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October 29, 2007, 3:36 pm PDT

Embarrased to be a woman sometime

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Women who pass their kids off as someone else's should be ashamed of themselves.  It is women like that who make it hard for women like me.  My ex husband has been denying our 18 year old son since before he was born.  Never mind that I have always been willing to have my son tested.  He is over $20.000 behind in child support and hasn't seen my son in 11 years.  I thank God for my current husband; a real man who has taken on the responsibility of being my son's "dad".

I couldn't believe my eyes when I started watching Maury's show on how many woman that knew in their heart that they have slept with another man or many men and blamed some man for being the father of their child ,and when the results come back that the man is not the father, they go running off the stage crying, and screaming! It makes me sick and even embarrased to be a woman sometimes! There should be a law in place, if she tells you that she is pregnant, someone with a paternity test should be present and it should be manditory that both parties take it! This should cut out the welfare rolls, all of the lies and the B.S. Any woman that would stoop so low to keep a man, or to get money through child support should be ordered to pay that money back to the man, get jail time and maybe get the child taken away from you b/c you are not a mother, that makes you a golddiggin' h--!! And it's not about the child, if he IS NOT THAT CHILD'S FATHER, then he SHOULD NOT have to take care of it! It seems to me that Selena was relieved to know that that man was not her father, he probabaly did not let her do what she wanted to do and this stepfather seems more like he's trying to be her friend, instead of a father figure! I feel as though she will get over it! And to the mother, she needs to sit her child down and tell her who her real father is and go find him! Nasty A-- women make me sick!!  I agree with you to the lady that wrote this: Women like her makes it bad for a dam good woman like me!! I fought in the gulf war for my kids!!! Get a job and stop laying on your backs!! From A real woman!!

 
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October 29, 2007, 4:09 pm PDT

Find the man that you laid down with

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i don't think your paying attention.  you have a valid point that women shouldn't have to support children on their own; however, don't pen the blame on someone that YOU know isn't responsible for the support.  That's just WRONG!!!!  If you need and want the support, then seek it from the right man!!

I agree with you !!!!!!! find the man that you laid down with!!

 
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October 29, 2007, 4:17 pm PDT

It's her responsibility to be mindful of who she is laying down with!

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Are you saying it is more the woman's responsibility to provide and take care of the child?

 it's the woman's responsibility to know who the father of her child is !!

 
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October 29, 2007, 4:31 pm PDT

10/29 Parent Trap

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What are you talking about? You sound like a racist person... why are you saying that women from OTHER countries come here to have children with americans for the money?  That is sooo wrong...  I want to know where are you getting the information from...  I am not saying it doesn't happen at all but you can't say it is an epidemic... American women actually do that, why blame the rest of the world.  Please!  There are plenty of AMERICAN single moms with 2, 3, 4 children from different fathers collecting child support and living under government assistance. 

 Yeah what are you talking about?? Nobody Here in "america" belongs here but the "American" Indians lady !!  Now you go look at some stats!!
 
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October 29, 2007, 7:07 pm PDT

Poor Poor Little Selena! Yeah Right!

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I have paid child support for over 25 years. What the parent spends the money on is nobodies business but the parents. They may choose to spend it on hair-dos and manicures,,,so what?,,,all that will do is free up some of their own cash so they have more to spend on the child. I also feel that a man should pay child support even if the child is not his,,unless it was a short marriage or union. The thing that is important is the child. The child support will help the child to live a life closer to what they were accustomed to when the people were together and that is what is most important.

And then the child grows up and give you their behinds to kiss! I took in my husband's eight children from a woman that was glad that I had her kids! I would have to go to her house and drag her behind around my house to help out with her kids! I was not on welfare with them, I used the little money that I had and made sure everyone was fed clothed and the whole nine, did homework, put them in church, etc. and he wind up going back to her and leaving their eight kids with me, now you tell me what's wrong with this picture? I Called the state to come get them because I was suffering from gulf war illness, trying to raise 8 kids until they got up in age and start running away, talking back, all because I ran a military household and I wasn't having it! First thing out of their mouths was you're not my mom! so I put everybody out! So you have to watch kids too they are very manipulative when they want something! I don't care what nobody say I watched that little girl and it seems to me that she was glad that he was not her father and the stepdad act like he wanted to be more her friend than her father because she gets her way with him! That's what I believe!

 
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October 29, 2007, 7:13 pm PDT

Well said!

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You said, that "The mother is required to name a possible father (if not married)".  They were married at the time she was born so therefore your argument is null and void in this particular case.  This man was not served with a Summons and Complaint and had no reason to believe his wife would have cheated on him and then lied about it.  When are the mothers that start all this crap going to be held accountable for their actions?!  So ok, lets say he has to continue to pay child support, then she needs to have consequences for the mess she created. Statistically, there is way to many women that abuse their legal rights and use the children to their personal and financial benefit.  Nobody addresses that issue.  He wouldnt have been in this mess in the first place if he could trust his wife like your suppose to be able to do in a Marriage, you know a "legal relationship".

 

I agree with you 100% well said!!
 

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