almost 2 yrs since i have been allowed to see my son. i have spoken to corina a few times since the show was taped.we are polite. i love my children and always will-even though i believe chris is innocent- i can't stop loving them and won't. i did the best i could and maybe it wasn't what was best, but it was my best.corina left ryan 2 weeks after the show was taped and i'm glad .she is working on getting a divorce. I hear my son is doing very well. this has hurt us on some many levels and not just us but our extended family as well. no male in our family will allow corina to come into their home. too many children are molested and won't talk about it just like women who get raped because of the ones that didn't and try to get innocent people put in jail. I'm human just like all of you-I too have flaws.I contact ed dr phil so i could get to the truth even if it wasn't good.chris' story never changed-hers has many times.you decide. As I said I have rambled but you get the gist of the story. Anyone is welcome to email me at cayenne_cb@yahoo.com. I hope this helps people understand a little better.
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