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February 25, 2008, 10:25 am PST

True Story...

I have a friend who regulary goes online and pretends to be other people. She pretends to be a guy and talks with women. She has a "girlfriend" who thinks she is a guy. These people send my friend money and games and other stuff.

I am so baffelled at how she can get away with it, but there are so many people who will belive anything. I mean OMG they haven't even spoken to eachother over the phone, but they will send her money and goodies.

I am sharing this with all of you so you know what is out there. If you are involved with someone online and it seems fishy....it probably is not all who you think they are.

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February 27, 2008, 7:57 am PST

Hi Fromthesquare!!! :)

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Who is the cute little guy? What a pumpkin!

Thank you so much!! She's my niece. She's about 9 months old now. We love her so much. I am babysitting her right now actually, and I can't take my eyes off her she is so funny. She is my famlies only kid so far so we spoil her like crazy.

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February 27, 2008, 8:12 am PST

I hope so

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I'm glad you posted this message...maybe someone will listen!

Going online and giving people any personal information is pretty much like agreeing to meet a stranger in a dark, deserted alley at midnight. And sending them money...or anything else.. is the epitome of stupid!

WWW.NONONSENSEGRAMMYTREE.BLOGSPOT.COM/ click on "Cyber-stupid"

Thank you, I hope so.

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March 18, 2008, 12:11 pm PDT

I agree

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This probably won't be a popular opinion, but I'm going to put it out there anyway. I ask you to consider this paradigm. Try to resist the initial urge to get angry at it and just consider it for a minute before you write it off... I don't think it's right for a woman to force a man to take responsibility for a child that he has no desire to father. Currently women have many choices when it comes to having a child. They can opt for an abortion. They can choose to never tell the man that they're pregnant (& put "father unknown" on the birth certificate) and put it up for adoption. Or they can keep it and demand child support. But men are basically at the mercy of whatever the woman decides. What if the man doesn't want her to have an abortion? Too bad it's all her choice. What if he DOES want her to have one and doesn't want to be responsible for the child? Too bad it's all her choice. I understand the argument that a man should be responsible if he pulled his pants down and had unprotected sex. But the truth is, there's a double standard out there that I don't think is fair... The woman also chose to pull her pants down and have unprotected sex. I think it's important that women consider the other side of this arguement. If she has choices, so should he have choices. I also question a woman that wants to force a man to be a father when he doesn't want to. Is that really good for a child? To grow up with a parent that is resentful of them? I really don't think so. Obviously, the best thing would be for the father to "man up" and be in the child's life if the woman chooses to keep it, but the ideal isn't always the reality. And I don't think it's right that the woman should be able to have a choice, and give the man no choices. I think it's wrong for a woman to have unprotected sex and then make a unilateral decision that will affect that man's life as well. Personally I would never force a man to be a part of my child's life if he didn't want to be. I would own my actions and my decisions, but I not force someone else to live up to that same standard that I set for myself. And I would never put my child in a position to have a parent in his/her life that didn't want to be there.

Personally, I wouldn't sleep with a man if I wasn't certain he would be around for awhile. Isn't that what the issue is about here? Woman who go around and sleep with anything, get knocked up and now that dead beat has to be in hot water because "she's keeping the baby".

The guy is what he is. Why is she want that guy in her life anyways? Probably for the same reason she slept with him.

So now that kid is going to end up with major issues because the "father" will keep running while the mother is trying to catch him. All the while bad mouthing him to the kid, but never then less still trying to squeeze money out of him for the kid. Instead of just raising the kid on her own with no mention of the man who doesn't want to be in the child's, or her for that matter, life. At least then the child would be less likely to have abandonment issues. Way to go....not.

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March 18, 2008, 12:21 pm PDT

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Why are you attacking me personally? A few fries short of a happy meal? You know NOTHING about me other than my opinion on this one post.

You think this one post from the fathers GIRLFRIEND has all the facts in it? This GIRLFRIEND comes into the picture and suddenly there is doubt of paternity? AFTER 13 YEARS.

She even said that this child LOOKS like her boyfriend. This is his child and he needs to pay for it.

So, what's your point? So what if the girlfriend brings it up? So, because it has been 13 years that makes it ok for that mother to have lied? Are you one of those crazy bio mothers that still thinks she has a hold of her ex husbands life because of the kids.....even kids that might not even be his?

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April 30, 2008, 12:26 pm PDT

Really?

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I have not been to this message board since weeks after the show aired, I will always wonder what happened to Shannon.

I didn't catch your screen name to record here, but I hope replying will suffice. First, Hillary moved into the family home. Shannon was not 20 at the time. She was never given proper greif counseling and this runs far deeper than "step parents" and pictures.

Shannon at the time of the show was also a college student. I am the parent of two daughters, 25 and 21. My youngest recently turned 21. Yes...here room is pretty much as she left it when she moved away to college. This is her "haven." She comes home totally drained on breaks and long weekends. Yes, as time is passing the room turns into a "catch all" but, it is ready for her when she comes home.

She is transitioning. She is now a rising Jr. and I can say with certainty...she is not the only student in her group of friends from college, or her home town who still has "home" to back to. Did you see the Dr. Phil show where Robin was sending picutres of cakes and cookies to their youngest son after moving to college? I am remarried, and yes, my daughter has photos of her father in her room. This was never her father's house, he is not deceased...but even so, I would have handled things QUITE differently than Shannon's father did.

Shannon was treated very inconsiderately. You have a very naive point of view regarding that young womans feelings. Of course the father has a right to move forward with his life...but, it was his wife and the mother of his children that died. The children are still alive and needed him. I did not like him or Hillarly one bit. Not even in the least.

I hope Shannon finally grew up and that her dad and stepmom were finally finding peace without her. What a horrible child.

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July 15, 2008, 8:26 am PDT

That's nice but...

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Here in Sweden, the childsupport is to the child, to make their life as positive as possible, it´s not for the mother.

I understand all the difficulties in this issue but I have to say that I feel that if he has been taking care of the child for ten years he ought to be willing to make her life positive.

The mother can´t use the money for things for anyone but Selina so he should be ashamed not being willing to continue to make her life positive!

It doesn't work that way in America. The mother is using that money for a lot of things that don't have to do with Selina. That is why she wants it.

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November 14, 2008, 2:08 pm PST

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My husband also wants to participate in this lifestyle. I want no part of it. He started trying to get me to do this after a couple that he was friends with invited us to join them. When I said no they wanted to make it a 3some with him. He told me about it and said he turned them down. Ever since then he has been trying to get me to try it. I have told him that I am not interested and he persists. He tries to make me feel guilty by saying that he would do anything for me to fulfill my dreams and fantasies and if I loved him I would do what he wants. I think he is obsessed with it. He has admitted that it is a problem for him but we don't know what to do about it. How can he get help for something like this. Otherwise we have a wonderful marriage and I do not want this to ruin it.

Remind him that, 'If he loved YOU, he wouldn't keep nagging you to do something you have clearly told him you don't want to do."

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True Story...

Hi Fromthesquare!!! :)

I hope so

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