Messages By: organgirl

I'm 25 and my husband is 48. He's my best friend, and I couldn't imagine being with anybody else. We started seeing eachother 6 years ago, I met him at church.  We've been married almost 3 years now, have 1 child and one more due in a few weeks.  We're very happy together. At first we turned a few heads, but both our families are now very accepting of us, and like us.  And at church people don't think anything of it.  If you share the same values and really love each other, I don't see why age would matter.  People told me before we got married that I could be a widow at an early age. I'm an organist, and have played at funerals and I know that death comes like a thief, and you could go at any age. I believe that we are meant for each other and that God will help us through any trials or tribulations. And if strangers think we look odd, who cares what they think. We love each other and we have the support of our family and friends.

I am the product of helicopter parents and now have 2 small children of my own.  My parents were so worried I wouldn't be able to handle the world, I wasn't allowed to walk to a friends house that lived 5 minutes away, walking distance, I wasn't allowed to date at all in high school, when I got a car I was only allowed to go to school, and work.  They were so afraid someone was going to kidnap me, hurt me, etc. Finally when I got to college, I met my now husband, and since my parents were so restrictive, I had to hide him for at least a half a year.  It's hard not to feel a little resentful, but I try to leave the hurt feelings in the past.  Now I have two children, 2 1/2 and 1, and I don't want to raise them the way I was.  There obviously needs to be some rules, but I want them to grow up feeling like they don't need to be afraid of everything, it's ok to take a risk, and to be able to fend for themselves.