Quote From: peppyq I don't agree with people attacking the mother, the blame should go to anyone who turns a blind eye to abuse and the abuser, I am an incest survivor who is still in theropy and will probably always be. These abusers think that just because they didn't kill you, you will be fine and that is so not true what they do to you is physical and mental and steals your soul you spend the rest of your life looking for something that you lost and you can't find it because it was your inocence and your childhood the sense of who you are and who you could of been had they not been so cruel and selfish. Have you ever looked in a mirror and saw yourself but feel miles away from your own soul? This is what they do to you and thank you Dr.Phil for bringing this out to the public these people like my father isolate victims and make them live in secret fo so long that we loose ourselves in silence. . so again thank you
sometimes you keep it alive if you continue to talk about it, sometimes it is easier to make peace with it then store it in some memory file if you wish or totally try to dismiss it. that is my experience, i did the store and dismiss thing for a long time and it worked really well. but then i started getting in trouble for anger management and i started lookin inside myself to find out where the anger came from using dr.phils advice and in his books he has you go back to your childhood which i dont remember alot, but he makes you go back and remember any time that may have written on your slate as he says, well i did that and i brought it back in my life which turned into more grief and anger.
not an expert just experience.
