Messages By: learningbreeze

Short and simple.  What we have here is screwed up and very selfish thinking.  Here’s why:  If you like the rolls on your wife Clayton, envision what she will look like after a triple heart bi-pass, after one of her limbs is amputated due to diabetes, or better yet, how her beauty and lust for life is stripped from her face as she lay in a coffin.  Your wife fears losing weight because she might lose her marriage?  Sounds like you two have built the perfect codependent relationship that enables Cheryl to stay fat.  That said, I am happy that you are turned on by your wife.  She deserves to be loved unconditionally.  But do not love her to DEATH!  Help her extend her life and avoid a myriad of health complications by loving her unselfishly.  And a note to you Paul. …. hope you grow up someday and become a human being.  Making fun of people, especially those less fortunate and who need help, makes you less of a man.  Personally, I chose to run from my problems and hide from life and in turn allowed an eating disorder to steal precious time. I am turning my life around by applying a 180 degree mindset change ... and NO EXCUSES.  By disabling weakness and not enabling it, anyone can turn their life around. 

I agree that Lorna will have to make the ultimate decision to help herself.  that said, she will need ongoing emotional and instructional help.  Obese people are prone to lowering calories too severely, assuming this will bring quicker progress.  Lorna's current body weight dictates that she maintain a specific caloric intake to prevent her body from going into a starvation mode, which would lower her metabolism and make it that much harder to lose weight.  In addition, whatever physical activity, if any at this point, is implemented, will need to be done with care.  Those are just a couple concerns.  

Weight loss is completely achievable.  I highly recommend that it be done naturally and by non-surgical measures.   In addition, to prevent reoccurrence and to ensure a supportive environment in which to lose, core emotional issues need to be dealt with, which I'm sure Dr. Phil will address

Lorna  -  There is no option other than to lose weight and to put an end to the suffering you are experiencing.   If you do not, you will develop an array of health problems and cut your life short.  It is that simple.  People that love you will lose you.  They and YOU deserve so much more!Trust me, you can do this, one small step at a time.  Above all and please remember this...     Never, never, at any time, give up!