Messages By: kat200

Shelly obviously needs to be educated about breastfeeding, as it is completely normal and natural. If you have a problem with it, don't look! I believe that for Shelly and others who have problems seeing women breastfeeding, the issue stems from an event, most likely sexual, that occured in childhood. Many victims of sexual abuse have difficulties with anything or body part having to do with sex and, also have trouble forming any type of relationship. 

  

As far as condoms go, the lady opposed to the idea is right about latex breaking. Also, if you are allergic to latex, you must resort to non-latex, which breaks even easier. (Note: I did not figure out that I had a latex allergy until I kept noticing bandaids irritating me all through childhood and put two and two together, so this is just a little note for parents or anyone who might be.) Tracey, please stop blaming everyone else for your getting pregnant--you chose to spread your legs, knowing full well how it happens.  

  

I have a question for Karla: where is your husband? Certainly, you don't go out to dinner without him. I can understand only having two hands during the day while he's at work, but where is he when you go to dinner? Parents need to teach their children proper etiquette and class. Also, please do not bring your children to graduations, lavish weddings, shows, and other upscale events. When I pay for expensive dinner or tickets, I expect there to be peace and quiet. Lastly, I have never actually tried to discipline another child in public, but I have given the parents "looks" and said, "Shut-up!" and they still did not make much of an effort in some cases. A little threw something at me at a graduation and neither parent removed him. These are parents who seem to think that little Suzy is a perfect angel, and act like there is nothing wrong. I agree with Robin on removing their son from the restaurant. 

Amen! I really hope Karla is reading Family First, as Dr.Phil advised her to. She just kept making up excuses about how she could not control her kids. Lady, you should have started disciplining your children the FIRST time they acted up because now they realize they can get away with it and have no idea about what is right and wrong or any boundaries. I have no problem with anyone having a larger number of kids, but please discipline and raise each one of them properly. If that is not something you can handle, do not have more! "It just happened" is not an excuse. 

  

Perhaps she would benefit from Supernanny. 

My mom stayed home, so I didn't go to daycare. However, I did have some experiences with a few kids who did in elementary school, and they were not positive.  

  

1) In a couple of grades, there were kids who did not return things they were supposed to--I remember a few times when we had a class picture and individual pictures taken and were supposed to return them if we didn't want to buy them, the kids who didn't were in daycare. I really recall the teacher saying, "You need to return the picture--it doesn't belong to you!" or "They aren't free."  

  

2) In fifth grade, there a girl who was very aggressive and jealous that I didn't want to be friends with her. One time, when the class was in the hall walking to art class, she began pushing several people in line, including me, for no reason. (She never did it again, so I'm assuming the teacher talked with her after I informed her.) She went to daycare, and I think her mom was divorced. She has also joined my fourth grade class the previous spring, so I knew how she was from the beginning.  

  

It is a myth that children need daycare to socialize. They can do that with siblings or cousins or your friend's children. Also, children do not begin to socialize until around the age of three, so daycare has no benefit before that time. If you look at studies by Dr.Laura and Dr.T Berry Braselton, you'll find proof that daycare is not beneficial and that most daycares, over 90%, are not high quality. 

Debi, you are the parent, therefore, you are the one who is buying the food, preparing the food, and deciding what to make. It is your choice to allow the girls to have fast food and your choice to allow Victoria to have large portions. I hope Debi and her girls improve with counseling. 

  

As far as looks are concerned, in the entertainment and fashion industries, it does matter. Also, Jay was in Las Vegas, in one of the resorts that has a mini-mall of high end shops. Appearance does make a difference in how you are treated at the nicer hotels in LV, i.e., better service, getting drinks, food, and shows comped and faster check-in. 

  

I am on the very attractive side and look years younger. I frequently get attention from men and sometimes looks from men who are with their girlfriends or wives. For some reason, foreigners especially favor the more attractive, slim women. 

Let me clarify what I am referring to when I mean preferial treatment. I do not mean getting helped first at a hotel when someone else is in front of me. This applies more in Las Vegas, but let's say you book a standard room in one of their nicer hotels; they may offer you the option to upgrade to a suite or they may not and, appearance does seem to make a difference in whether they ask you. Also, some guests are offered complimentry line passes with no wait to the buffet, drinks, first priority seating and reservations at shows and restaurants and faster check-in/luggage delivery if staying in a suite. Now, you can't tell me that you would not take anything complimentry if offered, especially at a 5-Star Resort. Also, I have very good manners and good etiquette, as well as most of the really attractive people I know. 

  

I still stand by Debi needing to limit what Victoria eats--don't complain if you are the one buying the food because you are causing her weight problem! There is really no excuse to be overweight. 

Madeline and David might want to take a glance at Cops and Jerry Springer because Isabella will more than likely be appearing on them in the future if they don't start disciplining. Parenting starts from birth--you are two years behind!  In the meantime, please don't set foot in my classy hometown of Atlanta where we know etiquette.

 

There is no excuse for bringing kids under the age of about 5-6 to nicer restaurants, theater, graduations, upscale weddings, etc. The paper actually ran a column about a woman who was kicked out of a restaurant by the manager due to her child shrieking. There should be more people like him and more places need rules banning kids under 5. A few weeks ago, I witnessed a little girl being allowed to run around and crawl on the restaurant floor! She also came up to our table often and the parents pretty much ignored her even after I gave them the "Look." There is such a concept called RESPECT. Parents have no right to impose their shrieking children on others and a disability is no excuse. Your kids are still an embarassment to society and need discipline. How else are they going to function in the real world if they are still acting up with the so-called ADD excuse at 20?!

 

Also, for those of  you who have boys, how are you going to feel when you receive a call from the parents of future girlfriends telling you that your son has horrible manners and etiquette? That's something to think about if you want them to find a decent spouse.

 

Wake up, we don't think it's cute and we are sick of it! To quote Gone With the Wind, my reponse to all of these excuses we hear from parents today: "Frankly, my dear, I don't give a damn."

It is not the children who behave that I have an issue with; it is the ones who do not behave and the parents who refuse to do anything about it, such as your godson. If the children are being disruptive, you need to discipline or remove them. The manager of a store or restaurant does not care whether your child has a mental illness--they have a business to run! The needs of everyone else outweigh those of one child. The point of the show was not "Children with mental illness who misbehave." Both children were normal.

 

As far as predicting trouble with the law, the shooters in the Columbine massacre actually exhibited signs early on, not to mention being raised by the daycare. Their parents were completely uninvolved in their lives, and were not even aware of the boys playing with guns in the garage.

 

Several posters have mentioned older children having outbursts. At some point, shouldn't they be old enough to know better than to have a tantrum at 15?! How are they going to function in normal situations? I mean, the rest of us have a right not to be exposed to this at restaurants, the theater, etc. I'm not paying to deal with a child who should be left at home.

 

Are you serious?

Does anyone in your family have any type of illness? Cancer, Diabetes, alleriges? Anything?  If so next time you see them, ask yourself what you would say if someone told you not to bring them to a public place because it is an embarrassment to the rest of us.

 

The point being made here is that parents have an obligation not to allow their child, whether they are mentally ill or not, to remain in the restaurant and constantly shriek or throw a tantrum multiple times, to the point that others have to shout across the table to have a conversation. Also, it is not right to allow your child to remain in a situation if they are hitting, kicking, or biting other children. Children are being kicked out of daycares and preschools because of it. Isabella's parents have no right to be exposing her to other children and putting them in danger. I remember reading about Rosie O'Donnell allowing a foster child to live with them briefly, but she had to leave due to her behavior. Should she have kept the child, only to have her kids hit, kicked, and bitten? I don't think so!

 

Yes, I have known people with diabetes, cancer, allergies, but I have yet to see them shriek and run around the restaurant. Also, in a private establishment, club, event, school, etc., you can be asked to leave for any reason. It is perfectly legal.

 

 

Apparently, many of you were not listening when Isabella's parents stated that there were no medical reasons why she should be throwing tantums. It sounded to me as though dad wanted to discipline and mom just wanted to sit there and let her shriek and throw a tantrum. I am not making fun of mental illness, if that is the case, but that was not topic of this show. If you want Dr.Phil to do one on mental illness, I suggest you click on "Contact Dr.Phil." You are getting a little off-topic--this show was about normal brats!

 

Judging from what I saw, something else was said by Isabella's mom that we didn't hear. In the introduction, Dr.Phil remarked, "She's not even willing to consider what I have to say." I'm pretty certain this was not in reference to the other family because those parents were more than willing to listen and do what was needed to help their daughter.

 

Isabella's mom falls into the following category:

1.Does not think she is doing anything wrong.

2.Will allow her to shriek constantly in the restaurant while doing nothing about it.

3.Pretty much thinks that her sh*t doesn't stink.

 

It seems that Isabella and the child they are expecting were both unplanned, as they are not married. I guess they have never heard of condoms or having tubes tied.

You are supposed to be 16 to set up a My Space profile. So, those of you with kids younger need to implement what is called a Parental Blocker/Control, which blocks certain websites that are not appropriate. To be honest, if I was Anna, I would probably haved sued, too. It is the parents job to raise the kids and teach them values, morals, etiquette, class, right from wrong, etc. It is obvious that this has become a big issue and, hopefully her lawsuit will be a wake-up call.  I'll bet the parents of these boys are the same ones who let their kids scream and shreik  in restaurants while sitting by and doing nothing. DO NOT have kids if you are going to ignore them or won't raise them as Dr.Laura would say. You can't be a parent if you aren't present.