Messages By: ibroyalpain

Brandon you think you can fool any one. You make things up as you go along and think that Dr. Phil is not going to catch on to you . he has had many people on their prior to your appearence and he always finds you out. I think you only say what you think is safe and you knew perfectly well that their was a restaining order and yet you worked is some how in your way to get back with your wife and say you are not the same person. They say a leopard can not change it spots well I do not think you can change yours. You evaded some of Dr. Phils questions, tried to pin the conversation over on toyour wifes firend instead of dealing with what was asked of you . You think that is something that can fool others by doing that. You know in your attitude that you have shown you are not in any counciling as a man who wants to be back with a person you have abused you would say anything and do anything to get back in their favor but the fact is that in less time you will be back to what you were doing before. I do not believe that you only had one affair as you want to make believe when there is obviously more than that. Do you really want to do the right thing? get real, be honest, tell the truth.

 

To Your wife Amy.. A leopard does not change its spots. If he has done the things that was spoken of it is not something you should be a part of but also let your kids be subject to. if he can puch holes in your walls  what is going to stop him from doing that to you . Remember you were so worried about your life to get that restraining order so to protect you because you believed you were in danger. nothing has changed in that area as he still says the things on the tape he did with Dr. Phils show. I came from a family where the viloence by the parents was so bad that we ( the children) are left in fear of what will happen to us and to our parents when they see this abuse. Amy be brave and stand up against him. I think he is controlling you and trying toget you to do what he wants as he wants every one to believe that he really has changed but you have to take a long look before leaping again into something with him as you have been through all this in 8 years I belive . You can not over come all that destruction with hopping into bed with him. That is something that you should never have done. Brandon is only thinking of himself and as you see on stage talking to Dr. Phil he has not changed and I hope you are having your eyes opened. I know in your heart of hearts you want the children to have their father in their life but it is not worth that when you have to live in fear of losing yours. But on top of all that  the chance that his violent behavoir will stop with the walls he could take it out on the children. What will you do then if he hits one of the children in his anger? If you have a little girl in the midst of your children  , just think of this, if he could do such things to friends , sleep with a nanny, then he could very well do the same thing to your daughter when she is just old enough to start to develope. Look  at the big picture. he is not the right guy for you  I do not think a peron you hire as a nanny would have put the moves on your husband when she knew you were close by. Think of the children and what it is doing to them.I hope you take all that Dr.Phil tells you to heart!

There are many issues here that need to be addressed. Children are not being taught properly by their parents in the home about their behaviour or how they act toward others. The boys who placed the hangmans noose on the tree did show a form of racisim. There is no way that should have been allowed but I do have to say that the boys who beat the one boy was wrong. It should have been taken before the proper authorities for something to be done about the problem. I also want to state here too that what is normal is considered abnormal and abnormal behavior is considered normal as I have seen this in the short time my children attended public school. I feel that the beating that was given to the young man was not right and that as they say make the punishment fit the crime. There should be no secrets to how each side was punished for the wrong doings. The boys who hung the ropes should have been made an example of to the school that this sort of thing is not tolerated.The young man who was beaten up if he did use racial slurs and say things that are in appropriate should be given a punishment to fit his part in this but also that this should not be done in secret. I wonder how badly he was beaten if he was out playing with his friends after this occured then it was not as bad as it was made out to be. I think we are parents some times make things out worse then they are but in all aspects of the case if you were out playing, running around with your friends any where within a few hours of being out of the hospital then you were not as badly beaten as you said you were. It seems to me that you should have been in bed at home under watchful eyes if it were that bad. The Jena 6 boys did beat some one up and I believe that it should have been assualt charged and they should have been charged as minors as they are not adults. I do not believe that they should be holding that one boy in prison without bail or charges as that is unjust for our legal system to be doing. Where is the fairness in the law? As for this Al Sharpton is just a political opportunist who came to fame over the faked Twanna Brawly incident. Those of us that have been seen this man go on and on about this and then to have it come out that it was all fake and he became a figure for standing up for rights. He does not speak for me or my family. I think where ever he goes he does cause more problems than good. And yes there is predjudice in the south in some places where they do say and treat people the wrong way.I lived have my life in Florida and the other half up north. I have had things said about being from the north and other such comments. This is where we have to over come our predjudices and show we are all people. To me there is no difference in skin color, hair color, or nationality as we all need to know that we are all a part of the HUMAN RACE. Richard Barrett -- DO NOT SPEAK FOR ME!! You do not represent the main stream of Americans. We are not going to let some one who thinks that they are speaking for all of us to be right. God made all the people of this world, we are all created equal in Gods eyes. You are very racisit and you preach racisim. I hope you will come to know how wrong you are and that you will stop in your anti race actions.

It is so unfair that in our society today that we have issues that hurt the children like they do. We are a society with loose moral values with people who believe it is okay to put the blame on some one else. I have several things I want to say here..

 

To the mother of this young daughter.. Shame on you . It is horrible on what you had done to  your daughter as well as to Enrique who you were married to. You lied to both of them by first not being truthful to your husband and then not being truthful to your child when you knew you were pregnant and how important it is to know who her real father is as well as keeping the real father away from his own child. Did you ever consider how much you have hurt your daughter on this issue. To have been married and cheat on your spouse is not right in God's Eyes. You need to do the right thing and go after the real father and let your ex have a relationship with the daughter BUT put the financial responsibility on to the right person. Why did you not go after the real father for the money?You really  need to rethink your stand for as a person of real faith  you would do the right thing and not continue on the path of a lie to obtain money from the wrong father.

 

To Enrique..I disagree with the way you have told this loving child she was not your biological child. It causes emotional issues with the child and trust is something that will come hard for this child. My feelings are saddness are with you that you have just found out you were not the father and to be held responsible. Do not with hold the love from this young gal as she has only known you but one thing you can do for her is to help her find her real biological father.

 

About the law for child support.. I believe that there should be a law placed in our court system for protection of child support. I have seen way to many talk shows where they do nothing but paternity tests to find out that more than not the father being tested was not the father and that there were others to be tested. I think that it should be placed that at the time that the Father finds out that the child is not the biological parent through a DNA test whether it be 1 year up to 20 years that it is at that time the father who is being forced to pay the support should stop and the real father to be found. This is a sad society we live in where a woman can hold any male resposible as the father of their child knowing that they were not a faithful person to the man they are with at the moment. This is a blemish on our society where one can lie and make someone pay for something that is not their doing. I am tired of hearing that stupid saying " It takes a village to raise a child" it takes a parent who had the child to raise them with the proper values and morals. They should be guiding them in the right things to do and also to take resposibility for their wrong doing. Go after the real father of a child and not just finger point some one because they are there.

 

This has not happened to me our family yet but there is one of the children of our mother who will do such a thing.She has said things about how she can't wait for her to die, how she will have the body dug up so she can make sure she is dead, and has even said things similar to that. In the past this older sister has shown herself to be selfish in nature as everything is hers. I have tried to in many  words let mom know that I want left out of her will, leave most of it to Rusty who is legally blind and has bad healt h problems but I for see the older one selling the home out from under him and taking the money. Shame on all these people who fight over a persons will. Did you  love the person? respect them in life? Then respect their wishes in death as well. Shame on these sisters!

There are so many people out there that do over feed their children but then there are some of those babies/people who have health problems that can cause the obesity. I think with the children and adults that they should have their blodd checked for different diseases as well as to see if there is anything hormonally wrong. I have a brother who has to genetic diseases that have been passed down in the gene pool to him, one which causes weight gain. I also know that there are way to many people who like to look down on people who have gained weight and make snyed remarks about how fat people are getting these days but do they ever consider that there could be a medical condition that is underlying the weight gain. I have the rare Hashimoto's Disease and I have gained weight. Hashimoto's disease is where the thyroid does not know if it wants to be hypo or hyper thus it conflicts with each other and tries to burn the thyroid out. I do not eat a lot of food but I gain weight. I am so mad that there are people out there that make comments so you can hear them since they are so insensative to your feelings. I have had this happen at a Kmart while my daughter was trying on some new clothes,( and by the way I find no pleasure in buying clothes or going to the mall due to the weight gain) which was the first time I finally ventured out to do this for her to have 3 of their employees who were there by the fitting room start in. I went with my daughter into the room, there were no other customers in the area, and to hear them say things like " People are sure getting fat these days". " They just don't know when to stop eatting", and my favorite *sarcastic here* " They should be ashamed to be so over weight.". I was so mad that I went out there and asked ' Where can I find a plain white T-Shirt?" they looked stupid as they were not sure where to find one. I then said to them " I  am going to write on the front of  it and on the back of it saying  I HAVE A THRYOID PROBLEM! DO YOU HAVE A PROBLEM WITH THAT? I DO.  This shut them up. I just read in my endocrinologists office that there are a lot of people who are gaining weight, feeling tired, depressed, and run down that they are being misdiagnosed as depression and placed on medication for it but in this document it said that these doctors should be doing a thryoid test to see if  it is hyporthyroidism as these are the symptoms for this. 

  So I say Have blood tests done to check if there is a medical problem, and if that is not the problem then look at what you are putting in your mouth and cut back and start eating the right things. Just because some one cries for a cookie does not mean you give them a cookie try giving them an apple, orange or cut up veggies like carrots. I just hope that if it is not a medical condition then the parents start setting a good example for their children and start eatting healthy foods in proper portions. It is the parents who had the children that should be the example NOT THE VILLAGE. It  is the parents that had the children who should be showing the children how they should eat and what they should eat besides all the other things in life.

There is first sympathy to the family who lost their daughter. I know kids can be really cruel and I have seen it only get worse over the years since the 1970's.  The message that is getting out there by some people is that statement that really irratates me to nolimits is that " It takes a Village to raise a child". The problem is that people have these children and then let them run wild expecting those of that imaginary Village to be the ones that teaches them. First of all, they brought the children into the world so they should be smart enough to know that they are resposible for their childrens up bringing. It is not my responsibility to teach them manners on how to be have. It also does not help that the schools can not spend time in taking care as to help in making things for all kids safe since we have this mental atitude that no one dare say a thing to our children.

     A word of advice to those parents who want to let their children have a computer and the use of the internet. First of all the computer should never be located in a childs room as it needs to be in a centeral place so those parents whose children use the computer and internet can see what they are doing and who they are talking to. I first started off with watching everything that the children did with the computer, watched who they talked to and then fooled myself that they were wise enough to not do worng so we did that bad thing of placing a computer so they can use the net on their own in a room on their own. We found attitudes were changing and the way the  interaction with the family was going. 

   I regret that we allowed that to happen and warn others to not follow pursuit. I have seen a lovely daughter who was well mannered go to rude all the time and sassy.  If they have the computer in their room move it to a more travelled location as we can not always blame others for what has happened as we allowed ourselves to fall into a lull of ease with out even thinking of how much danger is out there.

 

I can understand your feelings withthe different things that happened to each of you . I too had similar fate befall our wedding day. When I was out getting my hair and make-up on preparing for our wedding that was scheduled for 3 pm that day. My husbands brother wanted to go water skiiing, so his parents, brother, and husband to be went out on the boat. His brother water skiied but then got tired, hubby took a turn and when he told them to slow down they thought he said speed up and he was pulled forward. He was in the emergency room with a sprained back. The woman who was taking me around for my hair got a call from her hubby and told to bring me home. I get in his house, told hubby to be was in hospital, and that I can not go see him until I stopped crying. I went to the hospital, walk in to where he was, He did not recognize me until I said it three times who I was, also we did not need to get married that day. He insisted we will still be married that day, one hour late, 3 pain killer pills, and NO SMILES in the wedding photos except for one, and on the bottom of his shoes was written SHE WON causing snickers from the guests. Our wedding cake was multicolored due to the freezing and unfreezing of it because we were not sure if we would be married that day. Then to top that off Wedid not have a honeymoon as he was not allowed to leave town with a sprained back. Which by the way We never had that honeymoon! So things can happen on your wedding day and it can last you a long time. We will be married 28 years in June on the 28th. It is not a day that resounds with yahoo as it did in the moment I said I do.

 

    For those who say get over it. Place yourselves in the shoes of those unlucky brides who have had to endure some bad things during their day.Your day may have been perfect but there are some of us that our day was ruined by whatever reason. Until you walk a mile in their shoes one should not judge if one should be over such things. Reminders of those horrors from their wedding day are a reminder when they pull out their wedding photos to show. I should know as I never take my photos out for they say to me, he was very unhappy to be getting married to me this day and he was in way to much pain. I do not feel like saying each and every time if I should show them why he is not smiling, stiff, and unpleasant looking.

 

(((((((((((HUGS))))))))))to all of us who have lived through this.

I agree that this is a word that should be not be used in any language between any one. I went to college today and someone was playing some rap song loudly in their car. The song used the word over and over again with hanging with my (the word) homies. I found it offensive just in hearing it. I think people need to know that we are all people,all though our skin color may be different and we all have the same color of blood.

 

  I also was offended by the man who sit in the middle of the panel. He was loud and obnoxious. He is way off base with his comment that he was brought over to America as a slave. His anscestors, like the one lady was trying to say, werebrought over as a slave. It did not make this man a slave nor was he put on a boat and brought here as one.It is thinking like him that will lead us all down a very hateful road. Yes, slavery was wrong . It was countries from Europe that went to Africa and then brought the African American people here. It was England, Spain, and a few others and our ancestores were not thinking right when they accepted these people into slavery , however, it is not mentioned that some African American's also had slaves themselves.

 

  It just seems that we as people need to learn to get along and not call each other names. In calling a name that even has a negative meaning can not be funny in any sense. Songs, movies, and even comedians who use this as a form of humor has no sense of real humor due to the nature of the issue.  Let us all grow up and be a little more kinder to each other and respect each other in action and in deed.

I want to first say that I am so sick of hearing the phrase, "It takes a village to raise a child". It takes the parent who brings this child into the world to be a parent and raise this child. Outside influences can be either beneficial or harmful to a family when people stick their noses into someone elses business.

  I belive this woman does have OCD and is obsessed with the fact that she loves having babies around her but not the pregnancy. Since she does not have a job and no income to support such a large family is an inconceiveable notion. I want to point out that this woman must be getting paid some money by someone for each interview that is being asked of her. She is not doing it for free and I d think in her own small way she is loving the attention. Who knows maybe she saw the show where the one lady had six babies at once and saw all the free things that were given to her. She is thinking that she deserves the same thing.

    I find it hard that people are falling for all her pity me attitude. I do feel strongly that these children that were born would be best served by being adopted out to families who can afford to bring them up properly. It is not the responsibility of everyone else in this country to pay for her choice no matter how poor in judgement it may have been. These children really need to go to a family who can really support them.

 

Dr. Phil she seems to be playing everyone for all she can get out of them. Are you going to be with her holding her hand every step of the way until all 14 children are off to college. Every time I see an update for what is on your show and there are sections missing it sends the message this woman is getting money again. Everyone has some feelings for these children and if help is needed then  have a guardian incharge of money set aside for the children and not a penny go to this mother. The person can pay out an amount from the funds to cover the bills as the reciepts are turned in. This way peoples money will go only to the children. I get so frustrated when I see she is getting everything she is wanting from others knowing she is not going to pay for anything and everyone else picks up the bill. This has caused some annoyance with my husband as I discuss this crazy woman.

 

  I think if I see one more show on this woman or see her being interviewed for a show knowing that she is getting paid. I may have to stop watching the news and talk shows completely. It has gotten that way with many issues on the news.