Messages By: yankeegurl

Why r u feeling guilty?   If u prefer white or hspanic men, then that is ur choice unless something happen to u  when u were or if u ever dated a black man. I am dating outside my race. I know that Im not  turning my back on black men.  I was with a black man for 13 years and I see that the relationship wasnt  going any where and I decided to move on and get out of that relationship .  That time in my life, I wasnt looking for a relationship, just  a friend to go out with and have a good time with.  I met this wonderful white man who just swept me off my feet.  It just happen just like that.  He is younger than me and I am having the time of my life.  It  is all about happiness.  We have been together for 8 months now and I havent felt this way in  a long time. Color isnt  an issue when it comes to love.  I never ever thought I would fall in love with a white man and never thought a white man would fall in love with me but it happen. U know what, I am more happy and and to hear a man tell me everyday that he loves me is all I ever wanted.  We r now talking about  marriage!!!!!!   That is a wonderful feeling knowing that this man wants to spend the rest of his life with me. His parents isn too happy about the relationship but they r starting to come around slowly and he didnt allow his parent's influence  and ignorance to break us up.  I know this man loves.   So go with ur heart . u shouldnt feel guilty about anything concerning ur happinees unless there is something that happen. 

I just  turn 40 last month and found myself a wondeful man who is 14 years younger than me and he is a white man.   What I am saying to u is not to limited urself.  Be open to other races and dont let the age bother u.  U might find love with a younger man.  There is nothing  wrong with that.  Date outside ur race too.  Have an open mind about dating. Go for it girl!!!!!!!!  Be happy and have fun!!!!!  I did it and very happy about  my choice I made.  I wont change a thing!!!!!!!

I havent been on this message board since January 2007 and I am happy to say that I am getting marry tomorrow, January 6th 2009 to my fiance.  He is a white man who Ive been with  for the last 2 1/2 years with.  His family now accepts me for who I am now.  They know I was a good woman  for their son and if you read my messages earlier on the message board, his parents did not approve of our relationship.  But after time and patient and knowing that this wasnt a phase for their son,they saw that I love him and care for him.  They saw that he loves me too.  We are happy and ready for the world.  I understand what it is like not having your family understand why you are in a interracial relationship.  My family was fine with our relationship.  It was his parents but now we r pass all that.  We're happy and thats what matters!!!