Hello,
Usually I stay with my other interest areas, but this topic lit a spark of interest in me today. Having individuals stay with family members for a short term period seems acceptable with me. While on the other hand, if the home bound individual is staying at a families dwellings only because they are afraid of facing the true reality of their situation, that individual needs to have a reality check.
My family and I have lived through a similar situation but for a notable cause and received the outcome result. An older sibling went off to college, while my parents and the I moved to another state for employment reasons. Soon to find out by the first year end away my older sibling could be found no where. My mother took the first flight off the hunt the sibling down and leaving us all at home with our daily duties (school, work, home etc.). A few days later she returned home and said she found the older sibling and everything was OK. Only to be enlightened later, this older sibling would cast a curse over my parents relaxing their leash over me. This older sibling who was an honor student from K through High school, went way into dept, barely passed the courses, etc. O, I forgot to mention when my mother came home this older sibling called and delivered the news of expecting a child (I wonder why, that info was delayed). To make this long story short... The sibling came home with my mothers influence as to helping raise the child. After the child reached the walking age my older sibling left home again to find a permanent means of employment and finish their education path. About four to five years later, while the child stayed with me and my parents (I was in high school during this time and continuing into mid college), the older sibling was overseas serving the country. Through all the photos it is hard to notice the difference between the child related to me more or to the actual parent. Anyway, by the time the older sibling duty is over the child is almost nine, a tender age.
Story short... Stuff happens... Sibling made a big mess up.... Sibling cursed other siblings leaving home bound... Sibling came home, raised child with help, while single... Sibling left for permanent work... Sibling came home, took responsibility for raising child for rest of life... Sibling currently remarried and has another child... First Child still calls "US" his home.
As for myself, this older sibling has cursed my parents (my "mother") into believing I will mess up when I leave. So by keeping me "HOME BOUND" I will never mess up. I will finish school and then have a family. I have tried to reason with her, but it is no use, she wins or she is right no matter what. Last year I finally received a phone for the holidays. A phone for her to call me while I walk around the block.
Thanks for allowing me to vent... Have a happy new year.