Messages By: rosie52

This guy was a class-A egomaniac. It seemed more like he was bragging about his experience, not confessing to it. He wants to help other people, okayexactly how was he doing that? I dont understand that.

As for his young girlfriend; it looks like she is psychologically overpowered by this exhibitionist. Why is a 46 year old man with an 18 year old girl? Because he needs to be with someone who he can emotionally and psychologically mold, like a ball of putty, and she is perfect for him. She is with him because she is young, already has a baby, and probably believes he is as good as she will ever get when it comes to a man. I really hope that beautiful young girl sees this show today and wakes up!!

There are 26,280 hours in the 30 years he says he was doing this. He says he has done this 50,000 times. Which means he did this about once every half hour for the last 30 years minus the 2 years he says he hasn't.    I will have to throw the bull**** flag on this dude. When did he have time to sleep eat etc.....Not even factoring in the time he was in his prison.  Hello!!!!    There is no doubt he has done this countless times but his need to exagerate concerns me just with that fact alone.      Jerry    Celina Ohio

In my opinion, Thomas' real agenda was to convince his girlfriend, hoping that she is naive, that he is cured of his addiction -- not really to help other men. His "performance" was not convincing in any way. During the entire show he stated that he has been cured for 2 years until given written proof that he admitted to an incident 7 months ago. It is ironic that his last incident was 7 months ago and his new relationship began 6 months ago. Thomas' controlling demeanor showed me that he still needs alot of help especially when you do not say what he wants you to say or agree with what he is saying. He has created a fantansy world for himself that only he believes. Dr. Phil I'm sure there is a good reason why you didn't tell him the truth about himself  -- he's in denial -- but I think it would have been helpful to the men out there with a similar problem that are truly seeking help for all of the right reasons.

Hey Thomas:

All the negative comments here are not trying to tell you, or others with your problem, there is no hope.

I think you may have misrepresented yourself on Dr. Phil today, perhaps due to not expecting things could go that way, I would be surprised if it was not the intention of the shows producers.

Dr. Phil did expose the possibility of you not being what you try to portray. You are "out" now, like it or not... but like you said this is good in many ways to help you not re-offend and continue recovery.

I ask you to be compassionate and responsible and allow your youthful girlfriend to go on in life without you. I urge you to find a knowledgable and mature woman who can appreciate your problem for what it is "a sickness" and also help you "control" this problem along your recovery path (please know, it is never completely over). You may have very good control of your problem now but it was clear on Dr. Phil today you have serious issues yet, much deeper. Perhaps not exhibition related... Not that you can't over come them as well... but it is not for a teenage girl to take on sacrificing her youth.

Try to understand... it is possible "god" did not put you through this for some purpose...  but you may have chose this on your own... either way, it is "your" issue, whether you beleive god is the orchestrator or not... and you have the ability to control all from this point forward. Do not blame others for "your" actions... it can be detrimental to your recovery. I don't believe it is healthy for you to pursue a future of being the poster person for recovering exibitionists. I think you may love the attention to your own loss. Although you may have great intentions, it is not going to be received any better than Dr, Phil has... remember although opinionated (as I'm sure you picked up from his response to your words and actions on the show) he is also very compassionate and an experienced proffessional.

Your figures and numbers may also be misrepresented... you had a goal in exposing yourself and you may have been "70% successful in your pursuit" (aside from that being 70% successful in perpetuating your deviant behavior) was likely because of your practice and being able to pick out the victims that would least likely expose your criminal acts and charge you. This certainly does not represent that 70% of women "like" or would act positively to that sort of thing or think it is not a serious assult.

The audience may not have been very understanding on the show but neither will any other audience. You are an agressive and dominant person of which you may not fully recognise as part of the problem... "a confident and strong person is able to let go of control"... and until you are able to humble yourself, I doubt you will be accepted by "any" as "recovered".

Try to let Dr. Phil talk with your girlfriend and her parents without you... let them have time to decide without you controlling or manipulating the outcome... if "you make" the outcome the way you want, you and your girlfriend may be very sorry when later when you see things for what they are.

It is good that with a partner you feel able to control your condition, but unfortunately if you were to revert... your girlfriend would be hurt more than any along with her friends, parents and her whole world would hit the "low" you have already experienced. She is unlikely able to deal well with it at her age or understand after such a laps that it is a sickness. It may be hard for her to see you any longer... under the rubble of fallout from "your" actions

No... you don't have to tell someone you just met your secrets, but it would be right for you to tell them if you felt they may be falling for you... and certainly before being intimate. If you are not comfortable telling them your secret, what are you doing seeking intimacy with them while hiding it. If they cannot accept your deviant past before knowing you intimately it will come back to haunt you as it is now with your girlfriend.

This young immature female, you love, deserves the best the world has to offer (I'm sure you agree) and it is not a father figure she needs but a youthful man to grow with and learn with not from.

I have had a love not 18... but 23, much younger than I, and I had to make the decission to move on. I tried to tell myself I was good for her as she was learning so much and maturing so fast.... but when I reallised she was maturing past her age and was really missing her young life. I hope the person "I" saw on Dr. Phil today (someone who has obviously spent huge time on personal developement and betterment and "in my opinion", done very well so far) sees the sense in what I am saying.

Marrying a young  partner, ignorant in these matters, will not make you a better person.

Your own, not others', forgiveness is what is important ... and not in the proud arrogant way you are presently dispaying. Your posturing is a defense mechanism... let Dr.Phil and his community help you. Good for you to recover to this point though. You have almost reached a normal point that most people are at early in life (think about this Thomas... not exposing oneself and not being tempted to expose oneself is normal ) Paris Hilton and friends excluded. Their exhibitions are distastful at best and criminal as you have learned in less favourable light. Imagine where you would be and may be, if "all the victims you assulted came forward to charge you... many life times in prison??? if the numbers you gave are accurate.. and getting to where you are from the deviant place you were, is an acheivement, although perhaps not appreciated by many.

I watched the show with an open mind and feel you were provoked and you handled it pretty good but may have displayed control issues. You handled yourself well given your history and how hard this must have been... but you're far from ready to present yourself as "recovered" to the general public. Perhaps speaking to groups of recovering sexual deviants would be a more appropreate and receptive audience.

I felt Dr. Phil was hard on you and I am not one to judge his proffessional ability.... but I feel he truely is intent on helping you and your girlfriend find what is best for "both" of you. BUT I hope you agree he is and should be most interested in what is right for her (being how young she is and that she has no history attached to her).

It may be hard for you to consider Thomas, but you really need a mature partner who will not buy everything you're selling... that is the best partner. Now that its out you may be surprised how many mature women can understand and would be open to a relationship.

Taking advantage of this teen is not right and I hope you would be the man "you hope to be" by letting her go (even if she resists)

You're the adult Thomas take responsibility. Let her have a life with a partner that does not have 30 years of very disturding baggage. (baggage that even you, with your knowledge and experience, have struggled hugely with and are new to life without preoccupation with the deviant behavior) Your past could haunt you for the rest of your life, and hers if she stayed with you.