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May 11, 2007, 2:30 pm PDT

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Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is a psychological disorder characterized by pervasive instability in moods, interpersonal relationships, self-image, and behavior.  This instability often disrupts family and work life, long-term planning, and the individual's sense of self-identity. 

 

While less known than schizophrenia or bipolar disorder (manic-depressive illness), BPD is more common, affecting 2% of adults (1-33), mostly females.  Some of my favorite books that provide a great introduction and insight are:

 

 

Understanding the Borderline (Parent) Mother:  Helping Her Children Transcend the Intense, Unpredictable and Volatile Relationship by Christine Ann Lawson  

 

Surviving a Borderline Parent:  How to Heal Your Childhood Wounds & Build Trust, Boundaries and Self-Esteem by Kimberlee Roth and Freda Friedman OR The Angry Heart:  Overcoming Borderline and Addictive Disorders by Joseph Santoro and Ronald Cohen

 

Stop Walking on Eggshells:  Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Know Has Borderline Personality Disorder by Paul Mason and Randi Kreger 

 

How to Journal for Therapy:

http://arar.essortment.com/therapyjournali_repu.htm 

 

 

Though harder to spot, emotional abuse is easier to deny.  But just as physical and sexual abuse have signposts to mark their presence, emotional abuse, being a systematic attack on one's sense of self, has common traits.  Just as physical and sexual abuse come in degrees of severity, emotional abuse runs the gamut of intensity and damage.

 

 

Hope it helps!

 

Was this to really help someone? This is just another man with issues. what ever happen to the DADDIES who are FATHERS? what give this man the right to be so controlling? if those kids father was not in there life, instead of him acting like a butt hole he should've been a father who was there for them in love. To show them how a daddy is to be.  He is not better then that nut who controlls his wife
 
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May 14, 2007, 8:16 pm PDT

good mother

Ok after I read all the people complaints about their mothers I want to say something on a brighter note. I think all mothers hit a nerve every now in then, but my mother is a good mother. She never gets in my marriage. Nor has she ever told me how to raise my kids. I'm a 43 yr old mother of 3. I have 3 grandsons. My mother has listen to my issues in every way, and she has NEVER got in my business. She would give me advice but that's it. When I was going threw with my husband or kids  and I feel a big depression coming on. We  would get the girls on the phone, and have a vent out party. This is when they would let me vent out all my issues, get a drink, and laugh it away lol. Lots of times we would lay in her bed, and if I must cry I can, but when it's all over we are good in drunk lol, but I'm not depress any more lol

 
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May 19, 2007, 6:57 am PDT

04/27 Obsessive Love: The Drama Continues

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 I totally agree...

She needs to totally disappear w/ the kids, as in GONE - NO ONE knowing where she and they are!!!

I applaud him, though for going on the show, as if he didn't have her as a fixation, it could be a worse fixation (to harm or even kill others - especially women!!!)

He is a good example for stepping up and stating that he in fact does have a problem & I applaud him for that! He's a great example for others with obsessive behavior to get the help they need. I hope he can stick with it! We shall see!
He has already showed that he can not be trusted.  Ok he said he has a problem, but yet he keeps calling her. This man needs to be lock up which he is.....
 
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May 19, 2007, 6:59 am PDT

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This guy has got to be one of the sickest people I have seen.  He should be in a straight jacket and have a muzzle or a gag.  I truly hope that she gets the protection that she needs.
yes he is sick, I agree a straight jacket would be good lol
 
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May 19, 2007, 7:03 am PDT

04/27 Obsessive Love: The Drama Continues

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I missed most of both shows on obsessive love.  Did Dr. Phil ask Jennifer why she would allow pics of her with other men to be posted on social websites? She had to know her obsessively jealous husband would eventually find them. 
I agree when I saw that pic I wonder the same thing, but what bothers me more is..People know what she is going threw why did some one put that on the internet anyway? the strangest thing is they put the ones of her all hugg up. I do not understand why she would take a picture like that. She did not look so worried on those pictures. Think about it. I think she is just as nuts
 
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May 19, 2007, 7:13 am PDT

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Jeffrey desperately needs help, that is more than obvious.  However, Jennifer definitely isn't as innocent as she appears.  She appears to have this need to show off for as men as she possibly can.   She said some friends forced her to go out when Jeffrey was in rehab.  When she is there, she is posing for pictures with as many men as she possibly can, give me a break!  She is extremely cunning, manipulative and an extremely good actress.  Her main goal in life seems to be getting men's attention.  She got Jeffrey's attention, got the man, she is now bored with him and moving on.  If you ask me, she has a lot of problems of her own.  She posts pictures of herself on the web in all kinds of provocative poses and with pictures of herself and other men, what exactly does that say about her as a person?  Who wants to be married to a tramp like that?  She certainly doesn't want to be  married, she wants to be single again and sleep with as many men as she possibly can.  Of course this is definitely going to have an effect on her husband, what husband wouldn't be upset by her despicable behaviour?  How would she like it if she was married to a man that would have his own web site like hers?  A person with morales wouldn't do the kinds of things that she has been doing.  She is deliberately provoking her husband.  It's some kind of sick game that she enjoys playing.  She makes me sick!

I felt the same way. She is not as innocent as she appears. Doc Phil said he gave her gift cards. How did he get them? He gave those to her after the fact. When did he return back in the home to get those cards? I got that to. Her friends FORCE her to go to a party? I agree with the picture thing. If she was so scare the last thing I would want to do is stand smiling taking snap shots with men. I pray Doc Phil reads these post, and see what we all see. Did she post those pics? If a friend did it O what a friend. I believe it's more to this story. Why would her husband THINK he could have another man in the bedroom? Yes I believe she provokes him to, but this still does not account for his behavior. She was very young when she married him. He took all her underwear. What did he do with them? Now she can go out without none on lol. This should really drive him nuts! the more I watch the show the more i think she is causing alot of this

 
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May 19, 2007, 7:18 am PDT

04/27 Obsessive Love: The Drama Continues

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I was in a very similar situation to Jennifer.  My ex wasn't quite that crazy as far as tracking me when I was with since I've left him my kids have seen him "fixing my phones".  Also he had a former high school friend pretend to want to date me and then "install cameras in my house when I left shopping for half hour one night."  They tell me he can hear all my telephone conversations and threatens to kill guys I date and has been trying since the day I walked out to "take my sons away from me." 

 

I thought when I finally regained some of my self-esteem and self-worth I would be on top of the world when I left my ex-husband.  Well since I've left he has destroyed relationships I've had with other men by intimidating and threatening them.  He abuses me through our children and the worst part of him is that he continues to abuse my children.  He has lost visitation rights for four months, was charged, pled guilty for assaulting my oldest son.  The courts granted him back his rights, since then he has continued to assault my gorgeous innocent sons phyiscally, emotionally, financially and verbally.  He has assaulted my little 6 year old at least 12 times in the past 5 months.  He threatened my baby that if he refused to visit him again that he would beat him up or mommy until she's bleeding all over the place.  The police are taking this so lightly and are not taking the necessary steps to protect my children and I.  They know the history, they know my children are in danger.  My heart bleeds daily knowing I have to keep sending them to this disaster zone.  My sons are modelling this man's behavior and they lash out at me and each other.  They are becoming very abusive themselves and I am terrified about their future.  My ex will not stop until he pressures my oldest son into living with him.  My son is about to explode and is extremely disturbed.  My little guy is confused because he's told professionals about the abuse and his mom and yet nothing is being done.  He still needs to go visit to a dangerous person.

 

I've seen so many shows on Oprah and Dr. Phil and cannot believe why our laws are so leniant here in Canada.  My ex belongs behind bars and for more than just a day.  He deserves to stay there for a few years for all the trauma he has caused and is still causing us.

 

I would love feedback from readers.  There are so many abusive people out there.  To all of you women, you are worth so much more.  It only gets worse, it never gets better. 

I was with her untill she post those pictures. Now I'm not sure
 

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