Messages By: shar_shar

I watched the show and I was so angry to the point where I wanted to jump throught the TV and slap the "you know what" out of him.  He was so careless about the whole situation.  He just kept telling her to "get over it, it was 2 years ago."  How can she get over her sister messing with her husband let alone having something to do with tearing them apart. 

I wouldnt of let her move in, in the first place.  Regardless, she should of stayed with their mother or someone else.  Being that I am about to get married, this sure teaches me not to let people stay witth me and my husband when we get married.

I sure learned from this show what pitfalls of marriage to avoid!! Thanks Dr. Phil!!

It was very disturbing to see that guy having a panic attack just because he wasnt able to keep tabs on his wife backstage.  I guess that being the first time he couldnt listen to her conversations, put a gps device on her to track her down, or watch her through a hidden camera it drove him nuts. This man actually showed his true weakness today on the show. Thats really sad.  Really when a person is that way, no matter how strong they try to appear or intimidate others their weak side always comes out.  THIS MAN WAS ACTUALLY CRYING LIKE A CHILD!!! This is really disturbing may I say again.  I was scared for Jennifer myself when he went fool like that backstage.  He made hisself look like a 2 year old crying.  He reminds me of a little toddler crying and going crazy when their mom leaves them with the babysitter when they go to work and the child cries because the mom is not in his or her presence.

I am so sorry to break it to you like this jeffrey but if jennifer is going to leave you cant hold her down and make her stay.  If someone wants to go let them go, I know its going to be hard.  I know its easier said than done.  But the more you learn that you are not in control and you surrender the need to be in control then you will be a better person.  But, But first you are going to have to want to change,  when I saw you closing your eyes when Dr phil was asking you if you was going to take the therapy into consideration, I wanted to jump on that stage and whoop you behind myself.  You cant get these therapists to agree with everything you say or condone your behavior. Their job is to help you and give you some advice on how to better yourself and your behavior.  Dont you every pull that stunt you pulled back stage again making people think you are dying just because you cant watch your wife or be in the same room as her because you are afraid she will cheat on you.

You know you cant stop someone from doing something they want to do.  If they are going to do then they are.  Dont try to hold them captive or kill them or hurt them in any kind of way thinking they will stop.  Thats just going to push her further away from you.  Do everyone a favor and get help for yourself.  Just dont do it to make her take you back and put a front for a while then go back to the way you were.  Please be for real about this.  Get help for you and your family.  The obsession must stop or you will destroy yourself more and more.  My prayers go out to you all.

The show was nice but he made those women feel like crap.  That was dissrespectful how he put them out there like that and these women were fool enough to let these jerks put them on blast like that.  That  man is might stupid to say he is a doctor.  Dont think because you are a doctor that you have the solution to why some women are 30, 40 and over 25 and single.  It just isnt the right time for them yet.  They have to work on themselves.  That doesnt mean you have to make them feel stupid. No one is perfect. All women have their flaws.  I hate when a guy is being a pain in the a** because of every little thing a girl does that he doesnt like.  We are not perfect. If you cant love them for who they are then you need to be alone and not making them feel bad about themselves to make yourelf feel better!!  No wonder you are single!!  These women probably will be married before you do.  They sure wont be married taking your advice trying to be "perfect" for someone who isnt even worthy of them.  For the women on the show, dont change who you are to make someone else happy, change for yourself to make your lives better.

Gossip when its usually not true can ruin a person's character, their life, make them lose their job and everything they owned.  It can also tear families and marriages apart.  Gossip cost my aunt her marriage.  People used to lie on her and tell her husband all kind of things about her cheating and running around with different men when it wasnt even true.  My aunt was always a tomboy she always hung out with guys growing up even though she had a few female friends.    She was the only girl until my other two aunts came along out of all her brothers which are my uncles and including my dad.  People need to stop spreading lies. It doesnt make things better.  Why would people waste their time destroying other people's lives to make themselves feel better?  I guess its because their life is already miserable and they want other people's lives to be miserable as theirs.  Its true what they say misery loves company.

My parents were overprotective of me when I was growing up.  My mother passed away when I was 17 so I had some freedom after that because of the hours my dad works being a cop.  It hurt me when she passed way but she wasnt as bad as my dad.  She was a christian woman and believed in the christian ways which were strict. My dad is the same too.  They did teach me how to be independent by teaching me how to wash clothes, drive, cook, etc.  But when it came to going out with friends and dating thats where the issues came in.  I didnt have a lot of company coming up because of everyone knowing how my dad was and still is. All I can say to these hovering and overprotective parents, it will cause you nothing but heartache in the end.  Most kids turn against parents like that.  I just heard recently a couple I know from my area has a restraining order against the wife's father. And to my surprise the wife was the one who got the restratining order against her father behind the same things these mothers are doing.  The father is a cop just like my dad and while his daughters husband was looking for a job he would call the people and tell them not to hire him.  See where I am from most people get hired based on that you know "networking"system where its not about what you know its about who you know. Being that he knew these people, he used that against his son in law.  He did that on the fact that he didnt like him because he doesnt have what he has concerning materialistic things or more established as he is.  That father has to understand that the guy is younger than he is and he has yet to accomplish that.  He tried everything to tear them apart but it only brought them closer. The daughter got on her father about it and he still went on. 

What people fail to realize is that it does not help your child for you to be that way.  Thats what had me that way I was in college. I was making the grades and all and didnt have as much problems.  But i went through a lot of issues because of that and got myself in situations I dont regret because I learned from them and I didnt get myself inthe situation too deep because I knew better.  Thank God my parents let me go almost 3 hours away from home to college. As compared to these other kids I had a little better than them, My parents taught me how to be independent and to work so I wouldnt have to put up with a man's bull crap to keep money in my pocket if he chooses to act up. and think that I cant make it without him. 

Well my parents training me has paid off well cause now I have a 4 month old son who is going on 5 months.  He is doing well.  My parents have prepared me for the world but they didnt let me do everything on my own.  But I did do some things on my own which I am grateful for but just the being overprotective part and picking and choosing for me is what I didnt like .  Now I am with my child's father who I have been with for which will be 3 years next month.  He treats me well. He doesnt have a degree but he did go to college so he does has some college experience even though he didnt finish.  We do have a 15 year age difference which is another story.  But we get along well.  My dad was somewhat against that at first then he starting seeing what I was saying that not all older men are controlling just most of them are but not the one I am with.  Me and my son's father will be married soon and we planned the wedding before I got pregnant so I am not marrying to get out of my parents house. I been out my parent's house before for college and yes it was for getting away from home but it was to also learn how to be an adult and survive on my own and I did just that.