Messages By: penny_lady

Quote From: ceildh1

I added insult to injury, and pointed as well, I ws 15 as well, and it ws actually by a schoolmate.

In his case, there was the whole "boys wil be boys" thing ( keeping in mind this was over twenty years ago ).  In his case it escalated, imagine my shock when I saw him on the news being taken to court for the rape of his 15 year old step daughter.

It may seem funny at the time, but these guys NEED serious help, if your teenaged son is or has done this, he NEEDS help now, these men do escalate into the most srious crimes and many do eventually sexually assault women.

On the previews this man has already said he makes no apologies, hopefully when his Girlfriend sees this, and that there is no remorse, she won't walk she'll run like hell to the nearest exit, she CANNOT fix him.

After all this time, why can't we as women figure this out ?

Quote From: taramichelle

apparently ou have a pretty boring life to sit around and talk crap about everyone else. or maybe you are in the same boat and are just in denial. trust me i got the help that i need and it happens to be better than any help you could ever provide. i dont need you making thing worse in my life dont you think it is bad enough.  Maybe just maybe you should go see dr. phil. you dont even know if we fight in front of her or how often we do if it does happen you are just going off what you see on the first episode.

Quote From: momisme2

How could any post possibly make things worse in your life?   Only way I can think is if your husband reads them and then takes his anger out on you.  Even if that were the case,(not saying it is but its the ony thing I can think of as far as "making things worse in your life") that isnt any posters fault.  Its your husbands and your fault.

If you dont like reading the messages then log off.  Blaming some random post for making things worse in your life is just incredibly sad.  I dont know if youre aware, but it come off as justficiations, denials, and a whole bunch of bull crap excuse making. 

As far as people going by what they see in the first episode, well, it doesent take a shrink to see the dynamics!    Your husband acted like a freak!  Swearing, cursing, having some major hissy fit temper tantrum.  Tried to bully everyone!  Dr. Phil included!  All because he didnt want to clean up a mess???  If thats how he acts over a messy house then its truley scary to think of how he would acts with other stuff. 

And what was YOUR response to such innapropriate behavior?  You RAN AFTER HIM!  Are you going to sit there and say you didnt know EXACTLY how THAT would turn out?  You knew!  You knew,  just as you knew his what his response to that mess would be.    You knew, beyond any doubts, that what you were gonna get by running after him was a whole bunch of yelling and screaming and blaming you for his crap.  Yet, you STILL ran after him. 

Please, spare everyone your victim stance and take responsibility.  Blaming a POSTER on a MESSAGE BOARD for making things worse in your life is a big truck load of smelly horse s***!   Give us all a break!

 

Quote From: momisme2

Im surprised to read Tara posting defending Scotts behavior.  Doesent bode well for how things turned out for them.  

Scott, on the other hand, is acting just as I expected after watching his temper tantrum yesterday.  Still "questioning" the reason for the excercise.  LMAO!  Dude, you dont CARE what the reason was!  Are you so dense that you dont understand there are millions of people who can see right through you?   At this point, after your appaling display on national tv, you are far better off to just shut up and suck it up.   No one (besides your wife perhaps) is going to fall for your poor woe is me act after watching you act like some crazed loon over a messy house. 

I dont know how that guy isnt embarrassed beyond belief.  Didnt he see himself on tv?  He acted like a teenage girl having a hissy fit over her mother telling her to clean up her room.  "I dont WANT to!  Its not FAIR!   WAH!"      *rolling eyes*    He is the epitomy of what my girlfriends and I call a "babyman".  

That he has a woman who is willing to work through his happy crappy...well... he has NO idea how lucky he is on that!   Personally, I hope she leaves his sorry babyman butt and finds a REAL man.  Reading her posts, seems that wont happen.

 Call me a bitch, but I dont feel sorry for her.  She puts up with nonsense, defends that nonsense, RUNS AFTER HIM(omg! that just takes the cake!)seems to me,  thats the way she wants it. 

Quote From: gwarrior6

You have to give her credit for getting the help.  If she was yelling at her husband in front of her daughter and NOT getting help, that would be one thing.  But she's trying to improve the situation-at least that's progress.  No parent is perfect, but she's going on national tv and saying "I'm a bad parent".  That's got to be hard-and hard for her husband to be the bad guy to get help.

 

I do agree that if you do choose to go on national tv, you are putting yourself out there for criticism.  You have to know that some people aren't going to like you or agree with everything you say- big deal.  Who cares?  None of us are in her life, so i don't see how it matters.

Quote From: taramichelle

hey thanks for your consideration. i really appreciate it. I guess you are one of the more mature ones. Look i am not sticking up for scott behavior... You know no one has even thought about this...if he is so bad then why is he there...he did not have to go i am the one that signed up for this. He thought he would give it a try. they did not tell us before we went that we were going to have to do the exercises or maybe scott would not have gone. all i am saying is that apparently he knew he had a problem or he would not have been there to begin with. I think the world would be much better if everyone would notice a few positives to go with the negatives, maybe the world would not be so hateful...anyway thank you very much..and about the national tv thing well i dont think you can just call up the best realationship counselor in the world and set up and appointment...you have to go on tv to air this business and besides that is negagive thinking again becuase scott and i putting that out there is helpin others with the same problems. so say what you want but truth be known their life must be pretty bad if all they have to do is be negative toward people they dont even know.

Quote From: taramichelle

hey thanks for your consideration. i really appreciate it. I guess you are one of the more mature ones. Look i am not sticking up for scott behavior... You know no one has even thought about this...if he is so bad then why is he there...he did not have to go i am the one that signed up for this. He thought he would give it a try. they did not tell us before we went that we were going to have to do the exercises or maybe scott would not have gone. all i am saying is that apparently he knew he had a problem or he would not have been there to begin with. I think the world would be much better if everyone would notice a few positives to go with the negatives, maybe the world would not be so hateful...anyway thank you very much..and about the national tv thing well i dont think you can just call up the best realationship counselor in the world and set up and appointment...you have to go on tv to air this business and besides that is negagive thinking again becuase scott and i putting that out there is helpin others with the same problems. so say what you want but truth be known their life must be pretty bad if all they have to do is be negative toward people they dont even know.

Quote From: taramichelle

hey you are alot like me you always have to have the last word!! Dr.phil will talk about that in a later episode. you should tune in