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July 24, 2005, 6:26 am PDT

Lollipop & others fumbling through this board

Hello……I know I’ve read all the mssgs on the board (some of them over & over) LOL but I'm having so much trouble concentrating these days I can't remember names or their stories. When my head clears I'll go back & read them. Please forgive me, I do care.

My husband has moved back home & we’re trying to work on things as best as 2 married bps can. My problems seem so silly in the scheme of things when you consider what some of our fellow posters are going through.

 

I’m just so frustrated that I don’t feel better than I do @ 49 since I take a pile of meds & numerous vitamins each day. Very frustrating & the physical pain never goes away.

I’m being treated by 4 different doctors & a therapist.

 

Pdoc (Lithium & Gabitril for b/p)    Primary doc (meds for hyperthyroidism & high cholesterol)

 

Neurologist (Lortab, Soma, & Lamictal prescribed for fibromyaligia, lumbar disc disease & alternating pain in my left calf & lower back.

 

Ob/Gyn (Incontinence problem) Due to my morbid obesity she has referred me to another doc appox 1½ hrs away.        Blood work shows normal hormone levels for post menopause.      I’ve had additional blood work by the others but haven’t heard anything from them.

 

Losing weight seems to be THE answer suggested by each & every one of them. My husband is behind me 100% & we’ve bought a stationary bike but it hasn’t arrived yet. Since the first of the year I’ve been working on the other steps in Dr Phil’s book & now I’m ready for intentional exercise. I’ve been fooling myself that I’m afraid to exercise b/c I fear it will kill me but I can no longer take the quality of my daily life.

 

 

 I feel more comfortable on this board talking with other bp.

 

 

God bless you all,

Kathy
 
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July 24, 2005, 9:32 am PDT

I can totally relate

What I hate is the fact that other people who have not experienced any kind of mental health problems do not understand people like me whodo not handle every day stress. I get so stressed out that I will cry all day think about suicide as a way out from feeling so stressed. I become unfunctional. That is why I have had so many jobs and landed in the hospital. And I get the attitude from some people that I can control my bipolar. Well I can take medication, which I do, but when my life starts to get out off balance that is just like throwing fuel on a fire and not expect it to to flame up! It upsets me that everyday stress affects me this way, but how do you keep it from happening. Med's help to a certain point, but what to due when the meds dont help? Ya they say exercise, but when you feel so depressed you cant get out of bed, how are you suppose to put workout clothes on and go for a walk or whatever. And when I have gone for a walk to get my mind off things I think more about them walking. What is there to do when you walk but think! Then I have to pretend Im find around people because they wont understand. Then my husband who is a long haul trucker and only home 4 days a month;I cannt tell him all the time how I feel because it scares him and makes him feel crappy because he cant be here with me. So Im alone in my depression, since there is no support groups in this crappy town I live in. So Im trying the best I can do but sometimes it is not good enough.

Hi 4deena,

  Not sure if you're new to the board, but WELCOME.

   I can totally relate to EVERYTHING you've said except my husband is not a long haul trucker. I was a "newbie" (new to this mssg board) not long ago & the best advice someone gave me was that this is a place you can come to any time of the day (or night). Feel free to say what you feel & none of us will judge you. When I think I'm the only one feeling this way I find out there are others out there experiencing the same feelings.   

  I get so upset when TV programs say murders & rapists are bipolar. THEN Tom Cruise said what he did about Brooke Shield's post partum depression & "mental illness" in general. I don't know about every body else but I have to rely on my pdoc to help me through these roller coaster ways of the daily life of being bp & having a husband who's also bp.

  I might not post very often but I do enjoy reading each & every one of these mssgs.

God bless you Deena & all of us on the board,

Kathy

 
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July 24, 2005, 4:20 pm PDT

Why?

Someone sent me the following tidbits, thought they might make you smile too.

 

WHY??

 

When we are in the supermarket and someone rams our
ankle with a shopping cart then apologizes for doing
so, why do we say, "It's all right?"

Well, it isn't all right so why don't we say, "That
hurt, you stupid idiot?"

Why do we press harder on a remote control when we
know the batteries are getting weak?

 

Why do people keep running over a string a dozen times
with their vacuum cleaner, then reach down, pick it
up, examine it, then put it down to give the vacuum
one more chance?

 

Why do banks charge a fee on "insufficient funds" when
they know there is not enough?

 

Why do people constantly return to the refrigerator
with hopes that something new to eat will have
materialized?

If at first you don't succeed, shouldn't you try doing
it like your wife told you to do it?

 

There were lots of them but these were my favorites.

 

Kathy

 


 

 
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July 25, 2005, 9:17 pm PDT

Welcome Lorrie

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My name is Lorrie, I have been living with BP since 2000, age 35. We find that it is VERY important to have some sort of MOOD STABILIZER. I take: Lithium, wellbutrin and effexor. I am really glad I found you all coz most people just don't understand. I live in Canada

Hi Lorrie, welcome to the board. I'm glad you found this board too. You are SO right, most people just don't understand (but we do here).  I’m Kathy, bp, 49 & live in TN.  Diagnosed in 1993, hubbie also bp.

Kathy

 
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July 26, 2005, 7:19 pm PDT

Hi Kimmie

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hi! i have not the foggiest what i am doing, or who to..

ok, beka, i can not find you or cran or em or storm. and as for all you newer members, sorry i am not posting personally, but i am here. and other oldies, i mean to enclude you, i just don't have you written in this time!

when you get to know me, i hope i am easy to understand. i am easy to get along with , i think, and if i am not, i will be as soon as i can understand what you are speaking about. i have to read the post many time before i know what you are saying. so please be easy for me too!

i just feel as if i am posting into the air here! do any others feel like that too?

are we in a ship that can not figure out just how to doct.

i wish i had a joke to tell. i love making other laugh. oh well! see you all soon, i don't get to post everyday anymore but i will get back asaic,

GBYA,

:)KIMMIE:)

Hi Kimmie,

 I always enjoy seeing you on the board & I know exactly what you mean about having to read the posts many times.

 
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September 8, 2005, 7:15 pm PDT

Water

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Now see, I CAN tell a difference. 

  

My dad is a Pepsi man 

My aunt is an RC cola 

Me cocacola 

My bestfriend mountain dew 

  

Now that I'm caffeine free, it's hard to go to a restaurant, b/c I can't stand pepsi (ya, i know, what am i doin up north then) 

I only drink sprite/7up if i am sick.............and water gets old 

  

Tea has so much caffeine that if I do indulge............i am literally bouncing off the walls. Of course no restaurant I have ever been to has decaf tea. 

  

What to do.........oh and water? i hate it.  See ima picky chick. 

While reading your comments about ordering water in a restaurant I was reminded of eating out with a new friend approx 5 yrs ago. She ordered water w/ lemon with her meal, then added packs of sweetener (she called it poor man's lemonade). She was a very frugal, very fit woman.  She told me she did this b/c she knew she should drink more water but couldn't stand the taste of plain water.  And with a twinkle in her eye she reminded me that water was free. I've ordered water w/ lemon ever since.   

   

Kathy  

 
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September 12, 2005, 9:15 am PDT

Hi Marshmello

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 Hello, any words of wisdom for a spouse of a bipolar man?  Have been married 25 years, 2 children (13 and 17)  His illness was recognized just 7 years ago, he started serious medical management just a few months ago.  He was very resistant to treatment, his mania and hypomania was, in itself, a toxic high for him.  I am attempting to deal with the aftermath of his most recent mania and the problems it has brought into our lives.  For the most part, he is excusing his actions on his illness....he never would have gotten involved with all those woman from the internet port site, (there were 11 he admits to) if he wasn't manic....he would never had spent 20thousand dollars (that he admits to) on these woman and gambling if he wasn't manic......he never would had started recording my conversations, tapping my phone calls, intercepting my mail, etc...if he wasn't manic.    I am struggling with dealing with this while keeping myown sanity.  What is real with him, what is his altered reality?  I am trying to continue a coexistance with him in my house, I couldn't call it a marriage, but want to keep a stable home for the children and to work full time to make a dent in the debt that has occured.  I just hit a brick wall when I try to begin to put things in to perspective and get over it all.  Any words of wisdom, support or advice would be appreciated.  I must say in advance,  if I offend anyone with my words, I am sorry.  To say I understand what you go through with you illness would be a lie, I don't.  I do appreciate the struggles you go through and the strength it takes to maintain a stable enviroment.  thanks.

Hi marshmello,   

   

I’m Kathy, 49, married 2nd husband in 1992. We are both bipolar, I was diagnosed in 1993, him in 1994.  I have read and reread your mssg and am truly sorry for what you and your children have been through. I read your mssg to my husband as well & his heart goes out to your family also.  

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#1  See if there is a bipolar support group of some kind in your area.  Here in our area there is a monthly meeting at a local church, I have seen it advertised through “NAMI” (National Associaltion of Mentally Ill).

    

 #2   Visit the DR PHIL & OPRAH bipolar boards daily if you have time. I have found many words of encouragement there.

    

 AS I read your mssg I wondered, does your husband drink?  My husband had self-medicated (his drs words) ever since his late teens but when he was correctly diagnosed & started lithium his desire for alcohol disappeared & he’s been sober ever since. I love him with all my heart but we separated & divorced in 1995 b/c I couldn’t put up with his drinking another moment. I had a 13 yr old son that was placed right in the middle of everything. We got back together in 1996 & remarried in 1997.

    

 Even though my husband & I take our medication religiously we still have our bp ups & downs. We both know mania is marvelous & that’s why a lot of people don’t want to take their meds but the lows afterwards can be devastating.

    

 God bless you & your family,  

 

Kathy

    

  

 

   

 
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September 12, 2005, 10:17 am PDT

I think the keychain is a great idea

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How is everyone today?  I would like your help please....all my Depression board family...My sisters and brothers cousins..Het I even call Dr> Phill  Dr. Daddy  hahah I do that not out of Disrespect but out of love because he gives sound firm advice that you should have always gotten from a trusted adult you know what I mean! 

  

If you go to shared diares and read  get her hear pronto and pronto cont  see the outline of my story please...see what it is what I really want in my eccentric genious diaries...sorry for my spelling errors or Typos  but theres some stuff wrong with my brain NO EXCUSE I tried my hardest so just please excuse them  I banged my head really hard when I was a kid and a metal thing went in above right eye long story tell you later...Please read those two things see if you can guess.... 

  

I always come up with stuff and try to invent stuff and I get so  frustrated because I get shot down by THE HUS!   Like today coming out of the grocery store  I ALWAYS FORGET ALWAYS for get where I park  why cant I invent on my key chain a device that is a magnet on my car that is kind of like on my keychain for people with tramatic brain disorders to find there car like a compass as soon as they get out of the store?  MY HUS say s  NO  I told my father in law NO  I say why not  I come up with ideas all the time and now I feel stupid all the time..alright tears in eyes again... 

  

Maybe I should just be this stepford wife... 

Hi Labelfree,  

  I think your keychain idea is MARVELOUS! My husband & I are both bipolar & have walked around a parking lot many times looking for our car. LOL  We'd sure buy 2.  

   

YOU GO GIRL !!!!!!!!!!   

Kathy  

 
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September 14, 2005, 12:40 am PDT

CBT

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Hi,   

    

I can't say that I know what it feels like to be bipolar, because I am not. However my wife has been bipolar for almost 45 years, and my daughter for almost 30 years.  So I am a loving husband and father who have stood by my wife and daughter through their ordeal.  My son also suffered from generalized anxiety disorder for over 43 years, but has now overcome it through the use of CBT.     

I am offering a free course in cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) on-line.  Although I can't say that CBT can result in you overcoming your bipolar disorder I believe it can greatly reduce the mood swings, so that the illness is just an inconvenience, but does not control your life.  It will allow you to control your life instead of the illness controlling you. I now have 6 people registered and will cut it off at 10.  There is no charge. By the way I have attended support group meetings for both bipolar disorder and anxiety disorders.  My son and I also offered a 20 week CBT course at our local library for people suffering from mental illness and anxiety disorders.  If interested and to register for the course e-mail me at: rowdens@shaw.ca    

     

Pat    

Hello Pat, 

  Thanks for this info, I plan on asking my pdoc about it.  Were your wife & daughter able to achieve the same results as your son? 

  

Kathy 

 
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September 14, 2005, 3:15 am PDT

Welcome to the board

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    I am new here on the site. In fact until I came to Saudi Arabia I never watched Dr. Phil. I always was working and busy. But being in a country where most women do not work and a country where I knew no one but my new husband I found time to watch TV. I found Dr Phil. I am in tears just about everyday. My husband and I have been disagreeing on just about everything. Naturally its usually me. And in a way it is. He accuses me not trusting him. And in a way I do not. But I also know for me not to trust him means he will not trust me. I feel so trapped. I am not sure where to begin. Last night he said "you changed, you are not the person I thought you were". I am not sure what that means. I will wait a few days to ask. I did sit and ask him what I needed to do? I never really got any answers. I need a plan for myself and I need a outlet to become the woman I once was. I smiled laughed and I was less competitive. My husband called me competitive last night and I know I have become that way.

Hello,  

Just wanted to say welcome to the board. You certainly came up with a very creative username. You are In La La Land (URNLALALAN) I love it!  I can't begin to imagine how you feel since relocating to Saudi Arabia, your whole world has turned upside down.

 I encourage you to visit this board often & write more when you feel like it.

 God bless.........Kathy   

 

 

  

  

      

 

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