Messages By: janet0420

Dr. Phil,

I don't know what brought me to your site,  perhaps it was meant to be. I am a fan of your show of course, but usually don't look at what the shows are for the week. As I was reading the story of the lady who took her twins, I saw a strange word I had never seen before...hyperemesis. Little did I know that after looking it up on the Internet, that this was something that I myself have suffered through. My doctors never gave it a name, they just said I had morning sickness and perhaps I had doubts about having a baby, or maybe my husband was pushing having a baby on me and I was internally rejecting my child! I wanted a baby desperately as did my husband. I was a dream of ours to have lots of children and raise a big family.

I have had two pregnancies with hyperemesis. The first ended in termination, because my doctor told me he thought it was for the best. I was so sick and being fed by a feeding tube and my insurance was saying no more. It was the worst decision of my life and I wish the doctor would have told me I could get throught it and given me the name of it so I could research it myself. The sadness I feel in my heart for the loss of this child is sometimes unbearable. But to see a story on your site about this just made my heart drop. I was meant to find this, I have dealt with in silence for too long and I am so sad to know that I could be the mother of 2 instead of 1. Why are doctors not telling these women the name of this illness? Why are doctors recommending termination?

I got pregnant again, thinking this time I would not be as sick.  But, I was even sicker, feeding tube again and this time the doctors were feeding me drugs I had no idea what were doing to me and my child.  My new doctor was a little better, and said he would help me get through, but also said he had never seen anyone so sick from pregnancy. But, I just wanted to have a baby so bad I was not going to give in to the illness and the thought of terminating another child, even if my life was at risk.  At one point my mom called my family and said, it does not look good, they think she will either lose the baby or we will lose both of them.  My the grace of God I am here today and I have a beautiful son. I only wish he had his older brother with  him.

I am just so saddened by this, why did my doctor not tell me he could help me? Why did he not tell me it had a name? I thought doctors were supposed to help those who are ill, but I think my doctor just got frustrated with taking care of me and dealing with my insurance and told me I needed to terminate. I trusted my doctor and felt he knew what was best for me, but now I feel so sad and angry, that a professional doctor told me it needed to end, when I think with his care and understanding of the illness I could have had my baby.

Dr. Phil, thank you for doing this show. I can't wait to see it and find out more about this illness that took the life of my child and a brother for my son. Every doctor should have to watch this show! I am just in tears. 

Sincerely,

Janet