Quote From: bestinlifeSome of you ladies on here, I apologize for having to go through such horrific nightmares. Being a man myself, I know what Jeffrey is feeling. I cannot, however, relate to what Jennifer is doing. How could a woman with three children and a husband turn on her own family so she can bar hop? This has to do with a woman's desire to feel attractive and get attention. I've seen this far too many times. At first, women in high school think of marriage, having children, owning a home, and driving the nice car. Most importantly, being married to Prince Charming.....O you sleeping beauty women out there. Perhaps if you stopped acting like Barbie Dolls, desiring all men to snatch you from your fantasy land, and expecting men to be perfect, then perhaps things would go well for you. But you create standards that are impossible. You want the fancy life, the high light attraction, the large amount of money, and a great husband, but you expect it from Prince Charming. And after realizing these things dont come true, you cheat! You bar hop, speak badly of your husbands to your friends, and you give in to sexual fantasy and desire! This tends to happen quite a bit to middle aged women! You try living the young life again because youre tired of being a home body.
Now some of you (both men and women) are bad anyways and no nothing of family values. Some of you are indeed innocent and have had husbands which treated you badly no matter how good you treat your husband. But its apparent that Jennifer has never treated her husband rightly, and any sign of affection she gives is mere superficial and not genuine.I saw this a lot in yesterdays show. Jeffrey is hurting badly and needs help, and from experience, its hard coping with betrayal from a woman you love so much. AND YOU FOLKS OUT THERE claiming hes possessive, you are right to some degree, but I wouldnt entitle it as possessive, but desiring. He loves and desires his wife. Whether physical or emotional is a different subject, and based on what Ive seen at this point, its more physical. But Jeffrey is sex starved! And dont count him as a bad person because hes sex starved. Apparently, Jennifer is not sex starved at all! Typical woman too!
Jeffrey's mistake is the same thing. He expected a loving wife from sleeping beauty. From what I've learned about Barbie dolls, they only want to be touched and admired by the public. Jeffrey made a huge mistake by digging himself into a deeper hole. But what person retains their right mind when someone they love has betrayed them? His heart is torn in pieces and he doesn't know how to react. She cheated on him twice before, and I'm pretty sure she kept on doing it because he permitted it. But any action on his part to stop her from cheating, you folks calls "Control". Well, who is out of control here? Was it not his wife? Was she not putting her physical needs (bodily attraction, tanning beds, and night-life sex) ahead of her family? And does this family not include the husband?
This is where some of you women are going wrong. You say, "Leave him for yourself and for your kids....." There you go! It's just you and the kids. Already the assumption is made that any part of the family is based on her desires, settings, and rules. I'm sick of women thinking that children are to be fully involved with the mothers life, but the father is only permitted a specific and limited right to children. Our rights are "PAY" but any action to make sure the money we pay is strictly for the children is considered spying, nosy, or untrusting. We're told, "Just pay the money; at least you're doing your part..." That's foolish because cops do more than just inform the public of wearing seat belts! They issue tickets to those who are not wearing it; this is for our safety. In the same way, we fathers want more than just paying support. We want to make sure our children are receiving this money, and not the spouse or their new b/g friends.
Now I mentioned this because Jeffrey is suffering from two things here. He knows his wife is cheating, and he's trying to keep his marriage together. He also knows that if his wife leaves, it's not just her he lost, but his children as well. She doesn't suffer from this because she doesn't love him (probably never has). She'll find someone because she put enough trash on her myspace to catch men. What will happen is she'll end up with stronger competition from a man who wants her body, but not her. And if he cheats, she'll find out just how painful it can feel. I bet if Jeffrey cheated on her, she wouldn't care because she doesn't love him. She's apparently not attracted to him anymore.
When my ex wife left me and took my son, of whom I can hardly see anymore, it nearly drove me insane. After time, I met someone better than her, and now I have no regrets except not being able to see my son....thanks to her controls....YES women continue to control the husband even after divorce. So you ladies who play victim here, you are controlling in your own ways, just as Jennifer is in hers. Most importantly, she'll end up controlling Jeffrey for the next many years of his life, using the kids as her weapon....watch! It happens far too many times in today's time.
For those of you who actually have had abusive husbands, I apologize for your suffering. But for those of you like Jennifer, I feel no pity except for the kids. Why? Because she caused this by cheating, and he caused this by his lack of self control. Both sides are guilty, but the cause of the problem is Jennifer. And don't give me that "I don't care what the she did crap....." because if she loved her husband, she would have put him and her children first, before her no pants and no shirt life!
A lot of couples have actually recovered and grown closer after an affair. The difference here is that this man has stopped supporting his family so he can violate every last bit of his own self worth. Not to mention raping and violating the woman who he said he loves.Why are you men so mad at women for having an identity beyond her husband. He admits to ruining her credit. He has lied and manipulated. Fake vasectomy?! who cuts their own penis??This man is going to lose his children because he has lost his mind not because she manipulated it. I think both are at fault for two things: co-dependenceand staying together. Who wants a spouse who HATES you? Why would you fight for it? He shows and takes pictures of her nude, why cant she?
