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Messages By: lifeslikethat
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November 29, 2007, 10:32 pm PST
 These are cases of clear cut child abuse, I don't understand why more people are not monitor by child protective agencies. Like Dr Phil says parent have the onus to raise there kids, not only to be good people, but to live healthily. I hate it when I see an overweight kid, the first thing that pops into my minds, is their future. Do parent not get that, that their subjecting their kids to endless year of ridicule, and ill health, for what, so they don't get into a fight with their kids. To spare them the head ache of an argument. If anything this will help their kids social skills. I'd like to see Dr Phil do a study on the correlation between overweight kids and social skills. OK so the kid eats a lot or likes to eat, at least make them active, take away their TV or play station, and mark my words you will see a difference. We did well not having video games or cable TV when we were growing up. My nephew range from the ages 11-6 and still don't have this luxuries, mainly because there behavior doesn't permit such a luxuries. yet they eat a lot, one is slightly overweight, but nothing to be concerned about (yet). People shouldn't blame our fast paced society. Will it kill people to cook 5-6 nights a week and use those other days as treats. Where are the boundaries. These parent are also telling their kid, look you can have what you want when you want. What are the kids learning, that I'll never have to work hard for what I want, when they get out into the real world, they will be all messed up not only psychology and emotionally, but they will lack copping mechanisms skills, because everything has been handed down to them. It time parent stopped mollycoddling their kids, and got real. Having strict discipline will not harm a child if anything will give them boundaries, I wasn't even allowed to go to the movie with friends until after I finished high school, but I'm no worse for it. I get that my parent were looking out for their kids safety, shouldn't that be the parent number priority. In the end it's not about over feeding their kids, it's the lack of parenting skills. Dr Phil should instruct these parent to read his books at the very least, or go out and get some parenting skills. |
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November 29, 2007, 11:11 pm PST
Quote From: angelfire81 She is absolutely right about breastfeeding - she knows her stuff. Breastfed babies will not overeat - however, generally formula fed babies don't overeat either. Its the baby, not the food, to some extent. As adults, and even older kids, we eat when we're bored and for tons of other reasons besides hunger. and when we taste something really good we eat a lot of it. Babies are not like this - they eat till they're full and they stop. Every time. They don't overfeed themselves and they won't eat more than they need.
As for how often that breastfed baby ate, there's a reason for that, too. Breastmilk is much easier digested. Only takes a baby about 2 hours or less to digest it and have an empty tummy again, whereas formula takes at least 4 hours! So breastfed babies eat smaller meals, more often. Sound familiar? Its what the experts recommend for diabetics and anyone who wants to lose weight: Eating frequent smaller meals. Breastmilk is THE perfect food for babies - and it changes as babies change. It will always be exactly what they need. And, there is only so much present at each feeding- so just b/c a baby is sucking doesn't mean he's eating the whole time. My son nursed every half hour for his first 4 months. Much of the time I was just a binkie. He wouldn't accept substitutes.
But the original poster was correct: if every baby were breastfed, obesity rates would likely go down. Study after study has been down showing a link between breastmilk and healthier children in every way, mind and body. Formula has to be there for those instances when breastfeeding just isn't possible - but most people choose it these days b/c they think its more convenient (its totally not!) or b/c they have such a highly sexualized image of the breast they can't fathom using it for its intended first purpose: nursing a baby. Why are people so ignorant, of course breast feed babies can overeat. "But the original poster was correct: if every baby were breastfed, obesity rates would likely go down. Study after study has been done showing a link between breast milk and healthier children in every way, mind and body." You seriously shouldn't take what the media or a poster says about breast feeding. Remember the havoc the media cause when they said the HRT had increase risk of 26% of developing breast cancer, when in fact the increase was only 0.08%. Such agency, as the one who made the poster, are out their promoting their own agenda not the full truth. I breast feed my son, he has epilepsy, ADHD and developmental delay. I don't care what studies say, breast feed babies are not best babies. After 6 months of breast feeding is their a point in breast feeding, beyond 1 year, it becomes an attachment problem, and in the first 6 months of breast feeding it aid in immunity but after that, the child's immune system has to kick in. It's a mothers choice to breast feed, mothers should not be guilted into breast feeding. IF they bottle feed then it should be done with a routine not whenever the baby is hungry. I've seen mothers wack out there breast whenever there baby is hungry, majority of the time that when their feed. It not about which is best, breast or bottle its about routine and baby will learn early, given the opportunity, how to control their mum. So dont be blaming the lack of breast feeding for the increase in obesity, its how a child is nutured that makes them obese, excluding genetics. |
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November 29, 2007, 11:25 pm PST
Quote From: nursepeteb Child Abuse?! Does everyone believe that when an obese adult becomes a parent they become a child abuser? I have been struggling with my weight my entire life. Poor self esteem and all. I figure, I will die trying! Unfortunately I have two daughters who seem destined to follow in my footsteps. It breaks my heart!
But, if I haven't been able to help myself. How can I help them? I teach them how to make good choices but my example is poor.
Most parents don't wait to perfect themselves prior to becoming parents. Unfortunately, when your problem is a food addiction, everyone else can see it. And judge you for it.
Maybe people should offer encouragement, instead of crying--Child Abuse. I'm over weight, my son isn't his 8, has a type of dwarfism and is 23kg, about 40 pounds i guess, for a normal healthy heighten child this would be in low normal. He doesn't have a 100% healthy diet, its so bad i get critised for it a lot, but his active and he doesn't lack any mineral or vitamins, and his iron is fine. I had to do an invertebrate collection for uni, and took him and his cousin along, and they loved it, finding insects was exciting for them, and when they eventually got bored weeks later, I bribed them, 1 hour on the comp for each interesting insect they caught, and it worked, I lost a few kilo's they had fun and kept active. We even went to the beach and collected some interesting invertebrates. So much so I'm going to start my own private collection and even my 3 year old niece want to become and entomologist. It's not just about what you eat, its also about what your doing to keep active. I'm not prefect, far from it, yeah parent are to blame for their children weight, unless thier is an underlying medical condition. But there is a way out of bad cycles. Get the kids a dog, and make them take him for a walk they wont know their exercising. Doing stuff like that helps. |
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