Messages By: evie_dee

Quote From: saskgirl31

I was in a very similar situation to Jennifer.  My ex wasn't quite that crazy as far as tracking me when I was with since I've left him my kids have seen him "fixing my phones".  Also he had a former high school friend pretend to want to date me and then "install cameras in my house when I left shopping for half hour one night."  They tell me he can hear all my telephone conversations and threatens to kill guys I date and has been trying since the day I walked out to "take my sons away from me." 

 

I thought when I finally regained some of my self-esteem and self-worth I would be on top of the world when I left my ex-husband.  Well since I've left he has destroyed relationships I've had with other men by intimidating and threatening them.  He abuses me through our children and the worst part of him is that he continues to abuse my children.  He has lost visitation rights for four months, was charged, pled guilty for assaulting my oldest son.  The courts granted him back his rights, since then he has continued to assault my gorgeous innocent sons phyiscally, emotionally, financially and verbally.  He has assaulted my little 6 year old at least 12 times in the past 5 months.  He threatened my baby that if he refused to visit him again that he would beat him up or mommy until she's bleeding all over the place.  The police are taking this so lightly and are not taking the necessary steps to protect my children and I.  They know the history, they know my children are in danger.  My heart bleeds daily knowing I have to keep sending them to this disaster zone.  My sons are modelling this man's behavior and they lash out at me and each other.  They are becoming very abusive themselves and I am terrified about their future.  My ex will not stop until he pressures my oldest son into living with him.  My son is about to explode and is extremely disturbed.  My little guy is confused because he's told professionals about the abuse and his mom and yet nothing is being done.  He still needs to go visit to a dangerous person.

 

I've seen so many shows on Oprah and Dr. Phil and cannot believe why our laws are so leniant here in Canada.  My ex belongs behind bars and for more than just a day.  He deserves to stay there for a few years for all the trauma he has caused and is still causing us.

 

I would love feedback from readers.  There are so many abusive people out there.  To all of you women, you are worth so much more.  It only gets worse, it never gets better. 

Quote From: goonis

So Dr. Phil, do you think that you are encouraging these parents poor behavior by pitting them against each other and actually rewarding the behavior with the hope of these prizes?  I'm not sure I'm too happy about your methods here but I will watch the show so that I can make an "educated" decision.

 

My 13 yr. old son actually seems to have talent in the acting arena.  It really seems to be his niche.  I don't however take him to tons of auditions and push him like these crazy mothers.  He is involved with a wonderful theater group for children and takes part in their summer program every year.  They do a really fabulous, very proffesional job and he loves it.  He has also performed with another theater group in their Christmas production and takes part in school productions.  He was in the band but has decided he doesn't particularly enjoy band and has decided to take choir instead hoping to improve his vocal skills since he does not have "natural" talent in that area.  Whenever he goes to an audition I always stress that although I know he hopes for a big part, that whatever part he gets make the most of it and put his whole heart into it and they will remember him and he'll probably get a bigger part the next year.  That was what happened when he first started with the summer group last year.  He got the role of a townsperson in Beauty and the Beast.  Even though it was by no means a lead he had a ball!  The people that run the program noticed his enthusiasm and rewarded it with adding to his role a bit.  This year his has a little bit bigger role in Seussical and again he is thrilled to just be a part of such a great group.

 

"Stage Moms" need to take note and realize that being a child star in Hollywood isn't important, it's letting your kids follow their dreams, have fun doing it and letting them still be kids.

Quote From: foxysag

It is difficult for me to understand how abusive parents can be so cruel to those that are totally dependant on them.  In Colorado, a seven year old boy was locked in a closet, telling people that Daddy Jon was going to hurt him.  When someone finally listened to his pleas, the boy weighed 30 pounds and died a short time later of starvation.  And, yet, we won't let same sex couples who would be loving parents adopt children because of unwarrented fears and simply say how awful it is when we hear something like this.  And where does Christianity come into play with these types of happenings?  They will shake their heads and move on!!

Quote From: cheetie62

Please don't waste your time trying to justify that woman's unspeakable behavior towards her daughter.  Whistling, finger snapping, PISS BUCKET??  Come on,  GIVE ME A BREAK.  I don't think The Child Welfare Department considers this sort of crap for daily chores as acceptable. 

Quote From: terrylee_1949

I have read the replies from people in Canada & Australia and I have to tell you they make more sense then our Government here in the United States. I'm a Ex Captain in the 173d Army Airborne Rangers and I can't believe that I fought and we still have Service men/women fighting and dying, so that our Government can aloow people like this to come and go to our Country anytime they feel like it.  This is Totally Wrong.... Lets' Learn form our friends from Canada, Australia, etc..... His whole family should never never never get another VISA form our Government!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

Quote From: snowfirel

Being involved in this other Nam the way we are right now, it is not a good idea to let people like this fella inside the country.  If you ever venture into the chat rooms, you will find yourself getting hit on by many middle eastern people trying to make friends, really trying to get over here.  The only people allowed here right now should be those older business people already established here from say 15 or 20 years ago.  No young people unless they are children under five or six needing a perminate home. Or those with US relatives just coming to visit.  There are too many over there being taught all about self sacrifice, what if they get in here, and start blowing themselves up, and us along with them just as they are doing now over in their own country.  On another note, we should let China handle North Korea, it is very unwise to get into another mess, esp. with Asia, and Bush you should not do what you are doing to this country, it's just not right.  We don't need oil over there, after all we are on the same planet, drill in our own oceans, near Alaska, plenty right here, the animals make use of the metal structures we build, and platforms anyway, they get behind them to fight off head winds in wintertime.  Get the heck out of the mideast, our kids don't need to be drying, and fighting it is a lost cause, life is too short.

Just my take,

sf