Messages By: lmbookerossie

What happened to Enrique is unfortunate.  But the real victim is Selina.  He abandoned her, as if what happened were her fault.

 

No, I don't feel that he should pay child support for a child that is not his, but he helped raise her for ten years.  And to up and leave her like that is just wrong.  He could have still been a part of her life.

 

I feel sorry for what happened to Selina, and I pray that she will learn to forgive Enrique and her Mom, for the pain that she has endured.

Watching yesterday's show brought up feelings in me that I thought were dealt with.  Growing up, my dad (may he now R.I.P.) was an alcoholic--not to the lady's extent on the show, but he was an alcoholic.  So was my two older brothers.  So, I know what it's like to grow up in a dysfunctional family.  All of the arguments and fights.  All of the sadness and depression.  I struggled in school, because there was too much chaos to focus on my studies at times.  The older I got, the more I stayed away from home--just so I could have peace.  And I vowed to never marry a man who was an alcoholic.  I broke that vow to myself.  Not only did I marry a man who is an alcoholic, but he's also a drug addict, too.  Needless to say, we've had our ups and downs (more downs than ups, though).  I feel helpless and miserable at times.  But, through my faith in God, I'm surviving.  I don't want to leave my husband, because I love him--I just hate what he does, and the shape both of our lives are in at the moment.  It seems like we can't get ahead, no matter how hard we try.  I never thought that my life would be this way.  I'm so torn right now.

The first guest on the show, really had a lot of minor complaints compared to the second couple.  They really had a nuptial nightmare.  I hope that she will count her blessings that even though things didn't quite go how she had planned, that at least no one nearly died at her wedding.

If my son were to ever raise his hand to hit me, I would have knocked him on the ground and he would have to have had help to get up.  I understand that he 'wanted to show her how it felt' but, I'm sorry.  How I was raised, you wouldn't dare do that--you wouldn't even dare dream about doing that!  How disrespectful!  But you know what, I don't blame him in a way, because had the mom done what she was supposed to have done from the time he was old enough to understand, he wouldn't have had the guts to do something like that.  I know Dr. Phil doesn't believe in spanking, but I do.  I don't believe in abusing, but I do believe in discipline.  And what that child needs is a good old-fashioned butt whipping!

There is a big difference between spanking and abusing.  And by the way, I don't have children.  But when I do have them, I'm sure they won't hit me, because they would know better.  Children need discipline (spare the rod, you spoil the child--that's what my Bible says).  And since I am a firm believer in what the Bible says, my child will be taught in the ways of the Lord.  You are entitled to your viewpoint and I'm entitled to mine.  But to hurl insults at me, is wrong.  I pray that you will see things in a different light.  I never said to abuse.  Some people don't know how to give spankings without leaving marks and whelts.  I'm not talking about that kind of spanking.  But what that child did, how can you defend that kind of behavior?!  That is absurd.

Dr. Phil, I just want to thank you for doing shows like this.  It inspires me to keep doing what I am doing.  Though I may not be financially able to help various charities, I do devote hours each day encouraging and uplifting and inspiring people by sending out inspirational devotions and praying for them.  It does my heart good to know that people like you, care for our youth.  Their lives could have turned out to be so different, but you gave them hope by supporting their endeavors.  May you and your family always be blessed.