Messages By: mlblondie

Quote From: cathapy

Unfortuntaly I missed most of this show due to our local station breaking in with local weather information.

They do this a lot, and wont repeat a tape of the show later.  This was an interesting & serious topic & l looked forward to learning more about the people involved.  I would like to order a tape of the show & tried on the web site but couldnt get on.  Can you call & help me get a tape? 

Quote From: pocket523

I realize you think you are being helpful when you tell someone who is struggling with infertility that they should consider adoption; however, having struggled with infertility for 5 years, I can tell you from personal experience how insensative, inconsiderate and uneducated such a comment really is.  Until you experience the hell of struggling to concieve, you have absolutely no business dispensing solutions!  Adoption is a wonderful experience for some parents; however, it is NOT a "next best thing" to having your own biological child (and it NEVER should be!)  It is a completely different experience, one that should not be considered "the next best thing" when trying to become a parent.  I don't know whether to be outraged by the insensativity of this message or sad that this person is so clearly uncompassionate.  How dare you tell infertile couples to "just accept their life where they're at."  The pain of infertility is so deep and so personal, it is appalling to read such an insensative comment.  I'll admit, in the 5 years we struggled, I was faced with many comments like this.  Thank you Dr. Phil for bringing this subject into the spotlight.  It's so rare that anyone tries to tackle this issue, and it's very clear by this mindless, obtuse message, that it's a topic that needs to be discussed.  I hope you'll continue to do more features on infertility so those facing the unimaginable pain of infertility don't have to continue to be bruised by these simple-minded, hurtful remarks.

Quote From: skenski

I have taught for over 8 years in an inner city school district located in the mid-west. Although I have heard stories  and seen news reports even locally similar to this show's examples, I have never experienced anything like that in the two schools I have taught at. What I have experienced is so out of control children and such little support from the district or parents I find it very difficult to teach the curriculum outlined by the district and the state. Currently I have 24 students and 3 of them are on specific behavior plans. These plans include tracking sheets that I must stay on top of and record each student's behavior sometimes as often as every 20 minutes! I must also reward behavior that simply complies to school and classroom standards sometimes as often as three times a day. Each student's behavior must be logged daily to document successess and failures. Each student has an agenda and behavior tracking sheets that must be completed with detailed descripitons of behavior for parents to read, sign and have returned daily. I am required to meet monthly with the parents and the team which help to set up these behavior plans. Now on top of this...I have 21 other children I am trying to teach, assess, grade papers, file, complete lesson plans, tutor, prepare for formal observations, and keep up parent contacts with. I do all this with no additional help. We have no aids or PARA's. I work from 6:30 in the morning to 6:30 at night, come in and work work for 5 hours every Saturday, and of course take work home with me every night. Yes, some teacher's and schools are NOT doing what is right by our children. Sometimes that is through poor disciplanary procedures, but most often its because of too much paperwork and too little time actually caring and teaching the children we are given the responsiblility to teach each year.