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March 6, 2007, 4:38 pm PST
I understand it a little better.
Quote From: isabeaurKids will do what parents want because they want their parents' love and approval. They want their parents to be happy, don't want to disappoint them. If a parent let's the kid know how much they want their child to do well at something, most kids will try very hard to succeed at it, even if they don't really want to do it. Of course, behavior frequently changes once they hit the teen years, but even then kids want their parents' approval.
Your post got me to thinking back when my son was in T-ball, coach pitch and baseball. There was a man who was always very hard on his little boy.Always critisizing ,coaching from the sidelines, actually he was our coach at one time. He was a likable fellow except when it came to the way he was always dogging his boy. And you know when that kid got up to bat he was always glancing at his father. They were just little kids and I guess maybe he was trying very hard to please his father. If that's what it means for these actor kids to try and please their parents, if there are situations like that , then I think it's very sad. I'm sure it's not always that way. But,way back then that kid was always dogged by his dad. Our boys were the same age and both involved in recreation sports so we were around them a lot. I don't think the guy really thought that there was anything wrong with what he was doing, because one day at a game he was talking to me and my husband and out of the blue he said "My wife thinks I'm too hard on (his son)" Well neither one of us said anything.There was a bit of a pregnant pause. When he walked away I said to my husband"I wanted to say, now that you mention it you are too hard on him." My husband just smiled and said "No I think we'd be better off just letting it go" Anyway the kid is grown now and didn't turn out to be a star in any sports,but he did turn out alright.
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