Quote From: angelhand24Dr. Phil,
I am disappointed in the fact that you didn't ask one of the most obvious questions. If this woman believed that she was molested by her father, then why would she ever have allowed her child to be around this man, and further, why would she have allowed him to spend the night at her parents home, under any circumstances? This seemed rather conflictive with her story, raising many questions as to her own credibility.
There were many unanswered questions that should have been addressed.
How old was the father when he and his siblings were engaging in sexual activities. As a foster parent, I had five children, all siblings, who were close in age, and had experimented sexually with each other when living with their parents. When this information came to my attention, I arranged for these children to have in-depth counseling. During the counseling, the counselor explained that this was not considered children molesting each other, they were all acting out what they witnessed in their home, and because of their ages, this was considered experimentation. So, could this have been similar in his household, as I didn't hear this topic explored in depth or hear the ages of the siblings at the time of the incidents. I am in no way taking sides with this man, and if he committed these atrocities, then he should be punished accordingly, however, I got the sense that there is more to this story than was provided on your show. Also, I would like to see this man take two more polygraph tests with two separate independent sources, to see if the results are the same. I am not trying to offend the person you used, however, in my experience in law enforcement, those tests are only as good as the individual who is interpreting them. They can be subjective, therefore, it would be fair to have other sources repeat the test, to see if the result is the same. In my experience in law enforcement, it is not completely unreasonable for someone to interpret these tests, with the results leaning towards the clients expectations, it happens all of the time. Having said that , in all probability the man is guilty, as pedophiles do not rehabilitate, and he could be in complete denial, using his religion as a place to assuage his guilt. The person that I see here who is most culpable, is the wife of this man. She clearly admitted knowledge of his behaviors, and witnessed first-hand the abuse of the daughter, which defies all logic! Apparently, she was more concerned about her own financial or emotional security than her own daughters, which is horrendous and a very selfish position to take!! It also makes me believe that she knows much more than she revealed on stage today. She attempted to take a victim role for sympathy purposes, pathetic at best. Only when she felt the sting of the audience, did she pull away from her security blanket, appearing to be appalled at the developments. In a trial of peers, she would certainly be considered guilty of not protecting her daughter, and it was very interesting how quickly she withdrew her support of him, as soon as she realized this was not going in his favor. I felt she was not being honest in her responses, and to suggest that she and her husband are not really together, yet sleep in the same bed, then pointing out "But it is a queen-sized bed" as though that made all the difference and demonstrated that she was not close with him - what a joke!!! I was most offended by her and her passive-aggressive behavior. If I were here daughter, I would seriously question her mother's lack of ethics and credibility. For what she allowed at the age of two weeks, as there is absolutely NO viable excuse for how she responded in that situation! I guess, that when and if he goes to jail, she will not have to worry about losing her home or security, unless her daughter decides to sue them in civil court for everything they've got, and she should!
Still, the question remains - why did the daughter allow her son to be in the presence of this man, if she believed that she had been molested. She has to take accountability for her own actions regarding that situation, as she was his protector, and it would seem that she allowed a known predator to prey on her own child. That part is very confusing, as I can't imagine ever allowing my own child to be with someone who I believed had done such horrible things to me! I guess the truth is somewhere in the middle!
I agree with everything you said there. And didn't I hear on yesterday's show that she let her son stay with the grandparents for about 1 year while the mother was getting her act together? What's up with that?
And she can't really remember her father doing it, she just has dreams about it.. I am not by a long run taking the fathers side but I kind of agree with the brother. He don't know who or what to believe. At the end she said that he will never see her or his grandson again. Well, duh,.. that should have happened when he was first born.
