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August 30, 2007, 1:28 pm PDT

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Someone correct me if I am wrong. In my opinion, Christmas lights would not burn someone like the burns the child had at the end of the show. If they were capable of doing that would they not burn down the Christmas tree. If they could, would the child not wake up before the burns got as bad as they looked on TV?

I agree, and apparently so did Dr.Phil. I'm sure in 'both' family case, he looked into everything and made sure the help they needed was followed through.

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August 30, 2007, 1:42 pm PDT

IS IT JUST ME? ....(or am I just old?)

When I watched the show today, the first thing I thought about, during the first family, was Betty Broderick! The ex-wife (in the first family) reminded me of her! I can see re-runs, (playing along

her storyline) from "American Justice" .

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August 30, 2007, 2:10 pm PDT

08/30 Step Monster

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I am the step mother and all i can say is i have done everything i could for my step-son and his mother i used to take her clothes shopping with me get our nails done but she does not like me because her parents and everyone of her friends knows she does nothing for her son. just because there man left them for someone else and r happy does not mean u have to make everyone unhappy and that means the kids. the women said on the show today that her child gets sick and cries when he has to go to there fathers house. i go through that all the time and my step son says that his mommy told him to act like that no offense but i believe the child. All i know is if u r old enough to have children learn to act like adults

You are so right. 'Step parents' get a bad representation....they are not necessarily the reason why their spouse left! Obviously, when families break up, their are a lot of emotions....but the children need to come first! They can't be 'forced' to have to choose one parent over another.

Life goes on, and new relationships will happen.

also...., as in the second story's case, IF "child abuse" is suspected, it should be brought to the attention of the proper authorities. I'm sure Dr.Phil looked into today's case very thoroughly.

Not ALL step-parents are 'bad'.......and not ALL 'parents' good.... "REAL" or otherwise....all children need a parent who's love and guidance will get them through their lives.

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August 30, 2007, 2:32 pm PDT

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You know, the new wife here worked with the old wifes husband closely and talked about how much she liked him... right. If they weren't having sexual relations before he was divorced, I'd be surprised. In the least, the husband had it on the mind. Whether or not the original wife was cheating, Mr. Husband had his standby and I'm willing to bet that the wife knew it, hence the cheating. The old wife is jealous (rightly so) and angry that she helped build an empire with her husband that she can no longer enjoy. Truth is, when the new wife gets old the rich husband will trade her in too. If old wife really got 300k from the husband in initial court proceedings, she should have invested it in a business of her own.

The new wife had her eye on that rich man from the get go. Husband probably did too or he wouldn't have hired her. She looks like a better version of his wife, and if she was really career oriented, she would be working now. But of course she does not have to, because she bagged the rich guy. The kids are just an afterthought, she is willing to put up with the kids to live in a house like that. Remember she probably wasn't making more than $12/hr working for him.

Women of the world should hold indepenent assets because when your husband leaves you you might end up with nothing. Love is just a four letter word.

The best thing the old wife can do is start taking care of herself and focusing on her own finances, be glad that the kids can still enjoy dad's money and move on. When you get out of the picture then problems between husband and new wife will arise. Right now the new wife has someone to be "greater than" and that brings them closer in their fight against you. Take yourself out of the picture and then see how much they have in common.

please,please, please, please, PLEASE!!! It doesn't matter "who did what to who!!!" I don't care who slept with who......the point on today's show was.....THE CHILDREN!

Look up,on aetv.com " investigative reports" The first two paragraphs of your statement ring eerily true to how Betty Broderick felt when her husband (Matthew) left her and married someone else. Her jealousy,and anger turned to murder! Marriages break up....the children suffer.....and they suffer more if they are forced to choose sides.

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August 30, 2007, 3:17 pm PDT

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I am a 32 year old stepmother of three wonderful little boys. I was totally stunned by the way the stepmother in the second family was treated by Dr Phil. I know I have had to struggle to be a good stepmother because of their biological mother interfering causing trouble every time she gets a chance. To say a stepmother does not get a vote in what goes on with the children is harsh and down right wrong. Because I have just as much say so as their mother and father. Not all stepparents are these cruel monsters. Sometimes it is the feelings of jealousy and hate by the exs that causes the trouble. I myself have had their mother to my house for dinner on two seperate occassions attempting to be kind and mend some sort of a relationship. Only to later have their mother use it against me. I am disappointed in a hero I had Dr Phil. I am so upset that people say stepparents dont get a vote. Sometimes we do when the biological parents are not fullfilling their roles as the parents. The biological mother is NOT always the poor pittyful victim...as some women in today's society seem to want everyone to see them as.

Dr. Phil did NOT say step-parents don't get a vote.....to his defense(not that he needs any), he said.....children have a right to loved by all 'parents', and should not have to be forced to hide, or not have feelings for the 'new' parent. He said, they should not be caught in the middle of all

the arguments, and to let the "adult' issues be between the adults.

He did not come across as favoring the biological mother at all.....and personally, I didn't look favorably at... 'either....' of the 'real' moms. I'm a divorced mother of 4 boys(now grown) . ALL I cared about was that they knew we loved them, and eventually....so did the new parent we both, eventually found......and became step-parents ourselves, with the new life we started.

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September 19, 2007, 1:41 pm PDT

Can't we just get along?

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WOW! This is truly amazing to me that there is so much animosity between neighbors. I find these responses to be mind boggling to say the least, and the show itself was just as upsetting to see humans react to one another this way.

Obviously, I think that we've all experienced some type of differences with people in general. However, how does it get to the point of such pettiness? I mean come on now, we all know that there's a certain level of respect for others. You don't do unto others as you would not have done to yourself...isn't that the Golden Rule? Isn't that what promotes peace and harmony, not only within, but around yourself too?

My neighborhood isn't perfect, however, we don't have the problems in which have been displayed here. We even had an unfortunate death of a child next door, just a freak accident, but the death of a young precious life all the same. The child was also a resident here from only a couple doors down. A playmate of my daughter's, and 'best bud' to her. These neighbor's are related, and unfortunately it ended in a law suit. Now, without doubt this created a great disturbance in the neighborhood, but I never witnessed these two families resorting to such ill manners that have been portrayed here today. I think people get so caught up in every day stresses that they forget what's really important in life, and what's truly a battle to put their energy into. I can understand about a septic failure completely, and agree that matter is one to address. On the other hand, to watch that lady going around town gossiping and showing pride in it? That's childish. Ok, so maybe no one is comfortable with sex offenders. On one hand, there is a difference between sex offenders and child molestors. Secondly, if they're sex offenders, they must register...at least you know where they are. What about all the ones that haven't been caught yet? It's just good parenting to monitor your childs where abouts as well as your own.

It is unbelieveable isn't it? As if there are not enough problems in the world "worth" fixing! Dr. Phil had a good point when he asked her about being a "litagator"....Seriously, LOL, she didn't even know what the word meant until he refrased his wuestion to, ..you just like to sue people ! That woman is a total nutcase, and Dr.Phil, or no Dr.Phil....she will never change. I think she is also delusional, cuz she believes Kevin had started to all those because she wouldn't go out with him for drinks!!!!???? I can't stop laughing at her for that one. It's basically a problem of grow up, and mind your own business....JMO

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September 24, 2007, 5:16 pm PDT

09/24 Bishop T.D. Jakes

With this new set-up, it has taken me over an hour to find 'today's' show comment section. I'm lost. So hopefully this is it! On today's show, Tiffany, lost her 3 yr.old son because of a gun that was under a pillow, and he came across it. I truly feel her pain! I have four son's myself, now grown and on their own, but when they were small, everything that hurt them, hurt me. I would cry because they fell and had to get stitches, and I'd feel guilty cuz I should of watched him better and he would not have fell. Guilt is a terrible thing...and when your actions cause something terrible to happen to your child, guilt can become all-consuming. With that said: I am not writing this to "add" to this woman's pain. I am not here because I believe in gun control,or don't believe in it. I was truly touched by her story, and no one should have to bear the pain of losing their child. I am writing this because we see, all to often, how children accidently get a hold of a gun and and shoot themselves, or someone else. How many times does this kind of thing have to be seen on the news before parents wake-up, and ensure that if they feel they need a gun in the home for protection....keep it out of the reach of children! Coming to Dr.Phil and sharing her story must have been difficult, and we can only pray that it helps spread a much-needed awareness of gun safety. Children.....and guns......are NEVER a good thing to have "together". It breaks my heart when I hear of something like this.... It breaks my heart ....

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September 25, 2007, 4:12 pm PDT

Man Camp!!!

In this day and age, with alcoholism,child-abuse,-and spousal-abuse "out-of-the-closet" , not ignored like in the 50's or 60's, it seems no one " learns" anything....and "friends" that actually "see" these things going on just look the other way, or tell themselves it's non of their business.....YES...IT IS YOUR BUSINESS! Too many songs are being sung..."Concrete Angel"....download it !!! It's about a little girl who goes to school with bruises, "the teacher wonders but she never asks" "Somebody cries in the middle of the night...the neighbours hear, but they turn out the light" "when mornin comes, it'll be too late".... I don't want to come out hear and stand on a soap box!!!...I just think that with ALL the problems there are in the world...wars, starvation,tsunamis, earthquakes...our countries are quick to jump on the let's go help them wagon....when the "civilized" world they live in isn't always, and there are plenty of people right here that need help! DON'T look the other way...step in and help....if you can't...tell someone who CAN!!! CPS,Police etc. Don't even get me started on Britney spears.....enuff said....Dr.Phil, I hope you send this message out loud and clear!!!! Been there...no one helped..fortunately no one dies in my story...I didn't stay long enough to let that happen, some people (and I say men and women), just don't know what to do,and put up with it, or are to scared to do anything......

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September 27, 2007, 12:04 am PDT

Cranky Kids

I have 4 kids, all grown now. They were 4yrs apart approx., so when the youngest was born, the others were 4,8 and 12. Each with their own personalities. They would be cranky...but it was NEVER, every day...all day long! I never swore in front of them, and would not allow anyone else to. They never hit me, or bit me. Each had their "bad" period, or terrible two's....but nothing like I've seen today, One was fussy about meal-time...another was hard to get to bed, the 3rd was an angel, and never had much of a problem with, and the fourth, quiet and shy. I didn't spank. and a stern "Don't make me tell you again" worked 9 times out of 10. Don't get me wrong! They were not angels, there have been moments...I've seen Supernanny, and the Nanny...and I am in shock. I am not saying by any means that I was the greatest parent....we learn along the way too. I just never let it get THAT out of control. I guess I was lucky...

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September 28, 2007, 1:43 pm PDT

Let me tell you a story!

I live in Canada....and yes there are race issues....please tell me where there are not... In May, 2001....A graduation party was held at a home in a very "well-to-do" area near the town I live in. There were well over 100 kids, (high school..grade 12). Every color under the rainbow was there!, All the party-goers were invited. One of the invited guests..who by the way was white..brought 3 people who were NOT invited. One was white, the other 2 were asian...and all 3 were dressed in red...the color of the asian gang they belonged to..a gang who well known, and feared. They were asked to leave the party..there was no physical confrontation..but yes..some verbal...the asian gang is a tough one. Some of the guys stepped in, and finally the 3some...and the invited guest who brought them left....again....there was NO physical confrontation. They left....and came back with some friends...in 2 cars...7, at least, but probably more(not proven)...They sat in their cars..in the driveway...and waited! A young man named Matthew (19), and his girlfriend left the party...no one else was outside as they went to his car....the 7 "youths" waiting in the driveway got out of their cars...proceeded to punch, kick and beat Matthew in the head with a bat,! until his girlfriends' screams attracted some help, and they fled. Matthew died, 4 hrs later!...This year, 1 offender was given life for 2nd degree manslaughter...eligible for parole in 7 yrs.1offender was under 18, and as a "young offender"...will not have to spend much more time in jail.The "invited" guest , who is considered the "instigator", and driver, was believed to not have struck a blow, and after 6 yrs. he was released earlier this year for time served. 1 other plead guilty to misdemeanor, and is on probation! Don't know about the rest...still in court. Matthew, who is white, was savagely beaten to death, beyond recognition...by a well known gang,because they took offense to being asked to leave a party they were NOT invited to....3 of them were also not even at the party to begin with, but were "recruited"...to enact their 'revenge" MATTHEW, DID NOT DESERVE TO DIE !!! JUSTICE.....WAS NOT 'revenged' FOR HIM !!! This world needs a serious WAKE-UP call !!!

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09/24 Bishop T.D. Jakes

Man Camp!!!

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Let me tell you a story!