Messages By: firstsis58

 I can totally sympathize when it comes to not liking your son in law.  I started out loving mine, as was ecstatic when they got married.  I was there when my grandson was born and spent a lot of time at their home.  He and I exercise walked  everyday.  Then on Christmas night 2004 he went with my husband to a neighbor's house, he walked back  to our home drunk, started a fight with my daughter and when I tried to stop him from driving home drunk, he called my daughter a slut and a whore.  When he got home he called for 2 hrs and harrassed us and told me what a terrible parent I was.  Later that day he and my son were involved in an accident, my son was driving and my son in law wasn't wearing a seat belt, he got banged up and was treated and released from the hospital.  Thier marriage was rocky from that point on.  My daughter got pregnant and he talked her into having her labor induced so he could go on on a business trip.  He left 1 week after she had the baby, leaving her with a 2 yr old and a newborn.  She ended up with an infection and I had to take care of them all while he golfed with his work buddies.  They  separated in the summer of 06 he was verbally abusive and while he didn't hit her, he threw things and  put holes in the walls and he put his hand through a window. She took him back and he filed a lawsuit against my son that same year.  It is sched for court 04/08.  He is a liar, she snooped through my computer files for info for the lawsuit.  he also hit my other daughter's boyfriend in the mouth and tried to say it wasn't his fault.  He has injuries that didn't start until he filed the lawsuit.  We also found out that he cheated on her when she was pregnant with their first child.  He blamed me for him quitting his job ( I had him taken off our account, he was my sales rep at the place where I work).  Nothing is ever his fault.  We have caught him in so many lies.  We don't even bother to tell our daughter anymore.  We weren't allowed to see our grandchildren for 4 months.  We keep quiet now just so we can see them.  She says we all overeacted when the lawsuit was filed,she has also said that he filed it to teach our son a lesson, because he didn't apologize after the accident.  He hasn't been here in almost 2 yrs and as far as I'm concerned he is dead.  He doesn't have to worry about coming back to our home.  HE IS NOT WELCOME!  My husband talks to him just to keep the peace but I am done with that.  Good luck. I know how it feels. 

   My daughter and family moved in to a house last August.  Shorty thereafter, my 4 yr old grandson Willy started talking about monsters in his closet.  At first his parents thought it was just a 4 thing, but it was the same time every night and his story never changed.  He said it was 3 shadow men and they were yelling at him.  He would run to their bed, as this was happening my daughter would sometimes just crawl in bed with him.  She started to feel something tickling her arms and playing with her hair.  There were cold spots in the house, especially in my grandson's room.  They could feel their bed shake, and the sensation that someone was sitting on the bed alongside them. 
   I know someone who does paranormal things and when we contacted her, she and her group found 3 cowboys in Willy's  room, who were apparently lost and ended up killing each other to avoid being scalped by indians.  They later did a reading at the house and found a family of three who froze to death in a storm,and were in my grandson's room, which is why his room was cold.  They also found a man who at one time owned the property that my daughter's house sits on and viewed them as trespassers.  They were able to convince all of them to "go to the light"..We never told Willy  their names, but when he went back after the reading he asked about all of them by name!   He also told us a little about them. 
   A few weeks later he described a girl with yellow hair, and a boy with purple eyes.  My daughter could hear footsteps in the hallway and some of the boys things would disapear.  She came up stairs one night after hearing a thump, thinking one of the boys fell out of bed, she heard a little voice say, "lets get out of here."  When she checked ont he boys they were both asleep.  Now, her 2 yr old, Joe was starting to wake up screaming and running in to their bed, he would keep popping up and looking at the door, as if to expect someone to come in. Willy told her that the boy with the purple eyes was scaring his brother.   She again called my friend and and her group crossed 3 children, all family members who were killed in a storm.  She said there was a female famiy member waiting for them and they were glad to go.    My daugher feels that her grandmother is in the house, as she can smell her perfume on occasion.  My son in law thinks that his dead father and brother are there also.  The group found 2 guardian angels there when they did the first reading.  When we ask Willy if there are any more people in the house he says no. 
   He refers to the guardian angels as the men in blue.  He wrote on the siding with a red crayon, and when his dad came home he told him he didn't need to yell at him that the man in blue already did!  I always believed that there were spirits around us but this whole thing really opened my eyes.

 We have told our daughter for years to watch her money, now she is married with 2 young boys and heaven help us she married someone who, like her, hasn't learned to live within his means or save.  He has had 6 sales jobs in 5 yrs and is currently looking for a new one!  He looks at how much he can make, and expects to make it in the first year, and when he doesn't he leaves!  They have filed for bankruptcy, and may lose the house they bought a yr ago.  While I don't feel particularly sorry for them, I do feel sorry for the boys.  I had to pay an outragous daycare bill from last yr so that my grandson could go to pre-school.  I  paid it because he should not suffer for his parent's shortsightedness.  My daughter has a good job with a promising future, but she can't do it alone, and now that her husband can collect uneployment she is aftraid that he will do nothing until it runs out.  This generation is so all about themselves they fail to see beyond next week.  Eating out used to be a special occasion, but anymore it is the norm.   While I realize that not every money crisis is from careless spending, there are many many people who just never paid any attention to where their money was going.  

 We too, have given our kids money to avoid collection or keep something from being shut off.  I would never have dreamed of asking my folks or in-laws for money.  Found out recently that our son in law has literally drained him widowed mother's savings dry.  Not for neccesities, but for personal "needs"  like golf or clothes.  She won't tell him no.   He now sells insurance but has no money to pay for leads, so he isn't really working.  His job is 100% commision.   My husband at 50, has the body of a 70 yr old, full of arthritis from years of hard work.  We can't afford to keep bailing them out because we don't know how long he will be able to continue working.  I would rather buy my gransons shoes and clothes than give their parents money, at least I know that it's going where it is needed.  Our daughter works an evening shift so that we can watch the boys, and she doesn't have to pay for daycare.  She stays with us most of the week because they live 1/2 hr from here and she can't afford the gas to go back and forth.  This has led to problems because he doesn't understand why she stays here.  Their marriage is rocky, and this isn't helping.