Messages By: bhoney89

Whether you chose to or not that's up to you. I was forced to under a court order. My Mother and step-father (abuser) where getting divorced. It was extremely hard for me because I was being used a a pawn by my mother during the custody process. This was during the 1980's when it was very common for any scorned woman to make these claim's. If your question is will it help? Probably not. Healing comes in time and from within. You have to get to the point that I got to. You're o.k. wart's and all and by God it's not your fault. I finally got to a point of wondering what happened to him to do that to me. Now I feel sorry for the little boy who noone know's what happened to.

When I was 5 I told my mother about graphic detail's a 5 year old would never know. She chose to believe I was making it up which in turn made me live another 8 year's of a living hell. Then when it came time for the divorce guess who she conveniently chose to bring into it?

That is where I am today. I totally understand anything anyone has been through. I still have phobia's related to my abuse but I work through it every time. I used to have panic attack's. I worked myself through it too. Is it fair? No. Life's not fair. Better this than some other problem's people have. I can live through it. I look at my life as a badge of honor. Noone broke me. They tried hard but it couldn't be done. I'm here on Earth to love and live and that is what I will do.

 

Sue

 From my own experience with this I can tell you it doesn't get better. The only way it can is with some serious help. Psychologically and spiritually. I feel if she really want's to work on the marriage then why not live in seperate homes until she feel's it safe.  Child welfare need's to get involved and force her hand in this situation. If she won't leave at least take the child out of the situation.