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November 28, 2005, 5:57 pm PST

11/29 "Fighting Over the Will"

my family had no issues when my paternial grandparents died. we were ALL given a chance to have a few items of value from their home and the money was divided equally between kids and grandkids. my grandparents being more well off than some were able to leave my dad and his sisters and all of us nine grand kids something in the willl and we all respected it. but then it was a case of we all were involved in figuring out how NOT to step on toes before they were dead and the will was read. and all of us have enough respect for each other and our grandparents and not fight over petty isssues.

I deteste people wo fight and bicker over stupid things like money when a loved one dies. it's stupid and not fair to the family as a whole for it was the DECEASED's money not the survivng relatives and it should be up to the relative to decide how the money/property/valuables are divided and not the rest of the families

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February 7, 2006, 6:35 pm PST

02/08 Deadly Eating

Quote From: peepinbud

I wish Dr.Phil would do a show on severe health problems that lead to obesity. Not all of it is wanting to endlessly eat. Even then I think if someone is DESIRING that much food to be eating all day, there is something seriously wrong with brain chemistry and there is some kind of satiety disorder going on.

. Normal people when they eat a meal, would rather throw up then eat again right away. There are folks with endocrine problems, and I believe fat is far more then just failure of will. I do not believe anyone becomes 1000lbs just from wanting to "pig out" Something is wrong with Paul, and while he definitely seems to have an eating disorder, some kind of inner drive to eat is in him. People do not wake up one day and decide Im going to eat my head off, I want to be bedbound, and disabled. it does not work that way. I believe the causes are far more physiological then psychological. While there are some cases of the psychological, someone that serious is definitely in the physiological realm. Think of people with Prader WIlli , they have to have food literally locked up because of the BIOLOGICAL urge to eat, it is the same thing.

Our food today has less nutrition in it, they literally pour growth hormones into it from giving it to the animals. High fructose corn syrup is one of the biggest causes of obesity also.

Here is what Paul should do.

1. Get tested for all endocrine disorders including ones that can affect saitey...it sounds like he has some severe form of a saitety disorder. Most likely his thyroid is off despite any eating disorder

Prader Willi, Diabetes,

Full medical scan--check for fluid retention. Most people do not realize that in these greater weights, much of the weight can be FLUID rather then FAT.

2. Consider enrollment in a rehab center for the severely obese, they are out there. There is one in Lincoln Nebraska called Madonna, there are nursing homes/rehab centers that focus on getting the wheelchairbound/bedbound severely obese mobile and active again in different states. Some in Ohio have been on the discovery network.

I tend to agree with the above. I have seen a few shows w/ the morbidly obese and it isint always the fact that the person over eats.

saw like a cnn doc on obesity last week that says that society being 'fat' is due to a lot of reasons. mostly due to enviroment (re: easily ready and available food 24/7) and the fact our bodys were more designed to be able to cope w/ lots of excersise and minimal food vs lots of food and little excrrsise. it also pointed out that not only was it a physilogical problem but also pointed out that lots of people have emontial problems that are soothed with food which leads to severe weight gain.

to me it makes sense it isint just like ONE reason although I have to (honestly) wonder why some people are like more affected than others.

i try not to judge a person in that siutation, its just that when you watch a show like TLC's 1,000 man and you hear stuff like that one of the people on the show could eat like *32* pork chops in one sitting, it's like how in the WORLD dosen't the brain and stomach say like 'STOP!!!!!!!! we are FULL'?

but then I am not in that situation and I wouldn't wish it on anyone in the world

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April 12, 2006, 8:01 am PDT

to michelle

michelle--

please listen to all of us on this list when we say stay away from chuck.

we have all been seventeen once and know that seventeen is NOT a worldly age.

do you realize what will chuck expect of you if you get married? you'd have to do housework, get a job. have kids, be a stepmom to ppl that ARE YOUR OWN AGE, you'd NOT have a life outside of family. you'd be ask to sacrifice A LOT for the marriage. do you REALLY REALLY, REALLY want THAT OR, be able to spend the rest of your teens and twenties having fun, finishing school and finding out what you REALLY want? trust me it'll be a lot harder to find yourself when you are married to an old man and having to care for him when you are in the prime of your life with no hopes for the future till it's too late

parisfan

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April 12, 2006, 12:11 pm PDT

04/12 Dangerous Love

Quote From: bass61688

I am the 17 yr. old that is engaged to Chuck. In Indiana, it is quite legal for us to be together. We are not getting married until I am done with college and have my career under control. We want to make sure I am ready for that commitment. We have been together for a year and a half, and that is a hell of a lot longer than most people thought we would make it. As far as children go we agreed not until I am at least 28. Chuck is a great guy, and a great father. He is stable and encourages his children to do what they believe is right. Which is why we went on the show. So watch what you say, you never know, the heart of me could be the face of your child one day. Think about that.

Michelle

if he is SUCH a great guy why did he sleep with you at fifteen? dude SHOULD have kept his hands OFF YOU! i was fifteen once and didn't know half of what is out there.

if that was me and a male of forty five wanted to date me i'd say take a hike and find someone else his age to sleep with.

why? cuz you are at an age where you need space to find yourself and having an older man in your life is not the right thing to figuring life out.

hear me out michelle--what happens in twenty years when he's retired and you are thirty and you want stuff OTHER than him? what happens if that twenty years is possibly wasted cuz he couldn't keep it in his pants?

parisfan

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April 21, 2006, 3:17 am PDT

am disgusted

I haven't seen the show yet but from reading the blurb on the first story i couldn't help but wonder where the chaps head was when him and his (now ex)girlfrend were having sex. it's one thing to SAY you DON"T want to be like a dad when she is pregnant but he should have thought of that before he did the 'deed' and put on a condom so there'd be less of a risk of pregnacy.

i don't mean to sound anti-man. I am all for equal rights in many areas for both sexes including procreation but i tend to feel that it's a man's choice weather to be a dad or not AT THE TIME OF SEX and not after the child has been conceived. by then it is too late to say 'oh, i am SORRY, i am going to shirk my responsibily and not BE a dad cuz i was think with my penis 10 mos ago and not my brains and didn't stick on a condom'.

that is SO wrong to think that once a pregnacy happens to try and back out with some dumb ass excuse when a little protection could have gone a long way to resovle this issue

parisfan

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April 22, 2006, 4:40 am PDT

what???

haven't seen the show but from watching the show i am already scratching my head--what is wrong with a few people out there that cannot accept that their spouses can't always look like they are twenty something? yeah, sure you can try and be healthy and all but our bodys do 'change' as we get older it has been proven--it's called aging and it seems like real ignorance to me if you cannot accept some as is.

parisfan

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April 26, 2006, 5:33 pm PDT

being morbidly obese

i quiet realize that there are those of us who are more predispose to being larger, god knows I have had to watch what i eat, the issue i have is like HOW do you let yourself get to be 700 pounds?

I can see being like anywhere from 20 to one hundered pounds overweight and it being due to genetics or health reasons but at like 700 there HAS to be serious reasons like WHY you'd let yourself go like that.

now i havn't seen the show yet but yet i didn't beleive the bit in the promo where she claims that her body blew up after being bitten by a spider. YEAH RIGHT! that's highly unlikey

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May 8, 2006, 5:46 am PDT

i feel sorry for the kids

haven't seen the show yet but from reading the overveiw i must say I feel awfully sorry for the kids.it sounds like no way to live.

obviously the mum needs a lot of help and I was kind of hating the fact that dr. phil didn't take the kids out for the home for a while and allow a cooling off period and give these kids a chance for normalcy while things are figured out

yeah, i do agree that mental and emotional help is so obviously apparent there but i'd also call for some distance so the mum can like get a better grip on things before she deals with any kid again. and then i'd put the conditon of if she EVER hurt the kids again they'd be removed permanetly from the home

parisfan

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May 14, 2006, 7:14 am PDT

in laws

with my parents and grandparents it was UNDERSTOOD that if one wished to vist a call first to check to see if once come over was appreciated, that advice was not proffered unless ASKED for, all problems were worked out rationally and away from the heat of the moment.

not to say it wasn't perfect but we DID try to respect boundaries that were set. it also helped that all four of my grandparents had busy lifes with things OTHER than their kids to do (ie, church, social events/groups to attend, hobbies, friends) so it's not like they were hovering over my parents 24/7.

but it seems like that in some cases the adult children don't set enough bouandries w/ parents and enforce it. that would solve a lOT of problems

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July 5, 2006, 8:11 am PDT

07/05 Liar, Liar

>>>Quote From: jenoc99

I'm sorry but I couldn't help but have a hearty laugh that you end your post with a quote from the bible... a book written by Santa Clause, edited by the Easter Bunny and illustrated by the Tooth Fairy.

Enjoying the mystery and magic of Christmas morning with the sparkle in a child's eye as they marvel at their gifts can't be compared to stealing a person's social security number, opening a credit card account, charging it up all the way and not paying a penny. To compare the two isn't logical or rational..... the only thing I see in your post is a person scrounging around for an excuse for themself<<<<

i agree. there is a difference between not destroying a childs innocence and out right lying about everything else.

i do beleive that one should live as honestly as possible--some times fudging things needs to be done. but if you can live as honestly as possible that is the best.

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11/29 "Fighting Over the Will"

02/08 Deadly Eating

to michelle

04/12 Dangerous Love

am disgusted

what???

being morbidly obese

i feel sorry for the kids

in laws

07/05 Liar, Liar