Messages By: sandralm33

It was a huge dysfunctional circle in my so called family. My mother's father was iligitimate which was very taboo in that time. But that was not his fault but was treated as so. He then took his anger out on my so called mother, who in turn took hers out on me.

As for my father's mother, she sexually abused her children which in turn caused his drinking etc I'm sure.

I did not have children due to health reasons. But I have no regrets that I did not have any.

But the way I see it. I am the better person since I did not abuse them as they did with me. And it is me that is taking therapy to try and deal with all of the issues. As for them, they have chosen to hide from all of the problems. But that is their choice and their life. And they have since learned I am not staying in their lives for them to bash down as they always did. Bottom line, it is truly sad they have decided not to better themselves.

"WHY are we not educating teenagers and pre-teens and even kids about recognizing the patterns of abusive behavior???  This should be part of every school's curriculum, in my opinion."

Agrees 100%. Especially now a days when bullying seems to be a HUGE problem, along with other types of fighting etc. When are people going to realize that all types of abuse gets people nowhere?

"The internal bruises are the worst, especially in children.  It changes their entire lives and does not allow them to be who they truly are, they never have a chance."

I agree 100%. I came from an abusive childhood. Mine was emotionally, verbally and extremely physical. And yes it has effected me in many ways. I am trying to get over this. But needless to say it isn't an easy road to walk.

I totally agree with you. My parent's should never have had children. Back the 50s and 60s when I was a child there wasn't much help then. And if anyone suspected anything, they chose to turn their head so they didn't have to get involved with anything.

I can admit to being locked up in the attic. It was so hot in the summer to the point I had passed out, and so cold in the winter. There was no lights, no windows, no floors or walls in this room, just itchy insulation to lean on and floor joists to sit on. I did not say anything to anyone when I was younger. As I knew my mother was capable of murder. Believe me I have many scars to prove that comment from my abuse.

I did not have children, one reason is I wasn't going to repeat this abusive pattern. Another reason is I have had severe back problems over the years due to all the abuse as well. I do not regret not having any children.

I had 3 siblings, one died just after I was born. My other siblings (her favourites) were also abusive to me. Needless to say I have had no contact with any of them after I ran at age 16 and running at 16 was the best decision I ever made. Where was my father during this time? Too busy drinking.

Now I am trying to deal with the worst case of post trauma stress disorder and my hatred and anger towards them all. Which needless to say this hasn't been an easy road at all to walk.