Messages By: mitchem

dear significant people,

this is a very important subject.  am glad this was showed objectively, both sides.  great food for thought.  probably happens alot.  thanks for letting me share.

i have been involved myself.  what if we just said we were sorry and told the truth?  would that b so terrible?  i think she got herself in trouble by the little things she was caught and allowed to do like take a student to his house , ask him to help move a piano and that coded note???

she probably needs to move now and get honest at least about the flirtation.  and there should b more emphasis on this aspect in teachers training.  too bad.  u have to practice not being a flirt.  so much can b misconstrued especially when u r so naturally attractive. - cj

problems re alcoholism worry me.  my brother is one.  so was my father.  he can get violent.  my message is clear:  Do Not Throw out the Wine or any other alc. product they buy and own. !!!   my mom got her arm ripped open from doing just that.  do not provok them.  always find ways to avoid and get away fast.  they have too many rights and u need proof.  someitmes the system sends them back.  so please be careful.

no one wants to enable.  many of us dont know what to do.  - cj

hi.  its cj.  again.  2 lovely women took courage to present themselves and this issue.  the brunett i especially feel sorry for.  i can relate in that i also was abused.

this requires, in my mind, special help.  u have to consider that.  it is an important aspect of  who the vicitim was and who they have become.  it explains and helps relieve the burden and ease the pain for healing.

i would suggest a good, well checked out Female therapist who knows about women and abuse.  also careful and patient self analysis.  please let me know how it goes.  she can email me if she wants.

thanks for the opportunity and for tuning in.  - cj