Messages By: kymmomof6

I am distressed for the children. I have 6 of my own, 4 boys and 2 girls. They range in age from 20 to 1. Until age 18ish it is a parent problem. When my 2 and a half year old wants to paint his nails because he sees me painting his sisters, we say no because you are a boy and boys don't do that. Of course there are times he will play with his sister when she's playing with her barbies but we always reinforce that he is different from her. All my boys were given boy toys. Dressed in blue,boy clothes. Etc. My husband says, that we as parents condition our kids to like certain things. For instance, our first girl brought pink into a once blue house. Fluffy, frilly pink. Everything was pink. And bows everywhere. Now she's old enough to choose for herself and she chooses exactly what we used to pick for her. I'm the parent and it's up to me to protect my child, not give them whatever they want. Just because it looks good or they think it'll feel good doesn't mean it will. Somtimes the right thing and the hardest thing are the same thing. No one wants to see their child hurt but the long term damage this will do. If they grow up and decide on their own, but if not they look back and say where were you as my parent?? I believe a childs mind isn't capable of making such important decisions, otherwise why do they need a parent to care for them? And as a Christian, Our God is perfect, never making a mistake. The thief somes to steal, kill and destroy and that's exactly what he's doing.