Messages By: sonny77

I watched both shows and was apalled at what her husband did to her and Dr. Phil certainly was kind to give the wife a way out, offering a lawyer, money and place to live.  This was just a very good thing to do for her, it gives her a feeling now of being her own person and free to do what she decides to do.  However, I believe that counseling should also be provided to her and hopefully it will be.  She needs counseling to bring her self-esteem and spirit back to her, to help her deal with what has happened to her and that way help her to be able to deal with her children in a new light and her children also could use counseling.

 

As far as her cheating is concerned, I do not believe in that, once a person is married you do not cheat and if you want to, get divorced first.  However, that is only a very small part of what is wrong in this marriage.  I agree 100 per cent with Dr. Phil's evaluation of this marriage and the help he is offering.

 

I am worried, however, that this man is very scary and could harm her and the children and himself.  I hope that he is 100 per cent cured before they even attempt to go down the marriage road again.

I just can't contain my objection to attorney Gloria Alred's opinion that the man who is not the father should continue paying.  It is thoroughly disgusting that any court would ask a man to pay for a child that is not his, we have enough "dead beat" dads as it is, let alone make someone who is not the father pay.  If he wants to continue to pay that is up to him, but he should not be forced to do it,  it should be his decision  to pay or not.  The mother should go after the real father and if this man has paid he should be able to sue the real father and get his money back, only if he wants to do it.  If the mother does not know who the real father is, well that's too bad, if she has any idea at all a DNA test should show that, and go after the real Dad.  Also I am sure that the child would certainly want to know who his or her real father is, for medical reasons if nothing else or maybe to at least have the chance for the real father and child to know each other.  Thanks for letting me share my opinion with you.