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R U KIDDING ME?? ARE YOU SERIOUS?? FROM A SOCIAL WORKER'S POINT OF VIEW-SHE NEEDS TO GET OUT!!! AND THE GUY NEEDS SOME SERIOUS HELP!! HE IS ABUSING, I MEAN ABUSING HER!!!!! HOW WOULD YOU FEEL IF YOU WERE IN HER POSITION?? HOW WOULD YOU FEEL?? THE REASON WHY SHE IS REBELLING AGAINST HIM IS BECAUSE HE JUST ABUSIVE TOWARDS HER AND HE SEEMS TO BE BLAMING ALL OF IT ON HER-IT'S NOT HER FAULT! OBVIOUSLY IF SHE WANTS TO GET OUT, SHE HAS THINK OF HER KIDS TOO-WHO KNOWS IF SHE STAYS THEN THE HUSBAND MIGHT DO THE SAME STUFF TO HIS DAUGHTERS!!! THE HUSBAND GOES THROUGH A CYCLE OF ABUSE: THE HONEYMOON STAGE, TENSION BUILDING, AND EXPLOSIVE. THIS IS DOMESTIC VIOLENCE!!!!

Hello All!

I have pretty much been counting the days to see this show. I am disgusted with the actions of both Jeffrey, and his wife as well.  He is very scary..........I mean, look at him, look in his eyes, he is vicious, and I believe capable of seriously hurting or even killing his wife.

I guess what I do not understand is WHY DOES SHE STAY?  There are so many excuses, I have no money, I have 3 kids,...............but, if this is as bad as it seems, I would head to the nearest WOMEN'S SHELTER---(GPS OR NOT!)

Jennifer does not come across as the most honest person to me, either.  In her taped pieces, she is usually smiling, or just not seemingly in as much of a risky situation as she poses.  Some women actually LIKE this type of sick attention, she may be one.  

First, Dr. Phil - I LOVE YOU!!!!  Many people are going to hate my post, but I have to say what I honestly feel. I will break it down by wife and husband.

WIFE: she has been unfaithful 2x's in the past, thus arising his suspicions. She goes out with other men knowing she has a jealous husband at home with possible violent tendences. She has not left him(????). She goes on webpages, as a married woman, exchanging nude/sexual photos with strangers and friends. It was alluded that they have sent nude/sexual photos to others in the past. She smiles when she talks about his behavior. I think that she partly enjoys this dangerous attention. I can hear the people now - yelling at me  LOL. I will admit, I do have an issue with women in DV situations. I am a social worker and would NEVER work with that population because I do not understand how or why a woman would stay with a man that is violent or controlling. I know all of the "facts" about DV - I went to school and attended numerous trainings  - I still would never work with them. Personally, I believe that she enjoys this. It excites her for some reason to get him riled up and stalk her. Unfortuantely, this dangerous game will most likely lead to death for one or both or them.

HUSBAND: he has very serious mental health issues. He is obviously an insecure man who has 'acquired' a beautiful wife and is afraid of losing her. He, himself, stated that she only goes after "short, balding men with little d*cks". What is he saying about himself? His behavior is escalating and he will most likely kill her if she ever does leave. He is exhibiting classic 'batterer' behavior with the isolation and denial of funds. He, I think, is beyond help and should be removed legally from her life.

Even if that were to happen, she would return to this behavior with another man. She finds amusement in it and will find another man that will 'obsess" over her again. THEY ARE BOTH WRONG. THEY ARE BOTH THE CAUSE OF THEIR SITUATION AND SHOULD BOTH BE HELD ACCOUNTABLE  - NOT JUST HIM. She appears to be very flirty and may have other men already. He is unstable, insecure and potentially violent.

I know that America will hate this post because we all want to blame him. But she cries with no tears. Okay, maybe it is shock, the "victim syndrome", whatever you want to call it. But I seriously question her actions and wish that you would delve into her a little more. We all know that he is basically a lost cause - or will need years and years and years and years of therapy...and maybe then he can get over her (I think NOT!). But, I do believe that there are two dimensions in this family. I am by no means excusing his behavior - IT IS WRONG AND DANGEROUS. But married people don't, or rather should not, carry on internet or live-body affairs either.

NEITHER ONE IS INNOCENT HERE.