Messages By: housewife52

By no means do I purport to believe that all people without anorexia are simple. I never said that. Furthermore, if my anorexia was simply about me being afraid of getting fat as you put it I would have stopped long ago. I have messed my body up now to the point that my wieght doesn't respond when I do starve myself. I don't eat because I hate myself. Despite my accomplishments, depsite support from family, there are times in my life that I feel the need to hurt myself and I do that with food. I have been at this long enough to know that it is not about being dissatified with my "looks" Believe me if I could just eat I would. I am beyond insulted by your words. I do hope that you never find yourself in the position where you have to overcome something like this. Or that anyone in your family does. I am starving myself because I never learned healthier ways to deal with the so called "complexiites" of life. I have been through a lot of traumatic experiences which i am not going to list here. Perhaps you should grow up and stop being so judgmental.

I have so much to say about this.I have been married a year and a half and my Father in law and my Brother in law are two of the most rude and disrespectful people I have ever met in my life.My marriage is acually falling apart because of all of the rudeness I have had to endure the entire time we have been married.It's like my Father in law and my Brother work together to make life miserable for me.They constantly interrupt our day with numerous phone calls,coming over without calling first,the list goes on and on.It does not help that my Brother in law is an alcoholic and daily marijuana smoker and my Father in law is co dependent and extremely controlling.I love my Husband very much and I don't want to let these two toxic people get what they want by breaking up our marriage.I want my Husband to do more to make some boundaries and put a stop to this but he feels like he is stuck in the middle and he doesn't want to hurt his Dad's feelings.If anyone can relate please respond or can lend some support I would appreciate it.

I just saw this in the email newsletter and I know it's a rerun but I should've been on this show!  I'm working during the day so I don't usually get to see Dr. Phil, but I was off with the flu last week and decided to start DVR-ing it.  Anyway, my rude relative is my sister.  The thing is I have custody of one of her daughters.  I've had her since she was three and she's now eleven.  My sister has been living out of the state up until last year and now she's back and wants to take over.  BUT not the financial part of things- that's still mine, she just wants to call the shots as "mom".

My sister acts like I don't exist.  She'll come to my apartment unannounced to "visit", she'll walk in my apartment and barely acknowledge my presence and just go back to my niece's room and hang out - for lack of a better term.  If I say we're getting ready to go out, my sister just looks at me as if 1. I never have any plans anyway, or 2. if I did have plans they all stop now because she's here! 

I tell my sister all the time that I am the adult and the decision maker and she needs to stop calling and making plans to do things with my niece without at least discussing them with me first!  It's not that I'm always going to say no, but I may need to coordinate what they're doing with something I've got going on.  But again, she thinks I just sit here in my apartment with no friends of my own and nothing that I may want to do so why should she ask if it's alright for her to come?  But when I try to talk to her about it, she just laughs like it's the most absurd thing she's ever heard adn that makes me even more angry.  We never get anything settled because she refuses to see me as a 39 year old woman, but I will always just be her little awkward, ugly sister to her. 

I will say I am glad to see that she's clean and I hope she stays that way.  It's just for the past 9 years, my niece and I have had our own little routine and for that matter both of her daughters (her oldest one lives with her father) have their own lives!  And for her to just want to pop in and be "mom" all of a sudden just makes me mad.  But when it's mentioned that the afterschool program bill is due or my niece could use a new pair of shoes, she runs the other way! 

The HBO movie Life Support comes on this week and it's about the same thing I'm going through only it's a grandmother raising her grandchild.  I'm going to watch it.

My mom is rude too. She points out every overweight person she sees and talks bad about them when she's overweight herself. She tells her boyfriend how much she hates his kids and they haven't even done a thing to her. When I was younger all I wanted to do was take a gun to her head because she is making everyone's life miserable. She always has to have her input in everything. Rarely does she ever have anything nice to say about anyone. She criticises everyone for the way they live. She even puts her nose into other people's business. I hate being around her because all she does is talk bad about everyone and I get so sick of hearing it.