Messages By: wildkardde

Quote From: adawife

You are only 21, don't be so worried about finding "the one" right now. God knows when is the right time for you and you will know when that time comes. When it comes to finding your soul mate you have to learn to take a few chances. So what if someone says no to going out with you. It is their loss. The person you end up with may not look the way you had invisioned so don't be afraid to talk to guys (or girls if you are a guy) who may seem a little different from what you are used too. When you do meet the right person don't be afraid to put yourself out there. I was never the type to go up and talk to a guy first but the day I met my husband, I just walked right up to him and started talking. It was one of the best things I have ever done and I wouldn't change it for the world. Yes, I was scared to death and afraid of rejection. But since then he has told me that he had already been watching me and he was trying to work up his nerve to talk to me but he was afraid I wouldn't talk to him. So who knows that cute guy/girl that you have been checking out may be doing the same to you. You don't have to be the prettiest or the skinnest to get the guy but you do have to have confidence in yourself. That goes a long way. Learn to be comfortable in your skin. But during the mean time, don't spend your time looking for that someone special. Spend this time figuring out who you are and what you have to offer, that way when you meant your soul mate (and trust me the perfect person is out there waiting just for you) you will know just what you have to offer and they will be able to see what a lucky person they are to have you. I know it gets hard at times but be patient, your day WILL come!

Quote From: s_wgauvin

 eHarmony and the like have no value and should not even be included in a conversation about love, marriage and relationships. Its embarassing to see women and men devalue  human contact and all that marriage and love has to offer by portraying themselves as leftovers and societies throwaways. I can see it as entertainment....possibly...somewhat like those hideous gossip magazines.  Does one honestly think that there is respect and admiration to be found here? Personally, these sites and matchmaking organizations are the equivalent of a brothel...you best put yourself on the corner and catch the best thing rounding the bend. What are we teaching the generation behind us watching the selling block ..moreover...what would you tell your children attempting to find love like this!? Madness....

Mrs.G

Quote From: thatdog

If you read these boards, you will note that there are tons of people are out looking to find "the right person".  In fact, some of these people sound completely desperate. 

Why would you condemn on-line match making? 

It is simply another way for people to meet each other. 

I think that for many people on-line services are a great way to meet someone with similar interests. 

Think of how many people work 50+ hour work weeks.  Or, the people who only go to bars to meet someone.  The Internet provides an alternative way for people to come together. 

It does not matter how people meet, it only matters what happens after you meet. 

If someone can find the love of their life after meeting on-line, I say CONGRATULATIONS. 

We are no longer living in the 1950's. 

It is time for people to open their minds, and learn that there is more than one way to an end.