Messages By: kristy_kymom

What in the world was the x-best friend doing there. Better yet why was the wife discussing the "behind closed doors buisness" with her knowing she was a "drama queen"! I have a friend that is very selfish and and self-distructive. I still choose to be her friend and the only way to have a friendship with someone like her is to keep my buisness to myself. There is absoluely no excuse for the two of them ganging up on him for the simple reason that he is not married to her and does not and should not be asked to give a crap what she thinks. He did not fall in love with nor choose to marry her. Who knows what any of us would do if we had two people backing us into a corner. I am in know way justifying his behavior, however I think it is completely insane to think any man could please two women and not go a little crazy. I hope Dr. Phil addresses that tomorrow. 

Karla you are an amazing and beautiful person on the inside and out, but right now I am absolutely in disbelief of what you have done to yourself. I have read the message boards and seen many people from our community and their comments about you and your husband. I see way more good than bad. We are the people who have known you from the beginning and we know that you are not like you appear at this time. I have thought about you almost constantly since I saw the show and wonder if you remember how happy you use to be. We miss you and you have been lost to us for such a long time. I can not imagine the pain you must be holding inside and wish there was something I could do. I recieved a phone call from one of our classmates the day the show aired asking if I had seen it and when I told her that I had she began to laugh. I was absolutely irate and in disbelief that someone I have befriended would see this as an opportunity to gossip. Dont doubt that I didnt take a moment of my time to remind her of how perfect she has been and commend you for seeking help. People are very cruel and mean. I think you will be suprised at the amount of people who are standing up for you in a positive way because we believe in you. Please let Dr. Phil help you and your family. You have an entire community of family and friends that are praying for you and wishing you happiness. Good luck girl, hang in there it wont be easy but you dont have to do it alone.

Karlas mom passed away and she is an only child.

Karla needs help and there is nothing funny about someone hurting so bad inside that they cant control the emotions they have inside. Obviously something you havent experienced. Dont point your finger at at anyone but yourself and see how that works for you!

Just wondering still why the wife is talking about her marriage to this toxic person. How would she feel if it were one of his buddies bashing and name calling her all the time? Amy seems to be the only person who cares what you think Heidi. Cant wait for Dr. Phil to get in there and let her have it. Butt out!!! If he calls you a whore its because he is sick of you! Amy likes this drama end of story. If she is going to stay in the relationship with him Heidi has to go!

Dr. Phil seems disgusted in this and very detached from this. I think he is looking at Amy thinking "that big eyed innocent act isnt working here sister! Get real!" Maybe he is saving it till the end to let them all have it. Bottom line they all need to grow up!!!!        Kristy

Dr. Phil "What is changed now that says you arent going to do this again"

Response "I uh I went through a lot of things in my childhood that I really didnt want to blame on anyone and uh I know now that I have to................."

That had what to do with the question? Are you even paying attention?

The suprise to me was that Dr. Phil did not go after the x-bestfriend. It was obvious to me and everyone else that she was toxic and I dont understand why Dr. Phil didnt say anything to her. Unless maybe that was how he attempted to make his point. She did not belong on the show and definatly does not desrve to be involved in their marital issues. I hope Brandon can get the help that he needs. Amy should "own" her decisions and quit with the innocent act. Both of them need to start a new life without anyone on an intimate level and "get real" so they can "empty the baggage"

Amy isnt as weak as she wants everyone think she is. She has ganged up on her husband with Heidi and anyone else who would take her side. Brandon has some serious issues and he really needs help. Many people have said that Brandon is an abuser and they never change. Its very hard to change when everyone around you is saying you cant. I dont believe that it is wrong for Amy to believe in her husband. My father was very abusive for 12 years, but he did change. The last 11 years of his life he attended church and therapy and really was a devoted father and husband to us. My mother divorced him and it was like a wake up call. They started from scratch. He was out of the house for 3 years with no "sleepovers" only 2-3 hour visits. Brandon needs help. The only way he can is to work on one thing at a time. He has to fix his self before he can fix the relationship with Amy. Heidi is not wrong for not wanting her friend to be in an abusive relationship, however telling Amy that if she goes back to Brandon she wont be her friend anymore I do not agree with. Amy needs a true friend who advises her, not one who says do it my way or Im not talking to you anymore. Thats very selfish and childish. She loves her husband and wants to believe in him and that isnt wrong.

The show was so much like my mom and grandma today. I remember growing up the tension when the two of them were in the same room. Granny on the phone as soon as she walked out the door to everyone she knew, 'oh my god you should see these girls and how filthy they are and starved'. Of course we were dirty and hungry we came straight from school and that was back in the day when we had real recess. Mom always used to say that she liked my dads first wife better and thats just how it is. She has told me since I have grown up about some of the things she would say to her and I remember what she said about her to other people. I can also remember being the little girl who thought they were both great and could not understand why they didnt like each other, as far as screwing up my life it didnt happen. I might have spent five minutes if that everytime something like that happen pondering what was up. My point is I knew my granny hated my mom and that my mom really didnt give a crap and I loved both of them. No point in keeping the kids away from grandma they will form their own opinions. Later on in life when they are pissed at mom for something rather than run the streets cause they dont want to go home they will know they can just go to grandmas and have a 'bash mom day' and vise versa. Plus it teaches them to work through differences rather than to hide from them. Granny does need to stop saying she destroyed her life and blah blah blah and mom needs her butt kicked for beatin up on grandma, but it will hurt the kids worse in the long run if they dont get time with grandma. I agree with Dr. Phil everybody just needs to chill.