Messages By: tracysimpson

Quote From: rainx3

The difference is that Adrienne's family was completely supportive of her relationship with Chris. She was also over 21 when she became involved with him. Adrienne has been around the block or two and has had enough experience in life to make informed choices. MARK has not been given that opportunity and Shelly has been doing what any other Perp does and that is to prep her "intended victim" when he/she is the most vulnerable and he/she doesn't have the emotional/physical knowledge and experience to know any better nor does he have any adult family members to protect his interests.  THAT is what makes Shelly's actions despicable! How about letting him get some education, experience, and independence so that he can make an informed decision. There isn't anyway he could learn what he truly needs or wants at this point. Adrienne is married to Chris. Shelly is a separated but MARRIED woman raising children. The situations are far from similar. Mark needs to develop into a independent young man before he can be a step-father. Which is exactly the role he will fill when considertion  of what is best for the remaining minors in Shelly's household. He is too young to fill those shoes! And if Shelly is telling him that he doesn't have to then she is clearly showing that her concern is only for her own emotional and sexual needs.  He is not in a position developmentally  to understand the big picture. SHELLY IS! What about his future? At 39, married commiting adultery Shelly can't give Mark children when he is emotionally ready for them. He can't make that kind of a decision at 18! He would be sacrificing too much being involved with this woman.