Amy means well, she wants "time out" at the same time she wants "time in' she is confused and wants to control the situation by herself when she herself is in the soup. The third party here is her parents which is natural for any daughter who has marriage problem to go for shelter,comfort and love especially when children are involved.They are the APPLE in their grandparents eyes.First of all she should be honest with whats happening in their lives, shes trying to defend him at the same time.Lee need to get himself together, work on his frustration and stop trying to be a macho, when he looks like a big BULLY around those inocent kids.Does he have a job? if he hasn't than its about time he finds one. Dr. Phil, Lee needs to be in rehab for at least one year, away from the children, because his wife can't make up her mind.If both of them are unsuccessful in trying to heal, then their children should be under forster care.Amy should just "suck-it-up" and be with her parents, who wants the best for her and the children,she needs to work with her parents, even though she doesn't like what they say. I'm sure she knows from the bottom of her heart, that her parents wants the best for her and the grandchildren.Just calm down Amy and let reality checks in.