Messages By: marthafocker

Quote From: turks_caicos

I actually felt bad for both women today.  I think 'swinging' is a fantasy of many men...maybe even many women.  But a 'fantasy' is just that...it's not real...it's only in your mind and you don't act on it.  I believe most people have fantasies about having sex with someone else.  After years with one person we all need fantasies to keep things exciting in bed.  But to destroy the self esteem, self worth, and trust of your partner to actually play out these fantasies is selfish and cruel.  In my relationships (one long marriage and one long-term relationship) I have found that a little play acting between partners will do the trick.  Dress up, turn down the lights, be someone else and have a fun-filled night---but do it together.  You'll have no regrets the next morning and a twinkle in your eye.

Quote From: sookecouple

What's bewildering to me is, why do people care what we do in our marriage if it doesn't affect you?  We've been married, and swinging for 25 years.  If you're happy in your marriage, it doesn't bewilder me how you could be.  Why are you concerned with those of us, who are not like you, but are just as happy?