Messages By: chromedaffodil

You see this in someone - you know it is happening - you are brave enough to stand up and stop it - but the county does not fully understand and recognize it - the courts take it lightly when considering for custody - because, oh yes, you are in a custody battle brought on by the person with this and more disorders. You are aware of a child she gave birth to in years past with no record of where that child is. Reporting it multiple times to children services, the court casa worker, the legal people and even begging her own doctor to report this to children services (he has the records of the live birth, yet she told them it was an error in their records) the office refused. Noone will help - she now has another child and fighting to get the one out of her custody back in her custody. At least in this area, society is blind to her stability - they just increased her time with her child. She has made no improvements. We want no harm to her, but help, although many people have outrage and hate for the ex - or the ex of your spouse - we TRULY dislike her actions, but try to extend grace to her and kindness and we at times, fail as we are human, but as many times as she calls and harasses, name calls and curses to name a few, we tolerate and give her chances to be better - to have phone time with her child, etc, we realize she has a mental illness/ brain difference and needs care for it. Although this does not and should not be permission to be alone with her children. My concern is the people who know and see these problems are people who are close to the mom, maybe to close, and when they bring it to the attention of the courts, etc. then they are accused of trying to just dig up dirt on the other person, etc. and it actually hurts their "case" and allows the mom more time alone in the end.... what do you do then - what do you do then?????? Help. please.

Thank you for your post. My husband and I are married three years and he is 9 years younger than me. I am 34. y ex is like 6 yrs older than me. The relationship we have is bonded in love and truth, no matter what, we are honest and share as friends, some of the most difficult thingand work on everything together. ya, he is still a man, so he can frustrate me beyond belief. But he is humble enough to accept responsability and respectful to me when I ask him for forgivness when I mess up. We live, love and laugh together. I hope forever, yet however life goes, it is in God;s hands and we walk in faith. Take care :-)