Messages By: ellenvonk

Hello!

 I was always convinced I was the black sheep. At family gatherings I was always the quit one, the loner. Recently I found out they all thought I was the smart one, the confident one. I grew up in a family with a very tight financial situation, I never went on holidays with my parents, I never got expensive birthday presents like the other kids around me.

 But, I am happy about that. I now know a lot of people who are so restless. They don't see the beauty of life, people. I love to look at the sky at night, I make my own music whenever I can. I used to have fun just looking at trees, they are so beautiful. I don't need a whole forest in the back of my garden.

 I now think I am the White sheep of the family. I would rather enjoy the little things in life than worrying about being something I will never be.

I hope I am making sense, I am Dutch and I have not written English for a while now...

I can understand that it is hard. I am not a mother, but I am a twenty year old girl who had some friends who chatted people up on the internet. And believe me, it is not safe. The thiong is, young people love to talk about the things they don't like to people they don't know. The whole idea is that the people you are talking about will never read it. I am not saying that what she did was right, not at all. But for the 'bad person' on the internet... The only thing you can do is raise your daughter the best way you can. If you worry about her, talk to her and do not let her send you away. A friend of mine went on a date when she was 16 with someone she did not know, and she still regrets it.

 But about you making a fake profile... That never works. Two years I had a boyfriend who I really loved and because I made a fake identity to find out what he was doing ( I had the feeling he was cheating on me) I found out a lot of things I did not want to know about him. It totally broke my heart. So I would advice people not to make fake accounts... Honesty is the way to go. Just ask, respect the other person. Everyone does things they regret later. You should base your relationship with her on honesty. But, of course this is just my opinion...