Messages By: anhonestwmomen

Quote From: tanyachapman1

 Dr. Phil,

I am upset that this had to be a topic for your show.  I believe everyone should have a choice as to if they want to be responsible for someone else's child.  I am such a child, I was raised by my aunt and uncle and they provided me with financial and emotional support.  My biological mother was always in the picture but not my father.  The man I consider my father was amazing and he taught many valuable lesson in life, but it was his choice to be a father to me.  To this day I consider him the most amazing father a girl can have.  Women who trick men into being a parent make it bad for the rest of us.  Men as well as women should be given the opportunity to make that choice for themselves, to force someone to take on that responsibility is cruel and cowardice.

In the end the children suffer and why would you put a child through that?  What values are you teaching children?  In a society that is in the toilet as it is how can we expect our children to be honest and responsible if we live by deception.   Women don't do the deed and hide behind your skirt, be woman enough to face the consequences of your actions.

Quote From: mommomcarole65

I am so totally irritated with Gloria Allred.  Yes, we should get the "dead beat" dads, but don't take this out on men like Enrique.  He was lied to by Maria.  Yes, the way he told Selina is deplorable - but - he should not have to pay for Maria's lies.  Maria did a lot of laughing and smiling for such a serious matter.  I really wanted someone to wipe the smiles off of her face.  I do feel bad for Selina - she is in the middle and is just a child.  Mom should be hanging her head in shame and not trying to get money from Enrique since she lied to him for nine years.  SHAME ON HER!!!!  I am a mother of 4, grandmother of 12, great-grandmother of 2 and I think Maria is a disgrace to the all women.    I hope the gentleman who paid for 11 years, fought his ex-girlfriend and won will help Enrique.  HOORAY for him.  I think he could give Gloria a run for her money on this subject.  She is obnoxious. 

Quote From: ladypat26

 I didn't say it is right to lie, cheat and steal.  All of these things are wrong.  I am not defending the actions of the mother or the dad.  But, the 2nd wife is the disgusting person who made sure this was all brought out into the open NOW when the victim in this sad saga is a 10 year old child.  That is the main focus or should be right now.  No 10 yr old wants or needs this information.  She needs love and security and every responsible adult in her life should see to it that this is what she gets.

Quote From: terrbin

Any decent woman would also NOT want to be with a man who would abandon a beloved daughter he'd raised for ten years, even upon finding out she is not of his genes!!!  I'd wonder if my spouse was human if they reacted that way.  Hatred, anger, etc.. to the wife for her deceptions would be completely understood, but NOT abandoning one child and keeping the other!  People, this is a "civilized" nation.  Think about what that means for how we as a society choose to treat children who are used in this way.  It's unbelievable that many here can't even agree that a child's best interest (even if it means forcing a parent to help the child financially) MUST be our first consideration.  Children are helpless -- we hold their fate in our hands -- they are prey to our decisions --  they are also the FUTURE of each generation; therefore, they must be protected over and above the adult.

Quote From: cafowlkes

I have lived through this same situation.  My father payed child support for my younger sister for 18 years knowing she was nnt his child.  My dad knew and never said a word to any of us about this.  My mother and father divorced before she was born due to this and my mother made sure that my father was not able to see any of his children (there were two of us that were his).  From the time I was 6 until I turned 18 we did not know why our dad would not visit or want to see us.  My mother lied to us and said my dad left when he found out he was pregnant with my sister, he did not want her.  Once my brother and I turned 18 we went to see our dad and found out that my mother had him arrested 3 times because he tried to visit us.  We also found that there was documentation that he was not my sisters father and still payed child support because there was not DNA back in the 60's.  Even at this time he did not come out and tell us he was not her father.  We found out when my sister was 25, the truth came out right before my grandmother died.  This was over 15 years ago and my mother still will not tell the truth, she refuses to tell my sister who her father is.  At the request of my sister my father took a DNA test and confirmed the truth, he is not her father.  My mother took our father away from us at a young age, hurt my sister to the point where she has not been able to carry on a good relationship with a man.  She seems distant from them and is now possibly facing her second divorce.  My father had to give up his children and pretend they never existed after 7 years of raising us, this had hurt everyone and to this day over 40 years later my mother still will not admit she did something wrong and my father still has a problem with having a relationship with his children.  Not to mention that my sisters true father does not know she exists and she has no idea who he is, this is wrong.  I am a woman and these women that are going around and cheating the real father out of a relationship with their children needs to stop.  The courts are not helping with this.  There is more than just the right and wrong here, in some cases there are true medical concerns that these children should be made aware of and sometime don't know about until it is too late.  Why don't these women have to have some type of "restitution or payment" of truth of financial?  They are getting away with this and in the end it is just a oops I guess I didn't tell the truth.  This isn't just about the  money, but for most of these women - IT IS!

 

Let the truth be told!