Quote From: vixiexFathers are more than a checkbook. I don't think he should have to pay if he isn't the biological father - especially since he's been lied to this whole time. HOWEVER, if he's raised this child and is the Dad that the child knows - I would assume there is love between the two of them. That relationship should continue.
Biology has less to do with parenthood than love, trust, teaching and caring that comes from that relationship. "Anyone can be a father - but it takes someone special to be a Dad"
Just my 2 cents.
As an ardent feminist I have become increasingly frustrated over the years w/the lack of frank discussion at the fact that some women DO in fact contribute horribly to the various outcomes for children conceived and later involved in either custody or paternity cases. Women who either fraudulently ID men as fathers or intentionally get pregnant and then use children as pawns for more money or revenge MUST suffer consequences in order to at least begin reducing the tragedies.
The family court systems are antiquated and continue to favor women... YES -ultimately we must have more concern for the kids BUT let's start leveling the playing field for men so that these issues stop setting the stage for kids to have screwed up futures.
