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September 13, 2007, 12:35 pm PDT

Firefighter husband!

I'm just curious is to why this so-called-handsome (yeah right) firefighter is not reprimanded by his superiors? Also, I wonder how he reacts to attractive women that he rescues during his on-duty time? Does he squeeze in an extra feel, what if he has to perform mouth-to-mouth on a young girl in distress? I would be very worried about this guy continuing as a firefighter - after all that is a public position! And, what is up with his wife? How many nannies does she have to go through before she sees the light!

 

Joke: How many nannies does it take to have sex with a firefighter husband? As long as the wife keeps hiring and hiring and hiringand hiring!

 
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September 21, 2007, 12:46 pm PDT

Does age matter?

Dr. Phil,

 

While I see today's guest as a person who did not think things through before she started this relationship, I see a double standard here involving younger mates. She is creating a great deal of stress in her son's life because after all, this young man is (was) his friend. I'm thinking that when young men brag about sex with their girls, they are clearly not talking about their friend's mothers.

 

Now, here is where I say there is a double standard here - Hugh Hefner has been dating women that could be the same age as his great-granddaughters. But nothing negative is being said about Heffner doing wrong. Why is that Dr. Phil?   

 
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September 21, 2007, 12:49 pm PDT

Age matters?

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My husband and I have experienced these funny looks too, and I have had my husband mistaken for my father!  I find this is more embarrassing for the people who make the mistake than for us. We have the healthiest relationship of anyone I know, so what does it really matter? Your message made me smile, just had to reply to it.

I can certainly agree with you on this one. I asked Dr. Phil why is it that older men don't get the sneers and snickers when thet date younger women, but the women do? That is just totally wrong here. Hugh Hefner has been dating women that can be his "great-grandaughters" for years now; and what does America think about that - WAY TO GO HEFF! iS ALL YOU HEAR. Talk ablut double-standard here!
 
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September 21, 2007, 12:53 pm PDT

I think I just threw up in my mouth!

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I think I just threw up a little bit in my mouth!

 

Good lord woman - what the HELL are you thinking?  Why would you EVEN ask anyone if they think this relationship is close to OK?  You already know the answer or you wouldn't be asking.  You just don't care that it's so hideously wrong because it makes *you* feel good at a time in your life when you're not feeling good about yourself.  Foisting yourself on a boy - yes, he's still a boy - isn't going to make you feel any better once you pull your head out of your ... wherever it is right now.

 

You are absolutely exploiting the fact this boy doesn't have a good relationship with his own mother and salving your own hurt feelings over the disintegration of your marriage.  Does it hurt and make we women question our attractiveness, femininity and worth when we experience a breakup or divorce?  Of course it does!  But REAL adult women don't seek comfort in the arms of another - especially a child and especially a child who needs a stronger relationship with his OWN mother, not someone else's.

 

Shame on you for doing what you know is wrong just because it serves your immediate needs.  Shame on you for doing this to your children - all of them - but most of all to your oldest son.  You've not only molested his best friend and probably ruined the friendship between them; you've not only ruined your credibility as his mother and caused him to question his importance and your love for him - but you've undoubtedly humiliated him in front of friends and family alike.  He's paying for your misdeeds - count on it.  And I can't even begin to imagine the damage you've inflicted on your other children through your selfishness.  Shame on you indeed!

 

The difference between a true grown-up and a person of adult age is that a true grown-up, especially a parent - knows the right thing to do, even if its difficult, and does it because it is the right and responsible thing to do - and the right and responsible thing to model to others.  The person of adult age does what he or she darned well pleases without consideration of consequences to others, just because it feels good or fills a need right here and now.  You know better - now do better!!!

 

While I know as sure as I'm breathing you know how wrong this is - even if you had a question in your mind you certainly didn't need to go on national TV and advertise the fact you're a selfish, immature and unfit mother.  All you had to do was simply put yourself in either your son's shoes or the place of your victim's mother.  Turn the tables lady - how'd you like it if the mother of one of your son's friends seduced him behind your back and then tried to justify it?  How'd you like it if the father of one of your daughter's friends slept with her - even if she was 18?  How would you have liked it if your father carried on with your best friend when you were in high school?  No way you would like any of those scenarios.  Here's a clue - you wouldn't like it done to you and/or yours, so you don't do it to someone else.  It's a concept I taught both of my sons from a very early age.

 

Finally - I have two sons - 22 and 15.  I thank my lucky stars both of them are self confident young men who would never even entertain the idea of such an inappropriate relationship - especially with the parent of a friend.  But there's little luck involved - their self confidence and good values are a product of my teaching, my modeling and my choices as their parent.  My parenting skills are a product of my own incredible parents - who both broke the cycle of dysfunction from their childhoods and modeled making good, adult decisions even if they were tough ones or required self sacrifice.   That's what parents do - they sacrifice for their children and they do the right thing, no matter how difficult or selfless it is.

 

I don't have a problem with age differences in relationships between true, consenting adults.  But an immature, emotionally needy 17-year-old doesn't magically become a mature adult just because he has a birthday.  And no matter what kind of BS you tell yourself about how you have so many things in common - by your own admission, this is just a selfish fling for you to make yourself feel better.  He doesn't know what it is.  Someone needs to grow up here and do what's right - and that someone needs to be you!

 

I have one question for you ! DO YOU THROW-UP IN YOUR MOUTH WHEN HUGH HEFFNER PARADES AROUND WITH HIS "GREAT-GRANDAUGHTERS" AGED GIRLFRIENDS??
 
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October 30, 2007, 1:00 pm PDT

Body Dysmorphia

 

I was very amazed at today's guests, thinking that they are the ugly ones, walking around depressed mostly about their facial features. Well, if they are calling themselves ugly, then I must be the most beautiful woman on the earth.

 

Here is what I "truly" look like and what my body looks like : I recently had a double mastectomy about a year ago, now I walk around with breast that was augmented from borrowed fat from my belly. And, I do not have any nipples, YES that is corredct, NO NIPPLES. I also have a scar on my belly that extends from one hip to the other - sort of like a big closed-lipped smile. As far as my face, I have deep black spots that even make-up can't conceal. One day, while in the mall a small child asked me if bees has stung my face and asked if it hurt! Of course, her mom was red in the face, but I said it was ok, she's just a child. You want to feel hurt, just let a child voice their opinion; in public loud and clear, about someone who has visable flaws.

 

These women are being self-centered and have not really taken a look at the "other" world, the world where people are maimed and scarred to save their lives, but not for cosmetic reasons. What is so surprising to me, is that people who have plastic surgery on their faces looks worst than before they had the surgery. Keep what God has given you and stop trying to change yourselves to please the world, you have to please yourself first.

 

Lastly, I've never heard of this disorder, but I guess this is just another one to add to the books! What will be next??  

 
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October 30, 2007, 1:01 pm PDT

BDD

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There are plenty of beautiful women in other countries. The reason you won't see them claiming they have BDD is because women in other countries are not consumed with this quest for body perfection like women in the US. The celebrities in Hollywierd keep the plastic surgeons there in mansions and jaguars.They are never satisfied. Look better and younger is their mantra. So women like the two on the show and plenty of others feel like they will never reach the level of perfection that is set by these shallow women.

Instead of being satisfied with the way God made them, non-celeb women want noses and lips and butts and boobs that look like the celebs'. Getting these look-a-like parts will not make them satisfied. They will still stand in front of the mirror and find something lacking. Once upon a time this was called "being stuck on yourself". In this day and time there has to be a name for everything.

Anybody who has looked at a National Geographic can attest to the beautiful women in other countries; developed or third world. Most of them do not have time to stand for hours and pick out faults in their bodies. They accept what they have and go on.

And many a good mother has told her child "eat. children are starving in other countries." Nothing wrong with it. It is the truth. Children in this country need to know that not everybody can just drive up to a building and talk to a machine and then pull up to the first window and get their food. Spoiled children are just as good an example of the "all about me" way of thinking that these two women on the show exhibited.

I completely agree with you! Kudos for you to point that out!
 

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