Quote From: flthomcatSorry, my opinion has nothing to do with the media. As a felony parole officer, I saw MANY women choosing men and/or drugs OVER their children. It sadly happens often. When people are addicted to drugs, they do horrible things to continue their habits. It is VERY sad. I had caseloads of 75-100 adults MONTHLY and many of those people I saw for long periods of time (years). You get to know people quite well when you see them (and their families) regularly and report to their homes unannounced.
And even more frustrating is when women think they NEED men. I have seen young, pretty women neglect their children and/or harm their children because of a guy. Yes, it's in the media often and perhaps you should consider all the times it goes UNREPORTED (like when a child is neglected, but it isn't ever reported). Go to any welfare office on a Friday (the first Friday of the month, normally) and see all the young women getting their checks as loser guys (unemployed, sometimes in gangs, babies by numerous women outside of marriage, etc) just WAITING for those checks. Often, it's the loser GUY who gets the money, not the children the money is intented for....
You may not agree with me, but I have some experience in this field.
And, yes, many people CHOOSE to be victims. Some choose to out of ignorance, but others choose to out of selfishness, irresponsiblity, immaturity, insecurity and other such bad stuff.... They MAKE themselves victims and only they can change their circumstances.
I see where you are comming from BUT there are many more women who choose to be great moms and not choose drugs and men over their children.In your line of work you probably don't get to see as many great moms out there as you do deadbeat moms who make the wrong choices
