Quote From: shymeeLostinlla,
Thanks for replieing to my question on normal or not it's good to know that I"m not the only one.
About your situation, I seriously think that him telling you that he likes to put lingerie on is a cover up. I really think that he has purchased this for someone. To find out if he really bought it for what he says have him wear it one night. If he actually does and you see that he gets turned on by it well then, you know everyone has different fantasies and this just happens to be his. But if this is the case, Do you think he might later on want to try to be w/a man?
Last night I saw a show on TLC called my unique family and the man after 20 something years of being married had the guts to tell his wife that he wanted to be a woman. He's actually going thru the transition and everything. This all started one halloween when he dressed up like a woman, when he finally admited to his wife.
Well, all I can say is good luck and the only person that can tell you whats going on is him. So, try not to make him feel uncomfortable when he tells you these things and go along w/ the ride to actually find out whats wrong or not?
Shymee
My husband likes to dress up sometimes as well. I, however, have no issue with it. I think it is great that he has such feelings and shares them with me...I am proud that we can come together on this. We talked about it early on in our relationship and it is fun for us- just another item on the "menu". If anything, I encourage it! This is why:
I understand from other males that I know that they generally do NOT feel they can share desires like this with their wives or significant others...they hide it because they are truly terrified of being judged as being "less" of a male. I wonder how many wives are like me and actually get a kick out of it? I am not intimidated by it, nor do I think he wants to be a woman (Honestly, that doesn't bother me either- we are a great pair, regardless of details...). My husband is a "manly" man, with a manly job and a manly demeanor...but he does appreciate pretty things. Gosh...this is bad? With all those raised-since-children to be cheap beer-guzzling, woman-haters out there, this is a problem? I would much rather be with a man who can communicate what makes him feel sexy and can appreciate the feel of satin or hosiery against his skin than one of those creeps!
I DO think that he feels really sexy when he dresses up- rather like I do- and there is certainly nothing wrong with that! Why should women be the only ones allowed to wear soft, shiny, sexy things? Why is it that women can now expand their wardrobes and borrow from "male" things, but people rush to think men are strange if they wish to do the same??? I think it makes him MORE truly human and if this means he is "less" of a man, then GOOD!
Maybe your hubby did buy these things for someone else, but the only way you will find out is to communicate with him- reach deep and decide whether this is something you can live with. If it is, then tell him that! And then have some fun with it! Our personal lives are our own and, if noone is hurt by what things are on the "menu", then why not? Go shopping!!!!
If you can't live with it, then you need to figure out why this bothers you so much and what it's worth to you to remove it from your life. Something this important in a relationship deserves a LOT of thought.
