Messages By: kittty56

I'm just starting in middle of the show here, but in regards to Dr. Phil's questions regarding this guy on the show not wearing his wedding band because he's a automotive mechanic. There seemed to me to be some skepticism from Dr. Phil about his explanation of this. I work in the heavy equipment industry, and we are not allowed to wear rings or necklaces since they are a safety hazard. If you insist on wearing these items during work, you will be told to leave, and our union backs up the company on this. Gold is an excellent conductor of electricity and rings and necklaces can get snagged on all kinds of things when you're working on engines. If I wear it to work, I don't always remember to put my wedding ring back on after work, and more often than not, I don't bother taking it to work with me, anyway. My wife understands this and doesn't have a problem with it, because she would rather me come home uninjured. Just my two cents.

What they need is a spiritual higher power, for me it is God. He needs to go to meetings for his addiction, get a sponsor and work the 12 steps. She needs to go to meetings as well and learn about her husband sickness, it's just like cancer you cannot do wrong for wrong the bible tells you that  for better or worst is a vow in God eyesight  you need to  ask God  for forgiviness. Your son is acting  out because  of you  guys disfunction when you  get  right  he'll get right .I know because I am  a  victim of  this. I'm a  recovering  addict  working  this program, dealing  with  trust with my  wife but for the grace of  God  with my meetings and support with addicts like me I am making it.HER MOTHER HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH HER DIVORCEING HIM OR NOT IT'S JUST AS MUCH HER FAULT AS HIS SO GO TO GOD IT'S THE ONLY WAY,SUPPORT HIM AND GET TO GO TO MEETINGS AND EVERYTHING IS GOING  TO BE ALL RIGHT. I HOPE YOU GUY'S GET  THIS  MESSAGE  MY DEED IS DONE GOD BLESS.

I couldn't disagree with you more, and I say that because I'm living proof.  When I got married back in 1974, I was 19, immature and selfish.  I had no real idea what marriage and commitment was really all about.  I was unfaithful pretty much the entire time during my 17 year marriage.  My conduct during that marriage was shameful and dishonorable.  After the separation and divorce, something happened:  I grew up and matured.  I looked back on the pain my wife endured when she learned of my unfaithfulness.  No one deserves that.  I waited 11 years before I got married again.  Being unfaithful was never an option.  I would never want to be responsible for ever putting anyone through that kind of pain again, especially someone I love.   There is no roving eye.  No lusting for other women.   I'm totally in love with and am committed to my wife.  To this day, and until the day I die, I'll harbor personal guilt for my despicable actions. 

So to suggest that a person can't change is to suggest it's impossible for any person to learn, grow, and mature as they go through life.  What a sad and chaotic place this world would be if that were indeed the case.  The majority of people are learning and growing from their mistakes all the time.  Unfortunately, there are some that don't.   

I can't believe how stupid all of these parents are. No wonder our kids are messed up these days - it starts with the parents and how they bring their children up. Can you imagine a mother giving her kid a mind altering drug and then wondering why he has no motivation - can you believe she can be so stupid. And then to supply it for him - she's a first class drug dealer. Teacher? What the heck kind of a teacher is she? If I saw her on TV and my kid was in her class I'd pull my child out of her class faster than she can give her child another hit of salvia.

The roller coaster mother who says "Oh do you mean I shouldn't take him to the park?" Give your head a shake lady - OF COURSE YOU SHOULDN'T - do you even need to ask such a stupid question. If my child was passing out intentionally I'd tie him to the bedpost and follow him around to make sure he didn't do it and get him into councelling with a good councelor.

What is with these parents these days - quit your jobs and stay at home and look after your kids properly - make sure they are brought up with morals and guidelines and dicipline.

I can't believe Dr. Phil talked so calmly to the idiot mother who gives her son salvia. He has more patience for idiots than I do

I cannot believe the likes of parents these days - fortunately not everyone is like these numb nuts that were on the show.