Messages By: mommacarol

I must be the exception to the rule.  My daughter is a memeber of SAG (the Screen Actors Guild) since  1996.  I never could imagine doing to my daughter what those moms are doing to their kids.  First off, I never filled Cathy's head with "be a star"  she always wanted to act.  The words I chose were "be a successful actress"  there is a BIG difference in those phrases.  Also, Cathy did most of her commercial work when she was 5 and 6 years old.  Now at almost 16, she is adorable but maybe not as marketable.  Realizing this, she has been accepted to The Education Center for the Arts to study theatre.  IF I can come up with the $3,000 tuition she can further her skills in realizing her dream of being a successful actress.  I hope those parents understand that kids are not perfect and the more they want them that way the more frustrated the kid will become.

 

I took Cathy to NY for auditions on a regular basis so I have walked the walk.  We made each trip to the city an adventure.  If she got a call back good, if she booked great, BUT if nothing happened, we had fun in the city for the day.  She remembers those days as happy ones not stressfull.  When the call backs slowed down and the bookings stopped, so did we.  It was an experience and not a life style.  I really hope those moms get it before their kids grow to resent them.

 

I enjoy the show and am a loyal watcher.  Best of luck to Dr. Phil and the staff with these moms!!!

  I hopw with all my heart that John uses Dr. Phil's help can gets healthy.  i would love an update on his progress.

for the rest of those kids lives they will remember the time Mom WASNT there.  i work part time and my kids dont like the time I am away during the day for my job.  I could not imagine being away for years or life.  The kids are the ones who will pay the ultimate price for these moms in jail.  My prayers are with them and thank you to Dr.Phil for bringing this issue to light.  There are so many families effected by incarseration.

He makes it and I take it.  Thats the argument in my life.  I have taken care of the children without a job outside the house for over 10 years, then I got a part time job that I have had for the last 6 years.  I dont make much, but I do help out.  I still do all the house stuff and kids stuff and yet my husband feels I need to work more and help more financially.  I feel that all I do is all I can do at this time.  I feel stressed and frustrated that my time is valueless unless there is a paycheck at the end of the day.  Money doesnt make for happiness but it would make my life less stressed.

O.K.  We probably all have a tale of wedding mishaps, whether they happened to us or a wedding we attended.  I have been married over 18 years and if I believed we were cursed from day one I would not be married to this day. 

On our wedding the groomsmen were out playing golf and the restaurant wouldnt serve dinner til they came in.  My cake almost toppled over...chocolate doesnt hold up as well as yellow cake and mine was chocolate.  We ran out of beer at the after party.  We went to the wrong hotel for the night.  The hotel we had reservations at also had our limo the next day to the airport.  So at 3am we had to find the right hotel so we wouldnt miss our limo.  After we survived our flight to Los Angeles it took us another 3 hrs to get to our honeymoon destination of San Diego.  We had no sleep, no clue where we were(other than Calif.)  and we couldnt close the deal until the next day.  I never looked at it as cursed.  Its life.  We have since been through over 11 different cars, 8 sofas, several cats, broken legs, operations, child birth...and the raising of...3 homes several family vacation, and good bad or otherwise, its life.....so just live it and get over any wedding blues you have and just move on.   The last 18 years of my life have been a mixed bagged like anyone and everyone else in this world.

About 9 months ago my teenager and her friends went to the mall to shop and hang out.  I was home watching tv and doing household stuff when a breaking news story flashed on the screen.  There was a violent brawl at the mall where my daughter was.  The first thought was I hope they are ok then the next thought was oh no I hope there were no guns.  The news report said there were injuries but no details yet.  As it turns out, one of my daughters friends was in a store on lock down and one of the injured teen managed to escape to.  The girls saw this teen bloody and confused.  My daughter had the good sense to call me and assure me she was ok but had gotten separated from her group in the mob scene that took place.  I was a wreck until all the kids arrived back to my house.  Even though there were no guns, it was scary and concerning as a parent , is there any safe place for our kids to be???  Or even us as citizens of the U.S. cant we just go places or be in our own home without the fear of voilence? 

thank you for taking the time to read and respond.  The ones missing out are the aunts and uncles and cousins of my kids.  they are such amazing people and the family is just loosing out.  however, what i do for my kids makes up for it.  we spend quality time together.  today is my 19th wedding anniv.  and our best man...my husbands brother doesnt ever blip on our radar screen.  he's the one married to the bi**h ya know. its funny how a family who is supposed to love and support and encourage is gone by the way side. like i said at the end of the day all the love in my house MY HOUSE is all that matters.  Best of luck to you always.