Messages By: suthernthang24

My husband was a victim of Paternity Fraud. He asked her if the child was his while she was still pregnant, because her ex boyfriend told people it was his baby, and she lied and said her ex was just trying to start trouble. Long story short, she did cheat and she lied about the paternity.

Shouldn't men get to decide whether they even want to stay married to someone who cheated on them and whether to raise another man's baby?

Like Carnell said, DNA needs to be mandatory at each and every birth. This way men would KNOW for certain and he would get to make the decision for HIMSELF whether to raise another man's child or not. Either way, he would have a say so and it would be up to him, NOT the women!  I don't think the choice should be made FOR him.

Why should a man have to pay support for another man's child, just because maybe he makes more money than the bio dad, or just because she is afraid he will leave her? He still has a right to know the truth.

Right now, if a man finds out, most times he is still forced to pay support. Go after the bio dad, make the mother pay back every red cent to the man who had been paying support. Yes, sometimes there is a bond there and that's the only father the child has known, but would the man have ever had that bond to begin with had he known his wife cheated and the child wasn't even his??

What's so hard about making DNA testing mandatory at birth, whether you're married or not, and this would put  STOP to Paternity Fraud?!

Nope, she shouldn't, BUT it happens.....

The point being...a man should have a choice, it should NOT be made for him.

I think he should not have hand over financiall support to the woman who decieved him.  Let her go find the bio dad and let him support the child financially. Would the husband even have stayed in the marriage had he known his wife cheated and the child wasn't his? Who knowns? He was never given the choice!

What about the emotional bond she robbed the child of with her bio dad? He has missed out also.

And really, if you think about it, I don't think a woman should be able to go after a man out of the blue and demand child support from he bio dad and then they go back all those years and make him pay..it should start from the time he found out, because once again, it's her fault for waiting so long, plus she should have to pay back all the money she frauded the alleged father of.

I don't think the bio should should have to repay the ex-husband because it isn't his fault he never knew. I think the wife should have to repay the ex-husband, since she committed the fraud. I do believe the bio dad should have to pay from the day he finds out forward, but shouldn't have to pay any back support, since the mother CHOSE not to contact him and let him know to begin with like she should have done.

Just something to think about.
I agree with everything else though.

This shouldn't be about the "new" wife. This needs to be about the fact that the mother committed Paternity Fraud!

What does it matter WHY she brought it up? Maybe she had good reason, maybe not.

Besides, I'm sure she had no way of knowing what her husband's choice would be. And shouldn't he be allowed to make whatever choice he wants to since he obviously wasn't told in the beginnning there was a possibility it wasn't his child.

Enrique is only human and I can only imgine how heartbroken he was when he found out this devastating news.

The child is a victim in this, I agree 100%, but Enrique is also a victim.

Umm, yeah, it's the mother's fault 100%. The step mom never held a gun to Maria's head and forced her to get into bed with someone else while she was still married, and then keep it a secret that Enrique may not be the father.....Mia wasn't even in the picture then.

Just because the child lives with Maria doesn't mean she is taking responsibility for her actions. We don't know that she isn't badmouthing Enrique to her daughter every chance she gets. We don't know what is said.

Yes, maybe Enrique could have handled things differently, but we aren't the one who found out the wife cheated and got pregnant by someone else and that he child isn't ours......everyone reacts differently.

Umm, yeah, it's the mother's fault 100%. The step mom never held a gun to Maria's head and forced her to get into bed with someone else while she was still married, and then keep it a secret that Enrique may not be the father.....Mia wasn't even in the picture then.

Just because the child lives with Maria doesn't mean she is taking responsibility for her actions. We don't know that she isn't badmouthing Enrique to her daughter every chance she gets. We don't know what is said.

Yes, maybe Enrique could have handled things differently, but we aren't the one who found out the wife cheated and got pregnant by someone else and that he child isn't ours......everyone reacts differently.

Umm, yeah, it's the mother's fault 100%. The step mom never held a gun to Maria's head and forced her to get into bed with someone else while she was still married, and then keep it a secret that Enrique may not be the father.....Mia wasn't even in the picture then.

Just because the child lives with Maria doesn't mean she is taking responsibility for her actions. We don't know that she isn't badmouthing Enrique to her daughter every chance she gets. We don't know what is said.

Yes, maybe Enrique could have handled things differently, but we aren't the one who found out the wife cheated and got pregnant by someone else and that he child isn't ours......everyone reacts differently.

I think when Mia suggested a DNA test, that Enrique had a right to know. I don't know where you got that money is all he was worried about. There wouldn't even be an issue had the mother not committed Paternity Fraud.

Sounds like the mother is only interested in money.  If there were anything to her, she would have been honest to begin with and now that she is exposed, she is throwing blame everywhere but on herself.

Who cares if Mia suggested a DNA test? That's irrelevant.

Once exposed, the mother could have said she was sorry and told him he didn't have to pay support and ENCOURAGED visitation. But she didn't. Now.....who isn't putting the child first?

Money? The only money grubber I see is the mother........why didn't Maria go after the bio dad to begin with? Oh, yeah, maybe because she knew she would get child support from a MD....ya think?

Motives of the new wife? Who said she had a motive?

Her husband deserved to know the truth...the child deserves to know the truth.

How could Mia have known that the mother would show no remorse? How could Mia have known that the mother would not suggest him paying no child support and instead, encouraging visitation? How could Mia have known the outcome?

You are missing the real issue.....it's called Paternity FRAUD........

Mia never stuck a gun to the mother's head and made her cheat and get pregnant nor did she make the mother lie about the paternity.

You are right about one thing though.............IT WAS ALL ABOUT THE MONEY................to the MOTHER..........why would she go after the BIO dad for support when she can go after a MD??????

Congrats should go to the MOTHER.............no telling what all she got out of it all those years..........she WON for 10 years.....................AND BECAUSE OF THE MOTHER'S ACTIONS ALL THOSE YEARS AGO, YES, A CHILD WAS HURT OUT OF IT.

MAYBE YOU SWHOULD STOP AND THINK THAT THE MOTHER SHOULD HAVE THOUGHT ABOUT THE OUTCOME ALL THOSE YEARS AGO WHEN SHE MADE THE CHOICE TO KEEP QUIET ABOUT THE PATERNITY OF THE CHILD. NONE OF THIS WOULD BE HAPPENING IF SHE HAD DECIDED TO BE HONEST ABOUT THE PATERNITY.  MAYBE ENRIQUE WOULD HAVE WALKED AWAY FROM THE BEGINNING.

I do feel bad for the child, but she also deserves to know her bio dad and HER BIO DAD DESERVES TO KNOW HER.

She brought up deadbeat dads.....this show wasn't about deadbeat dads, it was about Paternity Fraud.

That is just as big an issue as deadbeat dads, if not worse.

What damage has he caused? What were your words...."done more damage to women everywhere trying to get what they need to raise their children"...............he hasn't done that...........I think what you meant was..Carnell has damaged women from "father shopping".......you know, going after the man who makes more money, rather than going after the bio dad, who more than likely, makes either nothing or next to nothing.

I don't think Carnell would have a problem supporting his OWN child. Did you not hear  him? He paid support on a child for 11 years, who come to find out, wasn't his. You're just assuming he has a child out there. If he does and doesn't know about, the fault would lie with the MOTHER out there, for failing to tell him.